Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

[dreamer24]

I went for a run today. It's 23 degrees where I am, it's hot and it's not the best weather for running. I managed 3.2 miles but then had to stop as I'd ran out of water and what little water I had left in my bottle was warm given the heat.

I texted my partner when I'd finished (he was at a soft play with our toddler) to say I'd struggled but managed 3 miles, and that I felt a little dizzy and was craving water and salt (presumably because I'd sweated so much I'd lost a lot of salt). I said I might drive past McDonalds on the way home to grab some chips (just chips, nothing else) as I needed to replace the salt. He replied, "you need to eat healthily".

So... I saw red. This is a man who is overweight and who I watched sit on the sofa at lunch time and eat a Greggs cream cake. I didn't do this - I had a half a sandwich and a banana then went for a run. This is, by the way, my 3rd run of this week and I also plan to go to the gym tomorrow morning to do a weights class.

For context, I am a size 10 (BMI is 22.5 ish). So I am not even overweight but I want to tone up a bit and to get back my pre baby level of fitness, hence making this effort

Am I right to feel really annoyed by what feels like judgement for what I've chosen to eat post run, when I'm making an effort here and he is not? If he was the picture of health and fitness then maybe I'd accept that comment a bit more but ... seriously?! You eat a cake for lunch then tell me, post 3 mile run, to "eat healthily" 😵‍💫

Or am I overreacting or am I right to feel annoyed at this judgement? 🤔

OP, if you’d posted “I went for a run, felt knackered and really fancied some chips afterwards.” I can guarantee you’d have got completely different responses here. But it’s the ridiculous tying yourself in knots to justify the chips as a health decision due to feeling faint and dizzy and needing to replenish salts (??) why people (including your husband!) are taking the piss. If you want chips, just bloody have chips! You don’t need to replenish salts after a 3k run (I’m not undermining that run but regardless off fitness levels it isn’t long enough for you to be depleted in anything).
You do seem humourless and uptight. And also really nasty/fat shaming your husband (stuffing cream cakes in and banging on about how you’re a size 10? Gross).

In this case you would gone in and picked up a sachet of salt only though surely?

I wouldn't take the piss for the rest of the day. That's completely unreasonable. I'd take the piss FOR EVER MORE!

OP saying you need McDonalds to replace salt when you are dehydrated after a run is such bullshit it's untrue.

And if you don't want his comments, don't stealth boast to him tell him the minutiae of your exercise and diet regime, which is undoubtedly as dull AF. And I say that as a regular exerciser.

YABU, you need to run at least 13 miles to earn a McDonalds! ;)

23 degrees is quite warm for the UK I suppose but most people could do a short run without any water. I did 7km on Sunday evening, 38 degrees, sip of water before setting off and finish the bottle (330ml) when I got back to the car.

Are you sure its not that you just don't like your husband generally? Sounds like you think you are better than the, junk-food judging soft-playing, cake-eating, lard-arse?

I get it @dreamer24 it wasn't a jokey, "that's healthy!" 🤣
Or saying "I thought you were trying to be healthy?!" 😆
He just said You need to eat healthily! He was telling you like a command or instructing you what to do.

I think there's been a lot of knobs on this thread saying you shouldn't need water and saying three miles is nothing. Ignore the tedious twats!
These kind of people are the ones who put people off getting fit, running or going to the gym because they make others feel ashamed or embarrassed.

I have been struggling to work and walk about in this heat and sweating like a disgusting sweaty thing just doing normal things so I am very impressed with your running and you should feel really proud of yourself!
I hope you enjoyed your chips!

He probably wondered why you’d render your run pointless 🤷‍♀️

23° isn't exactly hot, but then I would sweat buckets trying to run in 10° 🤣. I think a lucozade would have been far better than Mcd's chips tho! Why has his comment triggered you so much? Is he just being supportive and meant it in a 'nice way' or is he always making digs? If it was just a one off comment and was about you undoing all the good from your 3 mile run then just laugh it off and make sure you've got proper hydration with you next time.

I would have gone straight home and had a pinch of sea salt in a glass of water. Fried chips covered in table salt isn't going to give your body what it needs. Fair enough if you just fancy it.

This thread is infuriating! As is the constant one-upmanship of posters. Some of you may well be able to run the length of the uk in 40 degree heat, on a single lick of ice in the morning but many of us are not.

The OP is allowed to go for a run even though she has children, she is also allowed to not feel well after running when it's hot outside (23 is hot to some people, me included), she's allowed to feel dizzy and 3 miles isn't a short run to a lot people. She is also allowed to eat Mcdonalds chips if she wants to.

This thread wasn't about any of the above, it was about her partners comment about eating healthily when it the same text she mentioned being dizzy and unwell... on top of him polishing off a cream cake for lunch which he had also offered to her!

