Husband has secretly given kids an e-scooter

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The title says it all really. I found out from a friend last night that my kids have an e-scooter and that at least one of them has been using it while I'm at work. It turns out DH bought it for them on Saturday and decided not to tell me.

I've always said absolutely no to getting one because they're illegal to use on the road and (in my opinion) very dangerous for kids to be on. Our kids are 14 and 17.

If I put my foot down and make him get rid of it the kids will be upset with me, but I don't want to allow them to use it either. I don't know how to handle this and I'm absolutely furious that this has been done behind my back.

So, AIBU for being so angry with DH or is it no big deal and do I need to chill about it?

Could you let your kids know that their dad has made a mistake, that the e-scooter road use is illegal, and given you don’t have private land the scooters have now been taken away? Stress to them dad’s error/the law, and keep your opinion/feelings out of it. Show them this re penalties, guidance and gov trial: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/e-scooter-trials-guidance-for-users

Your dh is an idiot for putting your kids and you in this position.

RTFT

Personally, I didn't understand the OP's thread as being about her 17 yo using an e-scooter but about the fact OP has clearly discussed with her husband about e-scooters and already said that she doesn't want her kids to have them. She's upset that her husband disregarded her opinion and choice and bought one anyways. It's not about her almost adult child making their own choices, but about her partner not acting like one.
I think I'd first have a calm, collected conversion with husband, stating clearly again why I don't want them to have an e-scooter. Then, I'll talk about the betrayal of your word and role as a parent by him buying one anyway. For this convo, I'd write bullet points in advance and try and keep to that, focusing on not losing my cool. Then I'll tell husband that you will both have a conversation with the kids together to explain you will take the e-scooter away and why (your decision rationale + the fact dad should have respected that and he's made a mistake) and proceed to sell the e-scooter.
If the 17 yo wants to buy one when they're 18, cool, but not allowed to store it at your house/garage and the 14yo will have to wait until they're 18 to use it/one.

FOURTEEN, HE'S FOURTEEN!

ZERO chill here, whatever the opinions on scooters, you expressed a concern with your husband regarding your children. In response he:

1. ignored your concerns
2. behaved like a small child by not even telling you that he did it anyway

I would struggle to respect him, especially as he doesn't seem to respect you.

YANBU

your DH is being very unreasonable to have forced you into a position to have to be the “bad guy” . They are unsafe and you have to put your foot down but it’s very unfair on you .

I know someone who came off one of these and broke their hip , ribs and arm. They had to have a hip replacement at 32.