Going to bed at 8:30 on holiday

[Sharingshared]

On holiday with DH & kids.
I have turned in at 8:30 after a great day at the beach. DH was planning on going to the lounge area to seeing what's going on, with eldest DC, aged 10.
Ive asked him to stay in the hotel room because I don't see the point of going out at this time. DH has agreed, although it took some convincing. He said I was being strange. Am I?

He's an adult. You're not in Beirut.

Really selfish. You can stay in but I do t know why they can’t go out just because you don’t see the point???

I honestly thought this was a reverse.
making everyone on holiday stay stuck in a hotel room is really being unreasonable

Why on earth did you choose the city to go on holiday if the thought of your DH going out of the hotel worries you?

There is nothing wrong with you going to bed early but to expect your husband to just sit in the room that early is incredibly selfish.

You’re absolutely not being rational at all.

This is not normal @Sharingshared

Yes.

Me on holiday i dont sleep well i might get a few hours.

I'm still following for the next weird update !

No, you're being bonkers and weird. Holidays are for exploring the place you have gone to!!

Rational? Normal?

Are you the sort who thinks an AI in Benidorm with fry-ups and fish'n'chips is travelling?

What on earth are you doing going abroad if not to visit a 'strange' city?

Is it strange as in peculiar? Or strange as in foreign?

Is your DH over 16yo? Is there any specific reason to question his ability to leave a hotel after 8.30pm anywhere in the world other than where you live?

So many questions, none of them with possibly rational or normal answers.

It's your choice to go to bed at the same time as a young child. If he wants to go out with one of his children that's fine ... very odd indeed!

OP...why have you come on holiday to a "strange city"...?

Unless you’re in Gotham you’re being nutso. Wait until your kids want to out alone!

Where are you on holiday?

It's really not normal. Not one big normal.

YAB massively U and controlling and a crap example to show to your kids!

What is normal in Spain is that having had a siesta families gather in the square, in bars, cafes, ice cream shops or just in benches, to chat and enjoy the evening while the kids play out in the square. Often til midnight. It’s lovely.

Actually I have also seen this in Turkey and Greece.

If you are in Spain , a Spanish part of Spain not a Brit stronghold, I hope your DH and Ds go out for an ice cream and enjoy themselves.

How bizarre. That's what holidays are , you go and explore new places.

' strange city ' no....isn't that the whole point of visiting new places - to explore and discover.

City with a beach, so where are you ...Barcelona ?

I feel very sorry for the rest of the family and their cramped life. Why bother going on holiday. It's all about exploring new places and having fun. Next year, you stay home, they can go.

Unless you’re in downtown Mogadishu on holiday, no, I don’t think it’s normal to worry about your DH and a ten year old going out of the hotel at 8.30 pm.

You are not being rational at all, and it’s not normal to be worried about a grown man leaving a hotel at 8.30pm in a holiday destination.

Bonkers, weird, strange..
All of the above.
Yes, you're tired and you have every right to go to bed.
But your DH and DC are on holiday too, they're fully entitled to go and explore and see what's going on in the lounge (imo growing up, that's what holidays abroad were all about!)
I struggle with huge anxiety, and I don't even think I would stop them.
In the mean time.. you've talked your husband out of going, and you're not sleeping like you wanted as you're posting on here. 🙄

I was eating gelato at midnight last week, with DH and two primary aged DCs. The ice cream place in our local little town was busier at midnight that it was at 2pm. You’re missing a whole part of the experience of being in a new place if you don’t experience it at night. Doesn’t have to be every night of course and everyone likes an early night now and then but to force others to stay in with you when they clearly want to go out is definitely strange. Do you often do this?

No...this really isn't being rational at all!

Heh, that reminds me of when DP and I went to Barcelona. Day 3, I was 'shall we go to the beach' he was all 'i thought it was a city break, is there a beach?' I reminded him about Ben Ainslie and the 92 Olympics, he was embarrassed, we got on a metro for 3 stops and had a lovely day. I still laugh at him about it though, it was why I'd booked it, both City and beach.