Moral dilemma. What would you do?

[Halftheworldawayy]

On the train back from London I overheard the conversation of the woman sat next to me.

It was her birthday and her and two friends (friend A and E) had gone to Magic Mike. Friend E had got so drunk that she fell asleep in the bar at Magic Mike and had almost got them kicked out. They went out for more drinks after the show and both friends were hammered.

They got on the underground to go home, Friend E jumped off at a random stop to be sick, Friend A jumped off at a next stop to find her. Birthday girl (not hammered) stayed on the tube all the way to the train station.

When birthday girl got to the station neither friend was there so she gets on the train to go home. Friend A keeps ringing her in tears saying she can’t find Friend E and birthday girl tells her to leave her and get the train as Friend E will eventually sober up and get the train herself.

They also both kept trying to call Friend E and it was going to voicemail.

Birthday girl felt no guilt at all about leaving her friends and repeatedly said “they needed to man up” “handle their drink better”. I do agree to a point as these women were easily late 30s/early 40s and I get how frustrating it is as a grown adult to babysit drunk adults. But I’m not sure I would have abandoned both friends.

Depends on the back story... maybe this is the millionth time that A has acted in this way, and she is at her limit. Maybe she told them to stop drinking, maybe she told them she would be getting this train home regardless.

Or maybe she is just a stuck-up bitch. Anyway, they are clearly all adults capable of making adult decisions and dealing with the consequences.

Hahaha the woman actually also kept saying “I don’t feel guilty” so yes I took that to mean she didn’t feel guilty.

And yes I will judge adults that continually go out and not know their limits, and expect to be looked after and don’t give a shit if it ruins their friends nights. Whether that’s what happened here I wouldn’t know so I’m not judging anyone, I’m simply saying an overarching statement that applies to many people.

Abandoning them .. I don’t know if she’s right or wrong. I’d find it worse to leave someone in a city that’s not home. But then if they can’t be found and can’t be reached on the phone then there’s very little you can do.

Wow, who needs enemies when you have friends like 'birthday girl' 🙄 Definitely should have stuck together. Friend E sounded extremely vulnerable in that moment and I'd hate to think what could have happened.

Ah… the classic ‘hover over the new post section and be first to be a dick and try and derail the thread’ reply. Good Lord… stop it! It’s so old!

Meh. These are grown women. All three probably should have jumped off at the same stop so A could be sick, and the birthday girl probably should have got off with E at the next stop, although I can’t see what good it would do either of them getting off. Did E hope to get the tube back a stop and find A there? I’d say that the chances of that happening were low. A would have either waited for the next train or went outside the station and got home another way eg taxi. So E was probably wasting her time. No doubt birthday girl was just sick of their carry on, tired and wanted to get home, don’t really blame her.

Several years ago my good Samaritan daughter found a girl crying in the gutter in London, she was very drunk and had been abandoned by her friends, she gave the girl her coat and brought her home. We sobered her up, got her cleaned up, she got a few hours sleep in the spare bed and then daughter took her to the station, making sure she was on the right train to get home. She still collects waifs and strays but has her own place!!