Yes OP your partners comment was unreasonable and he should have asked if you were okay. It would have irritated me as well. I'm glad you've talked and sorted things out! Next time I suggest you get a Big Mac Meal just to make sure you have enough protein, carbs and sugar too 😉

People can do both. All or Nothing thinking is very unhelpful.

Sorry will try harder in future to totally understand what the thread is about.

I feel like that's too far the other way though and you're not drinking enough. In 38 degrees I'd struggle to go outside. It would be interesting to know how well you'd cope with running in sub zero temps.

How had you run out of water but then the water that was left was warm? Haha

I think he's a cheeky bastard for saying that to you, as you say, you're not even overweight. Hope you got your chips and enjoyed them girl 🍟

Doesn't matter if you ordered everything off the menu. That was a shitty thing for him to say. He could have said, "Oh if you only want salt, I'm sure they'll give you a pack for free, but please make sure you keep hydrated." Or if you actually wanted the chips the absolute worst IF you had said you were trying to loose weight, "Perhaps eat them slowly, with loads of liquid, you may find you don't want them all".
Chips in moderation aren't bad. I believe McD's use rapeseed and sunflower oil. They aren't bad fats and your body does need oil.

A good friend of mine (female) exercises so she can eat those "bad things" and drink beer. She likes to stay the same body weight, done it for 30 years. It's so funny to see people's expressions when we go to the pub and I order something kind of healthy (like salmon and salad which I love) with a sugar free drink and she orders steak, chips and a pint. The server usually gets the plates the wrong way around. She's 5"3 and slim, I'm 6" and not slim.

Haha, I would laugh and comment on it too. I'd think you were joking. Feeling dizzy after a run and then eat chips? I'd puke.
My husband would also say something if it were the other way around.

Hi OP!

Firstly, well done on your fitness endeavours; I hope you are doing well and wish you the very best towards achieving your personal goals.

Simply, in answer to your question... YES! I feel you have massively overreacted! Look at scenario... you did a run. You sweated. Your body told you it needed salt. You decided to grab some fries. You texted your partner and they replied. You saw red and here we are 19 pages into a MN thread (and counting). The whole situation could have been moved on immediately and you could have eaten your fries moments later, safe in the knowledge you have achieved a great run today.

Has it occurred that your partner was possibly supporting your endeavours and by him texting "you need to eat healthily", he was simply, albeit clumsily, supporting your goal.

A more rational reaction could have been you either ignoring the text and getting your fries. Or, you could have joked back to him and called him a CF. Then had your fries. The pure speculation here on MN is absolutely crazy, turning a very none eventful situation into something it absolutely was not... very much a butterfly effect.

Text's often fail to convery emotion or context and I have lost count of the amount of times I have witnessed a text coming across 100% the opposite way it could have been intended.

You have nothing to justify to anyone, you sound very healthy anyway and in future I recommend you focus your energy on achieving your personal goals rather then fuming, venting and wasting your precious time responding on MN to all the ridiculous insinuations. My mind is blown by your almost 4 pages of (almost 100) replies. A horrible waste of your time, unless of course, you felt the venting was cathartic.

P.S: I sincerely hope you enjoyed some fries (i didn't read all of your replies to establish this) and you have inspired me to pop down the road to have some too! Thank you, but you may have just taken a few days off of my life expectancy as I will be driving, not running. Perhaps I will get a cream cake from Greggs along the way... oh, damn the irony... and those pesky butterflies...

This. I don't get how saying you need to eat healthily has to equate to losing weight.

I wouldn't take water on a three mile run. Not saying it's wrong, just unusual. If my partner called me saying they felt dizzy after a three mile run I'd think maybe they weren't fuelling their body with the right things. Maybe that's where he was coming from.

OP you seem overly pre-occupied with food and very defensive overall.

We do get four proper seasons here in Anhui, you just get used to it as it builds up through the spring, (as long as you don’t hide indoors from May). Same with the cold, we got -8 in January and it makes me a bit wheezy running to be honest.

So tell him to shut up 🤷🏻‍♀️

😆

You sound fun

Wow the nutribollocks on here is crazy!
Here are a couple of points:

1. exercising and eating foods that contain fat and sugar are not mutually exclusive
2. chips are not ‘unhealthy’. They simply contain a certain nutrient profile which in the context of a persons nutritional requirements, and the rest of the weeks intake should be taken into account.
3. sometimes we choose food because it tastes nice/is available/is what fancy etc not simply because of nutritional value
4. as a runner myself I often have chips post run or a can of coke or whatever I fancy because unlike most people on this website I do not have an unhealthy relationship with food
5. The goal of exercise is not always weight loss. I exercise a lot but am not trying to lose weight. People exercise for many reasons including cardiovascular health, to help their bones, for alone time, for relaxation, they enjoy it, to get outside….

Is this thread still going 😆