Going to bed at 8:30 on holiday

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On holiday with DH & kids.
I have turned in at 8:30 after a great day at the beach. DH was planning on going to the lounge area to seeing what's going on, with eldest DC, aged 10.
Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time. DH has agreed, although it took some convincing. He said I was being strange. Am I?

A life lived in fear is a life half lived.

Totally normal for a grown up to say “I’m exhausted, heading to bed early.” Telling dh and dc they needed to stay in the room rather than go to the hotel lounge is weird. They could go to the lounge and play uno or something but instead need to stay and silently exist so they don’t disturb your sleep. So bizarre. And not trusting dh not to leave the hotel in a strange city? Also bizarre. He’s a grown ass man.

If you're worried about being in an unfamiliar place why do you go on holiday?

You're on holiday, but in life generally every time you go to a new place for the first time it's a strange city/place, for want of a better word.
As long as its not dodge city they'll be fine.

Do you suffer from anxiety? Most people do go explore on holiday even at night.

So if you think your being rational - What was the point of the thread????

Ridiculous. By all means go to bed at 8.30 (which is extremely early by any standards), but why on earth shouldn't your husband go downstairs or out? It's not particularly late for a 10 year old either, so your DS should be fine with your DH. Amazed your DH agreed to stay in the room.

Why on earth would it be a problem for you DH to take his child out of the hotel. Even if it's a new city he can navigate with Google maps. Your are not being rational.

You're being absolutely absurd! Most people would just be going out to dinner at 8.30, not going to bed. We never went to bed early when our daughter was young - surely you stay up late BECAUSE you're on holiday. Being out late when you're away is one of the exciting things for children when they're on holiday. And as for you expecting your husband to not leave the hotel, that's just ridiculous.

Are you not feeling well? Is 8.30 your usual bedtime? Have you never been abroad before?

Where are you? Is it a particularly rough part of the city?

Are you planning to go to bed so early all holiday?

Sorry I think yabu, on holiday we're going for a late night dinner or stroll at 8pm!!! And my kids are young, I also wouldn't be making my husband stay in ...

It's not normal and you should see someone about your misplaced anxieties.
It's not normal to want to be in bed at 8.30 while on holiday either. You clearly have issues.

This

Not all worry is rational. How bizarre that you think that!?!

Why does he need to do what you want so controlling

This a wind up?

You are not and it is not.

You sound boring, controlling and YABU. It is a HOLIDAY, Your poor DS.

Your tune is not everybody else's.

Believe me it’s anything but normal. 🙄

I read a lot of batshit stuff on the forum but honestly this thread is in the top 5, probably even top 3 if you insist you are being rational about this!

Oh for gods sake how awful.let him be free please

OP, i wonder if tiredness is clouding your thinking. I was extremely ill on holiday and some nights had no choice but to lie down but I fully expected my kids to be taken out and given a good holiday. Either at hotel emtertainment or around the area. I would be unfair to insist everyone stay in the room just because I needed to. If they were shattered and wanted to stay in then it would be different. Hope you see sense for rest of holiday so everyone can enjoy.

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Seriously, though.

Unless you are holidaying in a war zone or your DH is suffering from a TBI, there is no legitimate reason he can’t leave the hotel with your child. Is there a reason you don’t trust them outside? Being in a different city isn’t enough for a reasonable person. When you return home, you need to talk with a doctor about your irrational fears. They are limiting your family’s lives along with your own.

Um, no ....

It might be normal to be a bit wary of a strange city, but it's not normal for that anxiety to dictate what others may not do.

And it's actually not normal to stay inside out of fear. Unless you're in a war zone!

If you are nervous, arm yourself with information. Work out the safest way to get places, and speak to the local staff at your hotel. Have an escape plan if you are so anxious that you catastrophise. But it's not rational to be so worried that you require a grown man to stay in a hotel room at 8:30pm.

There are places in the world I've been to where I am super careful (for example, I wouldn't walk around Moscow by myself at night, but St Petersburg is relatively OK in the tourist areas).