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To think this FB meme is mean and spiteful?

198 replies

KimberleyClark · 23/08/2024 10:33

Plenty of comments underneath about small man syndrome.

To think this FB meme is mean and spiteful?
OP posts:
Loveandhatred · 23/08/2024 11:35

BeyondOlympicLevelProcrastinator · 23/08/2024 11:29

Try being a woman who's near six foot and tell me women aren't made fun of for their height Hmm

I didn't say they didn't

ChallahPlaiter · 23/08/2024 11:36

Oh the grammar! My eyes are bleeding.

Yes it’s unkind with misogynistic undertones. But that’s the internet for you. That genie will never go back in its bottle.

AgileGreenSeal · 23/08/2024 11:37

sunnymountains · 23/08/2024 10:53

I think with the way men treat and talk about woman it's fair play tbh.

The fact that some people are horrible to others isn’t a reason to be horrible to someone else. That’s insane.

CaptainMyCaptain · 23/08/2024 11:37

5128gap · 23/08/2024 10:53

Of course it's mean and spiteful. That's likely to be a pretty unanimous opinion I'd have thought. So what are you inviting us to discuss OP? Because I'm not sure I'd have put something mean and spiteful into greater circulation just so we could all agree it's not very nice?

Exactly. Why did you post the meme on here? I wouldn't even have seen it otherwise.

Moveoverdarlin · 23/08/2024 11:37

I just couldn’t get worked out about this. Same as a blonde joke wouldn’t bother me (I’m blonde).

5128gap · 23/08/2024 11:38

KimberleyClark · 23/08/2024 10:57

Some of the responses are strangely defensive.

Well, what do you expect really? You decide to share an insulting meme about short men with us. You did that.
Most of us probably hadn't even seen it, let alone decided to share it on one of the highest traffic sites they could find. You did that.
You ask a silly question about whether it's mean, when it quite clearly is, and for what purpose? Are we meant to be discussing whether there should be greater monitoring of sites so such things should not be posted and circulated, (remember, circulated and who did that) or what?
Because it seems to me this is just yet another thread where you tell women off about short men. Women who've not said a thing about them until someone chose to share a spiteful meme on MN. And again. You did that.

AgileGreenSeal · 23/08/2024 11:38

Loveandhatred · 23/08/2024 11:35

I didn't say they didn't

Seems the old adage “two wrongs don’t make a right” is lost on some people. 🤷🏼‍♀️

KimberleyClark · 23/08/2024 11:38

AgileGreenSeal · 23/08/2024 11:37

The fact that some people are horrible to others isn’t a reason to be horrible to someone else. That’s insane.

And it’s not like short guys specifically are wholly responsible for the shit thrown at women.

OP posts:
Crumpledfrock · 23/08/2024 11:39

There's loads of mean stuff on the internet, what was it about this one that stuck out to you op ?

cupcaske123 · 23/08/2024 11:39

Loveandhatred · 23/08/2024 10:45

People are awful to short men. It's disgusting.

Women don't get relentlessly mocked for being short in my experience but do get infantalised. Short men get a much harder time of it.

Women don't get mocked for their appearance? That's a new one.

ChanelBoucle · 23/08/2024 11:40

It’s not even funny.

SweetBirdsong · 23/08/2024 11:42

itsgoingtobeabumpyride · 23/08/2024 11:05

Yeah, it's not particularly funny.
I worked with a short chap who told me that when he left school in the 80's he wanted to go in the forces, too short, then tried the police, too short.
He then applied for the rail industry and his height was mentioned and he said he cried, thought his life was over because of his height, he said he couldn't even get a job stacking shelves, too short.
He got a job in the rail industry which is when I met him.
So yeah, it's not funny

Poor bloke. Sad

I used to know a man who was not even that short really - 5 ft 6 and a half. He had 3 brothers who were 6 ft 1, 6 ft 2, and 6 ft 3. He was royally mocked all his life by them, and the dad who was 6 ft 2, (and called all kinds of short person related names!) And other relatives and neighbours and family friends and colleagues took the piss too. Him having tall brothers, (and a tall dad,) made it even worse for him (than it would have been if he had just been a man of 5 ft 6 and a half - with no tall brothers and a tall dad.)

They were relentless about the 'short-arse brother.' He was never as successful in life as them, and was a very insecure person who never became a high achiever. I do wonder actually, if it was because he was a bit on the short side for a man, or because of all the mocking and deriding about his height. I suspect the latter.

