Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

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I went for a run today. It's 23 degrees where I am, it's hot and it's not the best weather for running. I managed 3.2 miles but then had to stop as I'd ran out of water and what little water I had left in my bottle was warm given the heat.

I texted my partner when I'd finished (he was at a soft play with our toddler) to say I'd struggled but managed 3 miles, and that I felt a little dizzy and was craving water and salt (presumably because I'd sweated so much I'd lost a lot of salt). I said I might drive past McDonalds on the way home to grab some chips (just chips, nothing else) as I needed to replace the salt. He replied, "you need to eat healthily".

So... I saw red. This is a man who is overweight and who I watched sit on the sofa at lunch time and eat a Greggs cream cake. I didn't do this - I had a half a sandwich and a banana then went for a run. This is, by the way, my 3rd run of this week and I also plan to go to the gym tomorrow morning to do a weights class.

For context, I am a size 10 (BMI is 22.5 ish). So I am not even overweight but I want to tone up a bit and to get back my pre baby level of fitness, hence making this effort

Am I right to feel really annoyed by what feels like judgement for what I've chosen to eat post run, when I'm making an effort here and he is not? If he was the picture of health and fitness then maybe I'd accept that comment a bit more but ... seriously?! You eat a cake for lunch then tell me, post 3 mile run, to "eat healthily" 😵‍💫

Or am I overreacting or am I right to feel annoyed at this judgement? 🤔

Plus chips are ‘carby’ 😁

@piccolorhinoceros

cks.nice.org.uk/topics/hyponatraemia/management/management/

Nice guidelines for the treatment of hyponatraemia (no mention of chips) plus the experience of all the anaesthetists and other medical professionals I work with.

I would emphasise I was talking about hyponatraemia which op is unlikely to develop from a 3 mile run.

Gels etc are a suggestion for a pick me up after a relatively short run where she may have sweated a lot and be feeling dizzy - not a treatment for a medical condition.

@ItsAlrightDarling
I can honestly say I've never fancied a Dioralyte 🤣🤣

I don’t even take water with me on a run that short, irrespective of the heat and there’s pretty much zero need to replace salt after. mere 3 miles! You were being ridiculous. If you want chips just own up to wanting chips.

@PointlessSummer
The miles are irrelevant. The degree of sweating is what's relevant. When it's 23 degrees and there's no shade and you're pushing the best pace you can manage for 3 miles, you sweat a lot. Well, I do.

Sadly if you are fat if can really fuck your knees.

I think there’s a medal you can get for that.

Is it possible at all - and I'm not defending him, fully accept that it sounds like a dickish comment - that he meant you need to eat healthily to prevent you feeling dizzy and wiped out by a 3 mile run? Dizzy, needing desperately to replace salt and having to sit on the ground until safe to drive is significant after a 5k run. Particularly as it sounds like you are running regularly?

I did a half in the heat yesterday and couldn't have managed without electrolyte replacement. I had a couple of gels, 3l of water with electrolyte replacement and a couple of bananas as I finished.

🏆 congratulations, you are superior.

Do you feel better about yourself now?

People do seem extremely easily confused nowadays.

NO. That’s gone to the PP who observed the OP may be being ‘chippy’

Is it though, OP? It sounds to me as if it's the way you communicate but you seem to have been blindsided by his reply to you? It should be a two way ping-pong nonsense thing shouldn't it?

We're all different but if I were calling into McDonald - for whatever reason - I'd be expected to ask if anybody wanted anything. I wouldn't get away with telling my husband I was calling in for chips.

Perhaps before your 'normal texting' of minutiae continues you and your husband should iron out whatever the grievance is because it sounds as if there's an elephant in the room about something?

No you wouldn’t. It’s barely hot at all and a mile is 20ish minutes. This reliance on water every few seconds is nonsense.
Keeping hydrated is obviously all fine and good, but it’s not necessary to stop you dropping dead (or even being uncomfortable). I walk dogs for a Dogs’ Home. I do an hour’s walk and can’t take water for me as my hand is full of water for them. I’ve been fine so far.

Wow, there are so many posts saying there was no point going for a run if eating unhealthily after… really??? No fitness benefits??

OP is a healthy BMI and working on her fitness. The chips are not really going to make a difference to either so her DH was being sanctimonious and hypocritical.

What do you mean you wouldn’t ’get away’ with it? What would happen?
If in that scenario my DH had wanted something, he’d have said ‘ok, can you pick me up a burger?’

Me either, they're horrid. Strictly a 'need to' if you have had a bad stomach/the runs in this house.

I don't get it at all
I'm fat and I exercise which is surely better than being fat and not exercising?

I get the salt thing, I played netball last week for 45 mins and it was 26c with no breeze at all. Went woozy afterwards despite drinking lots of water and ended up having a can of coke before I drove home. But people would say I shouldn't have played netball because I drank a can of coke

I'm doing it for my heart and lungs and fitness in old age, not to be thinner

3 miles is what? 30-40 mins? No, most people wouldn’t need more than a bottle of water (which you had) in that time. Most wouldn’t need any. Plus your water being warm is irrelevant. Warm water still hydrates you.

Itsalright, I mean that I would never hear the end of it, I would be looking at a daily mail 'sad face' at my thoughtlessness.

You want him to lose weight yet tempt him with a Mac Donald's on top of the rest of his food today

Why?

I get where you are coming from OP, this would really have annoyed me too! For context, I am a good weight now but was very overweight for a few years and my DH used to make unkind comments about my food choices whilst porking out himself when he could also have stood to lose several stone.

This might come as a shock but everyone is different!
Anything over 10⁰ is hot to me.

At no place on that link does it say dietary sodium won't replenish your stores lost from running, which is what I asked you to evidence. I'm going to guess you're not actually a registered HCP, just work with/near them.

That’s really not the whole point of exercise!

I’m currently marathon training and my guilty pleasure after a long run (12+ miles) is a drive through Mc Ds meal, eaten all alone in the car park, super classy. Like the OP I just want plain and salty food sometimes after exercise, so what? I also feel bloomin great from the endorphins, a few chicken tenders only adds to my feelings of winning at life :-)

or better prepare and take care of yourself and use electrolytes not full fat coke....come on.....