Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

[dreamer24]

I went for a run today. It's 23 degrees where I am, it's hot and it's not the best weather for running. I managed 3.2 miles but then had to stop as I'd ran out of water and what little water I had left in my bottle was warm given the heat.

I texted my partner when I'd finished (he was at a soft play with our toddler) to say I'd struggled but managed 3 miles, and that I felt a little dizzy and was craving water and salt (presumably because I'd sweated so much I'd lost a lot of salt). I said I might drive past McDonalds on the way home to grab some chips (just chips, nothing else) as I needed to replace the salt. He replied, "you need to eat healthily".

So... I saw red. This is a man who is overweight and who I watched sit on the sofa at lunch time and eat a Greggs cream cake. I didn't do this - I had a half a sandwich and a banana then went for a run. This is, by the way, my 3rd run of this week and I also plan to go to the gym tomorrow morning to do a weights class.

For context, I am a size 10 (BMI is 22.5 ish). So I am not even overweight but I want to tone up a bit and to get back my pre baby level of fitness, hence making this effort

Am I right to feel really annoyed by what feels like judgement for what I've chosen to eat post run, when I'm making an effort here and he is not? If he was the picture of health and fitness then maybe I'd accept that comment a bit more but ... seriously?! You eat a cake for lunch then tell me, post 3 mile run, to "eat healthily" 😵‍💫

Or am I overreacting or am I right to feel annoyed at this judgement? 🤔

@Hobbitfeet32
Love the phrase nutribollocks 🤣
I will endeavour to get that into a sentence at work tomorrow 🤔

Indeed I did - and I still lost a pound!! 😅

The amount of times I've read 'cream cake' on this thread has me gagging for a cream cake 😅

run followed by McDonalds is pretty unusual and many partners would comment on it

When I was a student I used to jog to the shop to buy fags and cider 😁

Chips from McDonald are terrible !!! You could have had anything else to “ replenish the salts (?)” unless you were in a field with only one McDonald in there you could have popped in one of those 24/7 and got yourself a getorade … a sandwich from Asda … chips from McDonald’s is crap quality and not for the calories … it’s processed stuff that you can eat once in a while not as a post run snack … and you know that this is why you got so mad . Cause everyone else here thought he was right . It’s the equivalent of saying I went for an icecream sundae cause my sugar level was low …

it’s processed stuff that you can eat once in a while not as a post run snack

It was ‘once in a while’, it just happened to be after a run.
They’re not ‘terrible’, they’re just food. Not to be eaten all the time, granted, but the OP hasn’t given any indication that she’s constantly mainlining McDonald’s fries.

And Gatorades and shop bought sandwiches are also ‘processed stuff’, generally.

Well you did go for a run then eat fat laden fries so it was probably the first thing that came to his mind.

@dreamer24 i hope you get “nutribollocks” into this sentence “my husband laughed at me when I spouted nutribollocks by saying i needed to eat salty chips after a run to replenish my salt”.

I personally have no problem at all with you eating whatever the hell you want after a run, I regularly do. The problem is your dressing it up like you did. Eat the chips, don’t eat the chips, just don’t dress it up as a nutritionally necessity.

So many bizarre, uninformed and unhealthy attitudes to food and exercise on this thread.

example: I ran today and was Hot. I’m currently eating chocolate. Because I want to. Not because I’m pretending I need it for energy / to replenish sugar after my run. It’s just what I’m eating.

I'd give him some credit and say he's trying to be supportive. You'd be better having electrolyte drink and protein rather than chips but each to their own.

I was just thinking the same thing! So a crappy neon blue drink with essentially no nutritional value and full of sugar is okay, but a box of chips that OP will enjoy and will actually satisfy her hunger/craving is bad? It's far better to just eat the chips, at least they have fat and a little protein and minimal sugar. A Gatorade is just empty calories. A little bit of what you fancy does you good, as they say.

The idea that Gatorade is a nutritionally superior option is hilarious.

The disordered 'all or nothing' thinking on this thread is breath-taking. As is the natural assumption that people only exercise to lose weight. It says a great deal about us as a society.

If I went for a run then had a bag of chips on the way home, my DP would laugh, especially if I said "it's for the salt."

That said, you are right to be mildly annoyed at the hypocrisy if this not typical, and set high dudgeon to 10 if it's happened before.

Maybe he didn't mean it like that maybe he was typing quick cos he was in the soft play and he was worried that you were dizzy ans thought you needed something more nourishing than 🍟. Maybe it was just misplaced concern that came across wrong. My husband says I misinterpret every sentence he utters.... ha ha ha..... or maybe they just all twats 😂

Chips/fries as a post run snack is fine.

I've been to a lot of races where a bag of crisps also well as a bar of chocolate has been included in the finishers goody bag. Not a single banana in sight!

I don't think anyone could give two hoots about the nutritional value of chips v gatorade. My objection was her implying that she neeeeeeded chips for pseudo-medical reasons. That's where the rub is.

Except the people who said ‘you should have got Gatorade instead of chips because chips are unhealthy’, obviously

Well @ItsAlrightDarling I committed the heinous MN crime of reading the OP's posts and skimming the rest, so I missed the gatorade posts.

I expected a lot of people to diagnose that so many people on MN have "disordered eating" on MN and I wasn't wrong there either.

Absolutely fine to miss them, just pointing out that some people could indeed give two hoots about the nutritional value of chips vs Gatorade 😊

I don't think I said I neeeeeeeded chips for pseudo medical reasons, did I.

I said I was craving salt post run, and had a significant craving for salty chips. I assumed that was my body's way of indicating that it was lower on salt after my run than it would have liked to have been, and my theory was that this was possibly related to having sweated a lot more than usual due to the hotter than usual temperature.

I did not say I neeeeeeeeded chips. I said I felt I needed salt. And for some reason, that manifested in my mind and body as a specific craving for salty chips. And my mind then reasoned that the fastest way to obtain said chips without getting out of my car as a sweaty mess, was to go via McDonalds drive thru.

Now, I have acknowledged that my science may not have been accurate - it was after all just a theory. My body didn't say out loud to me "you are salt deficient, replace it now please". I assumed / theorised that from the craving I was having.

🤣 maybe they are just twats, indeed.

Ffs. I was not pretending anything. I had a craving, I had a theory about that craving - whether it's scientifically correct or not I don't know. But those things are true nonetheless. I do not usually crave chips post run - in fact I usually can't eat post run at all for at least a good hour as I just have no appetite! So this salt craving stood out to me as it was unusual. I don't know what so difficult about that to understand.