Is DH thick as mince?

[maftin]

We are abroad on hol atm, 6th floor room.
DH took DD,4, back for a snack and play in our room at hottest part of day.
Over dinner tonight he told me he left DD playing on the balcony while he had a shower. It's a glass wall shorter than she is with a little wall she could also climb up.
He says she is very sensible, sees no issue at all, I am fucking livid he did this. AIBU?

Given your OP, I think you're being generous and insulting mince.

Was it strategic and a white lie? Now he will not have to supervise DD on his own again.

Still not sure why he told the OP. Housekeeping? I cannot make this all out. If he was sneaky enough to chance a shower why not put the Do not Disturb sign on the door?

Anyway, why would telling the OP have had any effect on housekeeping coming in? I'm very confused now. It's all very odd to me anyway.

Do you know what fucks me off about this. I am now thinking that when I go away to a similar scenario I must remember to say to my DH “don’t leave the kids unsupervised on the balcony, don’t go off for a nap or a shower”. And by doing that I might prevent a tragedy. And if I don’t do that and something happens it wouldn’t be DH’s fault, it’d be mine for not having foreseen it.
Sorry. Ignore me.
OP - sorry that happened. Hope you can relax sometime during your kid’s childhood.

That balcony isn’t safe for anyone by the sounds of it. A glass wall a bit taller than a 4 year old? Once she is stood on a 20cm ledge. So about 120cms altogether?

Yes he is as stupid as you get. Hopefully he won’t ever be as mindless again.
Let him read all the responses to know that you’re not the only one who thinks this.

Nowhere near as horrible as what could have happened!

Fuck me.Inwont even let sensible ds 10 on balcony on holiday.

People die every summer from falling off balconies in holiday, how often does he think they come to harm from housekeeping staff?

I don't like the expression thick as mince but in this case he is

What a bloody idiot. Hopefully he now knows how dangerous this was.

Was there a chair and/or table on the balcony too? This always gives me the absolute fear as children can use them as a step to climb onto.

Some people seem to lose all common sense on holiday. Once watched a couple leave their young kids in the toddler pool to go for lunch, maybe 4 & 5yrs old, they said it was fine because it was only shallow, as if that wasn't bad enough it was only a step over into the main much deeper pool.

I'm going to hide this now as some of the replies are getting a bit odd.
DD is very tall so she's in age 7 clothes. No we didn't check the height of the balconies or know what room we were going to be in, the hotel is full of families, it's 8 floors high.
He was incredibly stupid but he's not playing mind games.

I feel anxious just reading this!

I’d be fuming. But I’d also be scared leaving my kids with Dh which is so sad

I went cold reading that.

I think I'd have to send him out of my sight for several days and I'd still utterly furious.

I'm hoping this is made up (though I hear you say not so). But who would take take a cavalier risk with a young child life, as though very young children would have any clue of the consequences of following their curiosity or whatever little spontaneous thing might see them exploring over the wall.

Bloody hell! It really doesn’t bear thinking about OP. Somebody up there likes your DD. Thank goodness she’s ok.

So not shorter than dd…. Lol then it’s not the same thing

My husband is more laissez faire than me and does things I wouldn’t but he has always preferred a holiday somewhere on the ground floor because he’s scared of small children and balconies. There is literally no way he’d have left a 4yo alone on a balcony that height.

I wouldn't stay in a place that is potentially so risky, no more than I would book a villa with an open pool with young children.
Things happen in a second.

That really does take the stupidity biscuit

My blood ran cold reading your first post.
Has he not seen any news this summer? Several young adults have died falling over balconies in Spain and Ibiza iirc.
What a stupid man.

You're on the 6th floor with a balcony wall shorter than a 4 year old?

Yes, he's an idiot. But who designed that??

He is wrong, obviously but what a horrible thing to say about your husband
I'd say it was pretty accurate to be fair.

definitely thick as shit that one

@maftin

He only told you because some other adult or family in another room nearby saw !

What a load of bullshit about being concerned that housekeeping may come in to do the room whilst he is in the shower - is there no ' do not disturb ' signs ?

p.s. he is more than as thick as mince, he is a fucking idiot !!!

If he's not stupid he must be homicidal - which would you prefer?

Thick as mince is a very generous description. There are a few other names that come to mind!