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To be embarrassed to be from Hull right now?

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Chester23 · 03/08/2024 16:09

These "protests" just look like a load of people out for a fight. People on live steams talking about going to get beer and seem to be having a great time.
Causes are lost because of reasons like this? Why would I support you when you are destroying my city? Setting fire to bins? Throwing all sorts at the police. I can't support this.

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LunaNorth · 05/08/2024 21:28

I don’t mean to disparage the place. The people are second to none, and the pride Hull found during its City of Culture tenure genuinely moved me.

Livelovebehappy · 05/08/2024 21:35

Avalane · 05/08/2024 19:35

My parents were immigrants expats in Spain.

You sum up the British abroad, in their expat communities too! Speaking only English, British bars, food and shops. Using local services. Complaining that ‘a Spanish family has bought a house on ‘our’ urbanisation.

Absolutely don’t condone that either. If people move to a country, the least they should do is embrace the culture of that country, learn the language. Instead a lot of ex pats don’t learn the language, want to have their own bars, only mix with other ex pats. It’s just divisive and causes resentment, similar to what we have here.

OriginalUsername2 · 05/08/2024 21:43

TheSnootiestFox · 05/08/2024 13:33

Not read the full thread so apologies, but I have lived within 20 miles of Hull for pretty much all of my life.

I became ashamed to be from Hull when Libby Squires was dragged off the street by a convicted sex offender from Poland pretending to be a taxi driver, and raped and murdered. When you can't walk down Beverley Rd without feeling you're in a different country, when I used to be scared for my ex husband working on Spring Bank because the kurdish communities would end up fighting between themselves and quite often used knives and he saw this with his own eyes regularly. When my 15 year old son marched in the first parade to mark the freedom of the city this year, was wearing Army cadet uniform and was followed round town by an Asian man shouting 'uniform, uniform' at him and gesturing angrily, and had to hide in Primark and ring his dad to collect him because he was too scared to get the bus home. When the same boy and his friend were physically assaulted (punched in the stomach) near The Deep at the age of 14 by a grown man screaming at them in an Eastern European language. When I took him to see a performance before Christmas at the City Hall and we walked through the city centre at about 10pm and the same boy and his younger brother, then 13 and 15, had a man screaming at them and he leant across the younger one to scream in the older one's face. My sons just kept walking as did I (who was about 10m behind them) because we were terrified, and the older one later said the random man had screamed the same word as the other man that had hit him. We ran it through Google translate and it's the Polish for bastard.

That's when I became ashamed of Hull and my granny who used to speak about how beautiful the place was before the war will be spinning in her grave in the cemetery on Chants Ave to see what's going on today. Now, while smashing up the city and assaulting police officers is indefensible, I am am well educated and articulate enough to be able to express my views in others ways. I know how to write to my MP, to hold a conversation and express a view properly and most importantly I am in a position where I can buy my boys out of needing to go to the city because I can (just) afford to live in the next door market town, send them to the outstanding state grammar school there and pay for them to do activities rather than hang around town. My partner is in a different league financially and lives in a beautiful village in North Yorkshire in a house worth nearly £700k and I ship out there when I've not got the kids and I've just inherited my mums detached cottage on the coast and will be moving there as soon as I've renovated it so I'm even further away from Hull but still within 20 miles.

But imagine you can't. Imagine you're stuck there and the city is full of aggressive foreign people, you're on the waiting list for a house for what seems like forever and your kids are going to a school like Stepney. I volunteered there earlier this year and they wax lyrical about the 39 languages that are spoken there. All I could see is British kids struggling to make progress because of the high amount of kids who can barely speak English and despaired.

You're limited by the education you had (or didn't have) because the schools in Hull have never been great and the jobs you have access to are all low skill, low pay and have 300 people applying for each. The cost of living is biting and you're tired, pissed off and scared for the future in a city you don't recognise any more and then you see a protest organised on Facebook. Because you can't see the far right influence, you come from a culture of drinking in town every weekend becaue there's been nothing else to do since you were a kid, you would have no clue how to write a formal letter to your MP or the police and crime commissioner or maybe even don't know who those people are, you're tired of living in a city you don't recognise and want better for your kids you go, you have a few beers and you listen to the speakers whipping up a frenzy and the next thing you know you're lobbing bricks and the Royal Hotel and being arrested.

