Is DH thick as mince?

[maftin]

We are abroad on hol atm, 6th floor room.
DH took DD,4, back for a snack and play in our room at hottest part of day.
Over dinner tonight he told me he left DD playing on the balcony while he had a shower. It's a glass wall shorter than she is with a little wall she could also climb up.
He says she is very sensible, sees no issue at all, I am fucking livid he did this. AIBU?

YANBU.

Dear god, yup he's thick as mince. Is he normally so stupid?

Glad your DD was ok

Literally brain dead tbh

He is wrong, obviously but what a horrible thing to say about your husband.

YANBU. On our holiday this year DH wouldn’t let out almost 7yr olds on the balcony alone even though the wall was a head taller than them. It’s never worth the risk.

I think it's on point here. Who the hell does that?!

Of course Yanbu and if this is real (I struggle to believe it is because surely no one would actually do this) then I would be considering my future with him because he cannot be trusted to be a decent parent.

I think in this case it is entirely warranted.

She isn’t safe in his ‘care’, clearly.

He's not very risk aware but I wouldn't describe him in that way. If concerned I'd leave him and hope he can't be arsed with contact

I feel sick reading that and I'm pretty chilled.

He’s neglectful that’s for sure. Clearly not fit to be in charge of the care of a child.

Constructive stupidity I'd guess, now he won't have to look after DD on his own again this holiday!

He is wrong, obviously but what a horrible thing to say about your husband mince

I feel offended on behalf of all mince. It would not be so stupid as to have done this

Yanbu. That is absolutely ridiculous.

even though that is not a sensible idea the balcony from how you describe doesn’t sound safe

So the balcony is shorter than a 4 year old? Or its, a wall bit with glass top half?
But obviously shouldn't leave a 4 year old on a balcony alone.

If my husband did this I would be using far worse adjectives to describe him than “thick as mince”.
Your DH obviously sees nothing wrong with what he did so I wouldn’t let him take her to the room alone again for any reason at all.

YANBU I'd be fuming too.

Hard to say how safe it is from your description but I doubt I'd leave my 9 and 6 year olds on a balcony like that. Let alone a 4 year old!!

Wtf, YADNBU! And I would have called him worse as well

God I'm almost having a panic attack at the thought and let's just say professionally I've seen a lot of bad parental judgement. I wouldn't leave him in charge of a potato! There's weaponised incompetent then there's this which needs it's own category. Is he normally this ridiculous or has he lost his mind as you're on holiday?

I think this was an extremely mild comment in the circumstances

He's insane. I don't know a single person who would even consider this - he either knew it was dangerous and did it anyway, or has no understanding of children and safety. Either way, you cannot leave him alone with her again.

This is a selfish, stupid man. I would be incandescent.

If it comes to you leaving him (as has been suggested by others here) will he want to have contact?
because if he does he will get it and it will be torture for you, I’m so sorry.

Well not really, given she’s imagining scraping her daughter off the patio below. I am not a worrier about safety without good cause, but that is insane.

He’s either an idiot OP or he knows nothing about 4 year olds. Maybe send him a couple of articles about kids killed falling off balconies and out of windows.

YANBU!! What was he thinking! If you ask my dc what a balcony is for, their answer is “drying clothes” they are NOT allowed on a balcony unattended on holiday at all for any reason and they are 11 and 8! Too many children fall off balconies! It’s terrible 😞