Is DH thick as mince?

[maftin]

We are abroad on hol atm, 6th floor room.
DH took DD,4, back for a snack and play in our room at hottest part of day.
Over dinner tonight he told me he left DD playing on the balcony while he had a shower. It's a glass wall shorter than she is with a little wall she could also climb up.
He says she is very sensible, sees no issue at all, I am fucking livid he did this. AIBU?

He is, indeed, an idiot.

Jesus Christ, that's absolutely fucking terrifying. 100% YANBU.

I’d have fainted into my dinner !!! Are you sure he isn’t winding you up?

Something is not adding up for me here.

So he TOLD you he had left her unattended on the balcony whilst he was in the shower. Doesn't that seem an odd thing to say? Everything was fine and there was no need for him to say anything that would make him look like a neglectful idiot.

So has DD said something like "Daddy let me play on the balcony by myself, cos I'm a big girl now" etc., i.e. did she let the cat out of the bag?

Either way he is an idiot to take a chance like that with a young child. But why did he tell you I'm wondering?

Moron

No she didn't.
He told me because he made a point about housekeeping coming round and he didn't want an unknown male coming in while he was in the shower.

Jeez, awful parenting. Thank goodness your 4 year old is sensible. My 4 year old would be dead in this scenario as he would have climbed over, they are far too young to be left near obvious hazards like this at 4. He IS thick as mince. I really hope he can understand how stupid this is and never do it again.

We stayed in a posh Portuguese villa. Ds 4 tried to be Spiderman and climb the wall. It was shorter than him and he did nearly go over the top.... I am sure my first grey hair appeared that summer... Was only the upstairs not 6th floor...

There is another aspect to this that may come across as judgmental, I'm sorry to offend.

Why did you book a 6th floor room with such an obviously dangerous balcony? It just takes a minute with your attention elsewhere for something awful to happen.

I have seen a lot of men out with their kids, putting their children in risky situations :-

-one was in the Range and put the baby on the cutting board (where they cut the fabric) to allow her to crawl along the edge for me to gasp and the baby fall! I was livid and i accidentally swore very loudly! (He was inspecting a lamp)

• countless men letting their kids sit in the smaller trolleys( so no designated seat putting the child where the groceries would go) - children who are less than a year old- I mean just typing this is making me angry! I’m not talking about the bigger trolleys - the small ones!

-Another allowing his son ,who was less than two yrs old) run ahead of him on a pavement of a busy road . And yes I did say something to him (!)

• my own DH put my 2.5 year old on the. Bonnet of our 4x4 and stood well back to take a picture . My son is a fidget bottom (He was near the edge of bonnet so not even properly on)

To be completely honest, I saw your post title and thought instantly - do we share the same husband?

Fucking hell he’s an idiot. Don’t ever trust him
with DD again.

“He feels awful..”
not as awful as he or you or your little daughter would feel if the worst had happened. I’m having rage on your behalf.

It’s not ideal, but you can keep the door to the balcony locked, so I think no need to derail the thread with this.

The balcony wall was shorter than a four year old? I mean….that’s a balcony with no wall essentially.

Near where I live, two young children and a toddler have fallen to their deaths from balconies this summer. So bloody negligent on the parents' part!

Your OH is careless in the extreme.

FML

The epitome of weaponise incompetence.

I’m more shocked there’s a 6th floor balcony with a wall the height of a 4 year old. That’s not right and I’d refuse to stay there. Can you move rooms?

Well if he feels awful maybe this will be a wake up call for him.

I must say, my son would have more than likely climbed over at that age. Your husband is VERY lucky that nothing happened.

If the balcony wall is shorter than a four year old, they it's about 3 foot high. That goes against all health and safety regulations and I'm surprised people aren't falling off the balconies all over the place!

Completely irresponsible but what I find weird is that he specifically told you her whereabouts which looks to me that he wanted you to feel anxious and distressed about what might have happened is she had lent over and fell six storeys.

Maybe he didn't actually let her and just said he did if he's playing horrible mind games with you.

There is no other aspect, give over. Don't pretend like you know exactly what every balcony or security measure looks like when you book a hotel room.

I consider myself pretty laid back about most things but I feel slightly sick reading that. I'd be livid with him!

An 11year old girl in my locality died last month after falling off a balcony in Mallorca.the utter sadness at the funeral was heartbreaking.Her mother did the eulogy.you are not overreacting.

Agree.

Stressful reading.
What sort of moron risks his childs life for a shower.
OP, you now know he cannot be trusted.
That should change everything for you.
I couldn't look at a man who would be so cavalier with my childs life.
Completely unforgivable.