DH has and hidden something valuable "for safety"

[Beebopwasthebest]

Light hearted...sort of, because this is getting worse.

He has form for this, despite us having two secure safes in the house. He is quite anxious about being burgled.

He has hidden his watch somewhere in the house. We've been looking for two days. I am very tidy and organised. He is tidy but not as organised and has a lot of stuff.

This is driving me mad. My mum has said a prayer to St.Anthony for me😂

He chooses really weird places..I once found the (only) set of keys to our safe inside the cardboard box of a light bulb...which he had forgotten about! And he hid my car keys between the beach towels in the airing cupboard..We have an agreed spot for my keys now.

Can any one think of a weird place we haven't looked?

My God, Mumsnet is fabulous for giving an insight into other peoples minds. I can't even imagine it having one safe, let alone two. And then to go and hide things separately? I just cannot imagine what is going through peoples heads. He must feel very under threat.

If he's anything like my husband, ask him where he last remembers having it then look 3 inches to the left 😆DH is very much "a place for everything, everything in its place" and his brain completely goes to pot as soon as something is not "in its place"

Down the back of the sofa or in the cutlery drawer.....no idea why this popped into my head 🤣🤣

I'd just leave him to experience the consequences of being so bloody daft. A watch belongs upon somebody's wrist and if it's an expensive one that he's also too frightened to wear in case he gets mugged for it, it should be sold and replaced with a £20 Casio or Sekonda from Argos.

In any case, if he's that bothered about being burgled that you've got a safe that isn't being used, I'd point out that any burglars are going to be more pissed off that they can't find anything and surely he'd just want them to grab stuff and fuck off again? The alternative is that they ransack the place, can't find anything of value despite there being a safe - which tells them that there's going to be stuff of value somewhere in the house - and then be rather angry about it when you/he walks in the door. Does he think somebody doing that type of burglary/robbery is going to take 'But I can't remember where I put it' as a reasonable answer?

Nothing is that valuable that it's worth pissing off a burglar over. Nothing.

My sympathies. My mum does this. Emerald ring lost for years and found in the toe of an old boot about to be charity-shopped.

She keeps swearing she won't do it again, they also have safes but it seems she can't help herself.

😂😂😂 that's brilliant

I have done this. Before going on holiday I shoved all my valuable jewellery somewhere, then forgot where upon return. Sinking feeling in my stomach as I recalled considering a tampon box, which I may well have binned... Years later my mum found it all inside a pencil case...

A neighbour cleared out her mother’s house and realised there was no jewellery in the safe. The mother had hidden it in the pockets of the coats which had all been thrown out. Tell him to Try his going to a funeral suit .

Omg I am your husband. It drives my husband crazy. Ok if I was him here are my top hiding places.

In a cup in the cup cupboard.
In a side pocket of a toilet bag.
Wrapped inside a pair of socks
Inside a medicine box or first aid kit

I know it's madness but I'll never stop. 🤣🤣

I shoved my watch out of sight before leaving the house a couple of weeks ago, found it two days later under an open recipe book in the kitchen. I know now only to temporarily hide things in places that I will revisit very soon.

My more inconvenient memory issue is throwing things away because I’ve forgotten what they’re for … random keys, covers, measurements

In future have him email /message himself or you to know where he is hiding things!

Sympathies @Beebopwasthebest . My DH is forever losing things. Important things as well as lesser items. I stopped helping him, mostly, after the time we were at my Mum's and he 'lost' his watch. We had brought her in a new microwave and were setting it up for her. Box and all sorts lying about. He said he had taken it off and couldn't find it, so we knew it had to be in the house somewhere.

After about 30 minutes of turning everything upside down and no luck (and remembering what my husband is like with 'losing' things) I reached over and pushed up the sleeve of his jumper. It was on his wrist the whole time! Didn't know whether to laugh or cry!! 😁

My aunt found her Dad's death certificate in the middle of a knitting magazine from 1965.

He died in 1990!

Honestly, it will turn up when it turns up. Just don't chuck anything away without checking it carefully!

In his pants drawer perhaps? Or maybe under the bed....

In between the lining and the outer of a dog biscuit bag (tends to only be the paper type that have a plastic liner though).

I really couldn't deal with that. Has he been burgled before? And that's why he takes it to such an extreme level?

Also, get another car key cut and keep it in your own safe space in case he loses the one he has!!

I think you have two problems, the first is his fear of burglary. Is this rational? I mean do you live in an area with high rates of crime? Is there anything less troublesome that would help like one of those alarms that will ring you if anything is happening at your house?

The second is the annoying hiding things and forgetting where you hid them. He needs to train himself to remember, there are books about this sort of thing so you have a sort of hook you hang things on, as an example someone recommended an author to me I knew I'd have forgotten the name by the time I got home so I pictured someone I used to work with who had the same first name, the second name was an animal so I pictured the animal. I got home and was too busy to look up the author but the next day I wanted to look up his books and I had no problem recalling his name. I'm not sure if the "pictures" helped or if it was just because I'd gone through a process and it had improved my memory.

Hope the watch turns up.

My MiL hid a lot of jewellery pinned to the insides of blouse sleeves. She gave me one and when I went to try it on there was a gold brooch pinned in one sleeve, one that I'd given her as a gift and she didn't want to lose it. When I gave it back, she just said 'Oh, wondered where that was'.

I stopped throwing unknown stuff away as I realised it would become apparent what something was for after I'd thrown it away.

Point was proven a couple of weeks ago. Went to get the barbecue out and the nut that held the chimney cover on was missing. "Aha!" I thought - I know exactly where that is! I found it last summer in the garden and thought it looked important, so popped it in the junk drawer in the kitchen and hey presto! It's fixed!

Inside pocket of a blazer/suit jacket.
inside rolled up socks
in the corner of the medicine cabinet behind his cologne
under the towels in the cupboard

Stop searching. This is his consequence to learn from.

Make sure he can't find your important stuff and start hiding that too. And make a sensible note of where you hid it from him.

Have a sensible conversation about where he will hide things in future.

When we were clearing my late Aunt's house we brought a small wardrobe over to my mother's house. A few years later I was looking for something on the shelf and right at the back, tucked into the frame was a bundle of one and five pound notes. We'd also found bundles of money in the pockets of her clothes before we took them to the charity shop.

"Have you checked your butthole?" 😆

Thanks for all the sympathy and suggestions-some good places to check. Pretty sure it's in the house.. probably in the kitchen/diner...which I am conveniently and slowly doing a spring clean on.

Gosh how bizarre and irritating.

Surely though those saying write a list or send a WhatsApp are significantly increasing the risk, as all a dodgy person would need is to find the list or check the phone? A safe seems much safer!!