To think that couples getting married are overly criticised by other people?

[DebateWithMoi]

I just feel like couples getting married can't get anything right,

Before the day the guest list is scrutinised, the wedding party, the delegation of work, where they've chosen to get married, the cost etc ( this is a big one, lots of guests moan about the cost to attend a wedding but would they rather not be invited then? It's a wedding and it's costing the bride and groom or bride and bride / groom and groom also ), the food variety etc when asked to pick a meal. I am at an age lots of people are getting married around me and I have also and people can't help but make comments. Often they aren't directly to the couple but around them, to others etc. It seems what is meant to be such a lovely day is often picked apart for no good reason. Out of interest have you ever yourself or ever heard anyone moan about the following:

-the food
-kids / no kids
-which part of the day you're invited to
-the choice of wedding location
-the cost
-the seating plan
-your or someone else not being a part or a wedding party when you suspected they would be
-rhe music
-the weather ( this one gets me! )
-the temperature of the venue
-the seating plan
-hiw the brdiesmaids looked
-the order of the day
-the organisation of the day
-anything else

I list the above because they're all moans I've heard!

The vast majority of weddings I have attended were between 1990 and 2010, there was just the occasional slightly over the top one but most were just incredibly low key compared to these days.

People can do what they want but fgs think of your guests' bank balances. We don't want to have to transport the family to Italy, or attend several layers of hen do evert.

We had 17 guests at our wedding (including us). It was perfect 👌

I find weddings a bore. I’d far rather not be asked. And they’re all the bloody same.

And destination weddings where you’re expected to travel miles are just obnoxious to me. Our niece is getting married in 2026, somewhere that’s a long way away - 11 hours on a plane. We have no intention of going.

I agree with @needhelpwiththisplease. I don't think most people jump for joy at a wedding invite. It's like an obligation. I'm lucky I have hardly any family. Also the thing that pisses me off about weddings is that quite often they don't want any kids there (except their own darlings of course if they have them). If you invite extended family to a wedding with no kids allowed then invite the grandparents too, who the f do you think is looking after the kids?? Now they are older I'd consider get a babysitter but at the time my youngest was still a baby. I've missed a couple of family weddings for this reason. It all seems about showing off how much you can afford these days. Where did the love and the kids go from weddings?

People love to bitch and moan

Also there's a weird thing about if a couple have an expensive wedding, a d then split later, there will be comments regarding what sort of wedding they had, surely it's equally sad if the wedding was at a registry office or stately home

Back when I was young if people had destination weddings they just fucked off and came back married; kids were always invited; you’d always give plus ones; you didn’t have people paying for drinks.

Not sure when you were young, but this isn't my experience.

I'd agree that anyone getting married abroad did it to avoid family.
But I disagree about giving plus ones being a thing - I only came across that watching American sitcoms from 10 - 25 years ago.
I also disagree re kids always being invited. I never went to a wedding with my parents, until I was 16. (So all the weddings my parents went to in the 60s and 70s). I didn't have dc at my wedding (80s) nor did my parents (50s) nor my in-laws (60s), nor my sister, nor my brother (90s). Nor was it at all typical in the dozens of weddings I went to between about 83 and 98. So that covers weddings from the 50s up until 2000 where there weren't any dc.