Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

[dreamer24]

I went for a run today. It's 23 degrees where I am, it's hot and it's not the best weather for running. I managed 3.2 miles but then had to stop as I'd ran out of water and what little water I had left in my bottle was warm given the heat.

I texted my partner when I'd finished (he was at a soft play with our toddler) to say I'd struggled but managed 3 miles, and that I felt a little dizzy and was craving water and salt (presumably because I'd sweated so much I'd lost a lot of salt). I said I might drive past McDonalds on the way home to grab some chips (just chips, nothing else) as I needed to replace the salt. He replied, "you need to eat healthily".

So... I saw red. This is a man who is overweight and who I watched sit on the sofa at lunch time and eat a Greggs cream cake. I didn't do this - I had a half a sandwich and a banana then went for a run. This is, by the way, my 3rd run of this week and I also plan to go to the gym tomorrow morning to do a weights class.

For context, I am a size 10 (BMI is 22.5 ish). So I am not even overweight but I want to tone up a bit and to get back my pre baby level of fitness, hence making this effort

Am I right to feel really annoyed by what feels like judgement for what I've chosen to eat post run, when I'm making an effort here and he is not? If he was the picture of health and fitness then maybe I'd accept that comment a bit more but ... seriously?! You eat a cake for lunch then tell me, post 3 mile run, to "eat healthily" 😵‍💫

Or am I overreacting or am I right to feel annoyed at this judgement? 🤔

What a nerve.

What has being a man got to do with it? And how on earth does someone need mcdonalds?

I have nothing against mcdonalds at all but need?

I don't think the OP has said she 'needed' McDonald's specifically, just that she felt (rightly or wrongly) that she needed some salty food and presumably McDonald's was handy.

What we need is some of those side-of-the-road chip vending machines they have in other countries 😊

OP, I'll just say this. I walk quite a lot usually, my BMI is similar to yours and there's no way I could run three miles. I used to occasionally try a tiny little run back home after dropping DC at school many moons ago and I felt like my lungs were about to seize up. I would ignore any negativity and be proud of yourself ( and enjoy your chips).

If he does it again reply 'you first lard arse'😂
Dont flatter him by taking his bs seriously!
Maybe feed him up some, watch him get fatter & fatter, soon he'll burst a blood vessel in a catastrophic way & you wont have to put up with his remarks😶.

Chips are not the devil, don't have an unhealthy relationship with food

I say this as a person that works out every day

He needs to get a grip (and maybe do a workout or two himself)

It doesn't really matter what he's saying/doing/eating. This is about you.

If you're trying to get fit, healthy, stopping at McDs after a run probably isn't the best idea.

You're upset because you know there's a nugget (no pun intended!) of truth in what he's saying.
That doesn't mean you should pay any mind to what he's saying, though...

Why do you need to tell your boyfriend your every move?

It wouldn't occur to me in a million years to discuss my hunger, thirst or whatever with my man unless we were in the same room.

Chips are great, but the salt added to chips aren’t the type of salt you need to replace when you sweat excessively, so they would hinder rather than help your hydration levels.

Source please? Table salt is sodium chloride, the main electrolytes you lose in sweat. You need potassium too.

My DH would laugh if I did this and was trying to be healthier.

That said, it’s nothing to do with him!

You don't sound like you like him very much - 'stuffing cream cake' etc. Why are you together?

This! You need sea salt (Celtic/Pink Himalayan salt) not table salt

This seems a lot of whining and faffing for a tiny run!

😂😂

I don't need to, we both choose to share details such as this with each other. As explained repeatedly on this thread. Each to their own.

Thanks for your input.

Curious - how many miles did you run this week?

I'll drag him with me next time and reward him with some chips 😂

Yes! That would be amazing ☺️

I’d be delighted that he said “eat healthily” and not the awful “eat healthy” that we see and hear everywhere these days.

Have you now spoken to him about it? What did he say? Perhaps he was worried about you because you were saying you were feeling dizzy and he was meaning you needed to eat something healthy because you were feeling rough. Hence the inconsistency of offering you a cream cake.

Sounds like you have a “ chip” on your shoulder OP. Let it go.

@Tiredofallthis101
Yes I've spoken to him. I explained how it made me feel and that I'm insecure about my appearance since having our baby, and that I felt he was implying that I needed to lose weight. He said he was sorry, he didn't mean it that way, and that he doesn't think I need lose any weight and finds me just as attractive as pre baby. He said he was just trying to be helpful, but now he understands how comments about my food intake make me feel he won't do it in future. So it was a helpful situation in the end as it led to a chat that cleared the air I suppose.

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