I am in no way condoning what went on this week end but I certainly understand it, and for the prime minister to start spouting about how those involved will live to regret it is a national disgrace. He should be asking what the problems are in places like Hull and promising to address them, not berating those who feel so strongly about the loss of a city's identity that they demonstrate and end up being used by organisations like the EDL.

Sorry that's long but I it's something I feel very strongly about and half the people going on about how appalling it is and how the people involved have got the iq of a steak bake would hate to live somewhere like Hull, or Hartlepool or Boro, ans couldn't possibly empathise with those that do.

Posts like these have been eye-opening to me. I’ll admit my first impression was “scum” - a quick reaction to the shocking violence and looks of the people involved - but I really get what you’re saying.

Of course they’re not making educated decisions, of course they aren’t well turned out, of course they have bad teeth and unhealthy lifestyles.

I’m still sickened by it, especially when you see them laughing and joking - not too concerned about the “issue” in these moments are they, more riled up by the excitement of being bad boys. But I understand it more.

SerafinasGoose · 05/08/2024 21:49

TheSnootiestFox · 05/08/2024 20:55

Noone, least of all me, is saying that Hull doesn't have home grown issues and has as long as I can remember. Which makes it more nonsensical to have huge populations from completely different cultures with their own particular needs moving in and diluting the already scant resources. Honestly if you can't see why people are reacting the way they are then it's you with the problem. I repeat, I don't condone the behaviour but I most certainly understand it. And there was no chance of me having my drink spiked in the Polar Bear I can assure you. That most certainly would not have been my idea of a good night, I was down at Pepis and the pubs around the marina, or out of Hull in Kirk Ella or Swanland 😉

No. I don't see why people are reacting the way they are (to what, exactly?), nor do I condone the underlying sentiment fueling the violent protests which are a stain on my home city and currently many others.

I'm not a raging racist. I do not condone people of colour being made scapegoats for a very longstanding set of social circumstances which cannot be laid at their door.

And you claim I'm the one who's the problem?

Livelovebehappy · 05/08/2024 21:50

pointythings · 05/08/2024 19:18

@Livelovebehappy how you do define integration? Some people complain that 'they don't hear English spoken on the streets anymore'. So when my aunt, who is mid-70s, comes over and we go somewhere, are we not allowed to speak in Dutch to each other? Her English is good, but some things just need Dutch for her. Should I stop supporting the Netherlands in sports? Do I have to give up cooking Indonesian food for myself? Yes, those are extreme examples - but where do you draw the line?

I agree that if you come and live in a country, you should speak the language. Frankly, my English is a great deal better than that of many people who were born here. I also agree that you need to abide by the laws of the country you live in, and I am opposed to Islamic marriages, the Jewish divorce process and any form of genital mutilation including circumcision for boys for non-medical reasons (can you see why this is not a simple question?). Those are my opinions. Others will have different opinions on what integration is.

It means different things to different people. I can only speak for myself when I say the bare minimum is actually learning the language of the country you’ve chosen to live in. Otherwise the biggest barrier is right there - not being able to speak the language means you can’t integrate because speaking to each other is an integral part of integration. Make efforts to talk to the people you have come to live amongst, rather than wanting to have your own little village with your own people, and being hostile to others around you. Understand and respect our culture. I actually wouldn’t ever expect your aunt not to speak her own language when speaking to her friends and family - that’s part of her identity, as is eating what foods you like.

LunaNorth · 05/08/2024 22:03

Bit hard to integrate with people who are a misinformed Facebook post away from stoving your face in with a brick, though, isn’t it?

TheSnootiestFox · 05/08/2024 22:10

LunaNorth · 05/08/2024 22:03

Bit hard to integrate with people who are a misinformed Facebook post away from stoving your face in with a brick, though, isn’t it?

If they hadn't spent several years previously making parts of the city no go areas and knife fighting amongst themselves in the streets in broad daylight then they may well have had a different response.. ...

TheSnootiestFox · 05/08/2024 22:13

LunaNorth · 05/08/2024 21:12

Dear me. Are you trying to be insufferable?