My grandfather was 5 ft 4 and a half inches, and a very successful businessman, who was never short of attention from the ladies. (Much to the annoyance of my grandmother!) A bit like Mike Baldwin from Coronation Street. Mike was only 5 ft 5", but was a successful businessman, and never had shortage of attention from women!

And my cousin (female) is 5 ft 0, and her DH 5 ft 3 and a half, and their 3 sons are all 5 ft 4 to 5 ft 5. All very good looking and successful professionals, with very attractive wives. (one of them 3" taller than him, the other two the same height.) So being a bit shorter (as a man) can affect his life, and success at work, and his ability to form relationships. But it doesn't have to be that way if he can battle through the mocking, and just get on with his life, and try not to let his height have any affect on anything.

Easier said than done I know!

TheClawDecides · 23/08/2024 11:43

cupcaske123 · 23/08/2024 11:39

Women don't get mocked for their appearance? That's a new one.

Did you even read the PP's post that you quoted?

It clearly doesn't state that women don't get mocked for their appearance?

SweetBirdsong · 23/08/2024 11:44

cupcaske123 · 23/08/2024 11:39

Women don't get mocked for their appearance? That's a new one.

Loveandhatred · Today 10:45

This poster said

People are awful to short men. It's disgusting.

Women don't get relentlessly mocked for being short in my experience but do get infantalised. Short men get a much harder time of it.

She said women don't get mocked for being short, but do get infantalised She didn't say women don't get mocked for their appearance!

ArabellaFishwife · 23/08/2024 11:45

Of course it's mean. And childish, and completely unnecessary. As is mocking women for the crime of getting older, or fatter, or having the wrong attributes in the first place: tits that are too big, tits that are too small, the wrong colour hair, being too tall, etc, etc. I do feel sorry for short men for all the shit they get. But not more than I do for anyone else getting shit, and most of them are women.

I will say, though, that men who talk so smugly as if they grew to a certain height by sheer mental effort can seriously fuck off.

needsomewarmsunshine · 23/08/2024 11:46

My dh is 5'5" and one of the most loving, caring, loyal and trustworthy men I have ever known.
Some of the taller ones on the other hand haved lorded it over other men let alone women and were complete twats.
Each to their own.

Diyextension · 23/08/2024 11:47

needsomewarmsunshine · 23/08/2024 11:46

My dh is 5'5" and one of the most loving, caring, loyal and trustworthy men I have ever known.
Some of the taller ones on the other hand haved lorded it over other men let alone women and were complete twats.
Each to their own.

Does he work for santa ? 👀

Sometimesright · 23/08/2024 11:48

Tbh I never understand baldness being mocked. I think it’s attractive when a man goes really short because they are going bald personally.

cupcaske123 · 23/08/2024 11:48

TheClawDecides · 23/08/2024 11:43

Did you even read the PP's post that you quoted?

It clearly doesn't state that women don't get mocked for their appearance?

Women are relentlessly mocked for their appearance, not just infantalised. Men aren't judged on their appearance in any way comparable to women.

SmallTownWay · 23/08/2024 11:48

Maybe her son or husband is short. Maybe it's something she feels strongly about.

@Loveandhatred If that's the case, then I'm sure OP can answer and doesn't need you to speak for them. It's still strange that OP chose to post it on a mainly women's forum imo. With all the mocking and abusive things written online about women every second of the day online. Or black people, gay people, disabled people etc....but no, it's a thing about men that she chooses to post on a mainly women's forum.

Whoowhoopitstbesoundofthedapolice · 23/08/2024 11:48

I'm guilty, I laughed.

I 100% would send that to my (short) husband

tennesseewhiskey1 · 23/08/2024 11:48

It's not even funny but it's less funny you've put it on here OP.

SmallTownWay · 23/08/2024 11:48

First sentence should be in bold as it's from another poster.

Yozzer87 · 23/08/2024 11:49

I've seen much worse so I'm not angry about this.

SweetBirdsong · 23/08/2024 11:49

cupcaske123 · 23/08/2024 11:48

Women are relentlessly mocked for their appearance, not just infantalised. Men aren't judged on their appearance in any way comparable to women.

Yep as the pp said, you clearly CBA to read that posters post properly! 🙄