To wonder why more parents don't encourage daughters to freeze eggs?

[alesndra]

I know , I know - money! But there's so many more parents that help out their children by buying them housing or contributing large sums towards the wedding. Why isn't egg freezing a more common "gift"?

For example, I grew up quite comfortable and my parents wanted to help me build up a safety net. When I finished uni they bought me a flat in central London (for which I am immensely grateful) and paid a substantial amount towards my wedding (again, very very thankful for this). So they clearly have money and were willing to use it to help me out in life. Similarly now, I've mentioned we might do IVF and parents have said if they can help out financially they are very willing. So... why is it that so few girls are encouraged by their parents at age 18-25 to freeze eggs by their parents? Why, among all of my friends, even ones who went to private school and come from super rich backgrounds, have none of us been "gifted" an egg freezing round but many got flats etc? Not ungrateful but just wondering why culturally it's not as common when it could save so many tears, stress and even money down the line to be used on unsuccessful IVF rounds as egg quality declines?
I feel like this is 100% something I would "gift" my daughter, ahead of for example cars or flats. Or am I missing something?

why? it's a true statement. I've said for years that as animals we should probably become infertile when we are overpopulated. I understand it's an emotional thing but what will all these people born end up doing when ai etc is poised to replace us? As someone said on something I read earlier, 'just because the technology exists, it doesn't mean we should use it'

Pretty insensitive yeah but it wouldn't have mattered if I had froze my eggs at 18 or 118 I would have still struggled.

I started ttc at 29 and never did, and don’t think it would have made much difference had I frozen my eggs ten years earlier ( this was 35 years ago, egg freezing was not a thing).

I've discussed this with my daughter. She's 26 and her partner already has 2 children, and is about to start a degree, so very little likelihood of them having another child any time soon.

My daughter is put off by the cost.

Because i want them to think about their fertility when they are young and choose to have them at the right time biologically, not freeze eggs and assume that takes care of it.

Freezing eggs doesn't solve all fertility problems.

Its my personal opinion (and i appreciate others don't share it) that older parents can lack the patience and energy for young children, it leads to a different parenting style that can be passive. We are biologically not supposed to be parenting toddlers while menopausal!

I respect your opinion but we could apply the ‘we aren’t supposed to’ to so many things. We aren’t ‘supposed’ to be able to survive loads of illness we have medical intervention for. We aren’t supposed to go to the moon etc.

My sister has been trying to have a baby for years & I really hope it happens for her, she will be in her 40’s now as she’s currently 39 and I know she would be the best and most attentive mum. way better equipped (financially & emotionally) than my cousin who’s been having babies since she was 19.

Sounds a bit too Handmaid Tale to me. Back to Gilead you go

I don't think it would occur to many parents. My dm had us in the late 70's and 80's, ivf was really new then, a new scienctific discovery on Tomorrows world ( I still picture a baby growing in a massive test tube even now based on news reports of "The first test tube baby". Even though egg freezing was possible it didn't really become commercially wide spread until the 2000's. That's only 25 yrs ago so parents of women currently in their 30's who are probably in their late 50's / early 60's are unlikely to have widespread experience of egg freezing as a precautionary measure.