No more than you are it seems .

LunaNorth · 05/08/2024 22:21

Racism is racism, whether it lives in a nice market town or on a boarded-up council estate.

Whether it uses euphemisms and platitudes or just calls brown people ‘P@kis’.

Whether it’s dressed in Fairfax and Favour or Primark.

Whether it goes out and gets its hands dirty, or sits in its detached house typing justifications for disgusting behaviour on its laptop.

One feeds the other. There is no room for ‘understanding’ why an adult chooses to go and hurl bricks at people they have decided are ‘other’ because they’re pissed off at life. All that does is feed the beast.

The only times I’ve ever been a victim of any kind of crime have been at the hands of white English people. Does that mean you’d understand if I came round and threw bricks at your boyfriend’s £700k house?

TheSnootiestFox · 05/08/2024 22:38

LunaNorth · 05/08/2024 22:21

Racism is racism, whether it lives in a nice market town or on a boarded-up council estate.

Whether it uses euphemisms and platitudes or just calls brown people ‘P@kis’.

Whether it’s dressed in Fairfax and Favour or Primark.

Whether it goes out and gets its hands dirty, or sits in its detached house typing justifications for disgusting behaviour on its laptop.

One feeds the other. There is no room for ‘understanding’ why an adult chooses to go and hurl bricks at people they have decided are ‘other’ because they’re pissed off at life. All that does is feed the beast.

The only times I’ve ever been a victim of any kind of crime have been at the hands of white English people. Does that mean you’d understand if I came round and threw bricks at your boyfriend’s £700k house?

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I'd assume there'd be some reason to attack him so probably. We'll have to agree to disagree on this one then. I just don't understand why you can't see what I can 🤷‍♀️

Racism, by its definition is thinking that one race is superior to another and discrimination against members of the perceived inferior race. Racism absolutely isn't thinking that there's too many people in a small country and some of the arrivals from overseas behave in ways I find abhorrent, for example assaulting children in the street. People throw the word Racism around far too readily and nobody dares challenge it. And I'm typing on my phone as it goes.....

MissingMoominMamma · 05/08/2024 22:40

Give that dog some extra treats!

MissingMoominMamma · 05/08/2024 22:48

TheSnootiestFox · 05/08/2024 22:38

I'd assume there'd be some reason to attack him so probably. We'll have to agree to disagree on this one then. I just don't understand why you can't see what I can 🤷‍♀️

Racism, by its definition is thinking that one race is superior to another and discrimination against members of the perceived inferior race. Racism absolutely isn't thinking that there's too many people in a small country and some of the arrivals from overseas behave in ways I find abhorrent, for example assaulting children in the street. People throw the word Racism around far too readily and nobody dares challenge it. And I'm typing on my phone as it goes.....

I work in the leisure industry (water sports). The people who cause us the most problems are all white British. They steal, are overly harsh with their kids, disrespect our equipment. I’ve had several lie blatantly about being told our rules.

Thus far, I’ve never had an issue with anyone other than white British (which I am also). We have many immigrants who come to enjoy our facilities too.

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:17

TheSnootiestFox · 05/08/2024 13:33

Not read the full thread so apologies, but I have lived within 20 miles of Hull for pretty much all of my life.

I became ashamed to be from Hull when Libby Squires was dragged off the street by a convicted sex offender from Poland pretending to be a taxi driver, and raped and murdered. When you can't walk down Beverley Rd without feeling you're in a different country, when I used to be scared for my ex husband working on Spring Bank because the kurdish communities would end up fighting between themselves and quite often used knives and he saw this with his own eyes regularly. When my 15 year old son marched in the first parade to mark the freedom of the city this year, was wearing Army cadet uniform and was followed round town by an Asian man shouting 'uniform, uniform' at him and gesturing angrily, and had to hide in Primark and ring his dad to collect him because he was too scared to get the bus home. When the same boy and his friend were physically assaulted (punched in the stomach) near The Deep at the age of 14 by a grown man screaming at them in an Eastern European language. When I took him to see a performance before Christmas at the City Hall and we walked through the city centre at about 10pm and the same boy and his younger brother, then 13 and 15, had a man screaming at them and he leant across the younger one to scream in the older one's face. My sons just kept walking as did I (who was about 10m behind them) because we were terrified, and the older one later said the random man had screamed the same word as the other man that had hit him. We ran it through Google translate and it's the Polish for bastard.

