Family holiday drama

[familydrama1]

So we are due to go on holiday next year with family. We invited my parents, they booked their own room - they then invited my nephew (who is 17). My brother didn't pay for my nephew or even offer to pay for their place.

I found out I was pregnant recently and can't book the baby's space until they are born. Also there will be no spaces as, the baby is due 4 months before the holiday. Anyone we trust with our child will be on that holiday. We need to take my nephew off the booking and change it to the baby when they are born.

AIBU to take my nephew off the booking (I have spoken to my parents about this and they understand) but I know my brother won't be happy and it will cause drama. Or should just not go and lose thousands 😣

Need an outside perspective pleaseeee

I suppose you could also invite your brother. Nephew can go in with him.

Book another room with your DH named as the adult plus baby. Nephew will probably want his own room anyway. Baby can go in with you, one child in with GPS. Ask brother to pay something towards it or GPS too as they invited him.

I don’t think OP has answered if she’s checked whether she can actually even change the booking? Cruises usually only allow a small number of children in each age group - so you might find the under 1 group is full now, even if you took the 17 year old off the booking! And then you would have upset your nephew for nothing.

It would definitely be far easier to delay the cruise to next year, most cruise lines will change the date for a small fee and I expect the whole family will enjoy it more once the baby is a bit older/usually sleeping through the night.

Does the 17yo even want to go? It doesn't sound like a bundle of laughs for a teen to me

At no point does she say it wasn't discussed. She says she wasn't asked. I wouldn't be asking her either, if I'd paid for a cabin and was paying for my grandson and having her kid in with me too.

Lol why should brother or her parents pay towards another room because shes having another kid?

You don't need an extra adult, DN shares with one of the existing adults. Probably his grandad, which is surely a better arrangement than making a 17yo boy share with both his grandparents and a 6yo?

What would you have done it it was just your little family (as originally planned) and you didn't have all these extra adults?

Surely the simple answer is upgrade your room to a suite and this will give room for a cot

If the cruise is in say a year, and the baby will be 6 months old, how come it's already conceived?

i think that’s the real reason why there are all these extra adults 😂 And they took it as being inclusive so asked DN!

Is another room possible/affordable? You and baby in new room, perhaps alternating nights with DH if baby isn't sleeping through, so you both get a good nights sleep alternated with a broken one (appreciate you may be breastfeeding so that idea may not work!)

PILs didn't have sex and conceive a child.
DPs didn't have sex and conceive a child.
Neither did your nephew.

This problem is all on you and your dh to sort. If you need to throw more money at the problem, then throw money at the problem.

If you can't throw money at the problem, reschedule your cruise. It's that simple.

You cannot smuggle a baby on board a cruise ship. The headcount on any sailing vessel is crucial. If, in the event that passengers had to disembark in an emergency at sea, the crew have to know exactly how many people (in the certain age groups) who were on that ship. There could be someone stuck in their cabin on a sinking ship who wouldn't be looked for as their headcount is incorrect.

I haven't read every post but I can't understand how you can't add the baby into your cabin. Your cabin will easily have space for a travel cot. Most cabins have an occupancy of 4 so something isn't adding up her.

I assume you dislike this nephew and simply don't want him there?

Who's cabin is he currently meant to be in?

Have you checked with your travel insurance if you can cancel due to the pregnancy?

I have the solution. Leave the OP's parents at home and pay them back the 50% cost of their cabin (which face it, OP, you only contributed to because then you got space for your third child and childcare all in one for minimal cost). Spare them the horror of being trapped in a small cabin with two children while you call it a holiday. Then OP has one room with the baby and a children and OP's husband is in a separate cabin with the other children and nephew. And all for the price of half a cabin.

@familydrama1 the cruise wouldn't let you book another room?

Not if it is only a two berth room.

Pregnancy is about 9 months, so she could be 3 months pregnant now - 6 more months of pregnancy plus 6 months post birth takes it to a year.

Could you book an extra room now that will fit 2 just for your dh and 1 of your existing kids
and leave your current room with you and your other child in there and add the baby to this room later.
That way you have the rooms you need.

If the baby is due in February, yes, it's already conceived.

@familydrama1 if you pid half of your parents cabin, that makes ir harder... I dont think it's fair for you to pay 2 rooms AND A HALF...
I still think you should book another room, and the half you paid of your parent's, can they and your Brother split? This way your Brother would be paying 25% of a cabin, which is fair id Nephew goes...?

Wont you just lose your deposit? Or whatever their cancellation fee is?

Or this!

It’s a very common way to describe someone whose sex is unknown. Strictly speaking it’s not grammatically correct but only an arsehole would be that pedantic. Not everything is a gender critical dog whistle!

I am highly confused as to why you cannot simply book another room? You say that you need another adult, but surely your husband could be in one room with your 2 older children and you be in another room with your baby? Or is there a 1 adult to 1 child ratio?