That's when I became ashamed of Hull and my granny who used to speak about how beautiful the place was before the war will be spinning in her grave in the cemetery on Chants Ave to see what's going on today. Now, while smashing up the city and assaulting police officers is indefensible, I am am well educated and articulate enough to be able to express my views in others ways. I know how to write to my MP, to hold a conversation and express a view properly and most importantly I am in a position where I can buy my boys out of needing to go to the city because I can (just) afford to live in the next door market town, send them to the outstanding state grammar school there and pay for them to do activities rather than hang around town. My partner is in a different league financially and lives in a beautiful village in North Yorkshire in a house worth nearly £700k and I ship out there when I've not got the kids and I've just inherited my mums detached cottage on the coast and will be moving there as soon as I've renovated it so I'm even further away from Hull but still within 20 miles.

But imagine you can't. Imagine you're stuck there and the city is full of aggressive foreign people, you're on the waiting list for a house for what seems like forever and your kids are going to a school like Stepney. I volunteered there earlier this year and they wax lyrical about the 39 languages that are spoken there. All I could see is British kids struggling to make progress because of the high amount of kids who can barely speak English and despaired.

You're limited by the education you had (or didn't have) because the schools in Hull have never been great and the jobs you have access to are all low skill, low pay and have 300 people applying for each. The cost of living is biting and you're tired, pissed off and scared for the future in a city you don't recognise any more and then you see a protest organised on Facebook. Because you can't see the far right influence, you come from a culture of drinking in town every weekend becaue there's been nothing else to do since you were a kid, you would have no clue how to write a formal letter to your MP or the police and crime commissioner or maybe even don't know who those people are, you're tired of living in a city you don't recognise and want better for your kids you go, you have a few beers and you listen to the speakers whipping up a frenzy and the next thing you know you're lobbing bricks and the Royal Hotel and being arrested.

I am in no way condoning what went on this week end but I certainly understand it, and for the prime minister to start spouting about how those involved will live to regret it is a national disgrace. He should be asking what the problems are in places like Hull and promising to address them, not berating those who feel so strongly about the loss of a city's identity that they demonstrate and end up being used by organisations like the EDL.

Sorry that's long but I it's something I feel very strongly about and half the people going on about how appalling it is and how the people involved have got the iq of a steak bake would hate to live somewhere like Hull, or Hartlepool or Boro, ans couldn't possibly empathise with those that do.

Political choices have brewed resentment. Choices like austerity, Brexit, the 2 child benefit cap, leaving asylum seekers in limbo, not funding education, not funding mental health teams, stoking division using hateful speech, raising taxes to an all-time high and a Tory government who were in it for themselves all the way have resulted in a perfect storm. Blame economic and social inequality and stop projecting your discontent onto immigrants.

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:21

There are far more British men raping and assaulting women than there are Polish. Stop scapegoating.

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:24

Livelovebehappy · 05/08/2024 18:39

But that’s how she feels. Who are you to challenge that? It’s not about it not being ‘white enough’, it’s about not wanting the crime that a lot of cultures being to the country. If you don’t like people voicing that, then I’m afraid that comes under the heading of ‘tough’. You don’t have to agree with her sentiments, but you shouldn’t minimise her concerns, which btw are shared with many moderate people.

The concerns she has are related to social and economic inequality - a political choice made over many years. If you leave people in limbo for years, they will inevitable develop health and well being issues.

LadyPenelope68 · 06/08/2024 04:26

WickieRoy · 03/08/2024 16:14

Not just Hull. There's a large protest in my naice seaside town this afternoon. Gutted.

Is this Lytham?

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:28

Livelovebehappy · 05/08/2024 21:50

It means different things to different people. I can only speak for myself when I say the bare minimum is actually learning the language of the country you’ve chosen to live in. Otherwise the biggest barrier is right there - not being able to speak the language means you can’t integrate because speaking to each other is an integral part of integration. Make efforts to talk to the people you have come to live amongst, rather than wanting to have your own little village with your own people, and being hostile to others around you. Understand and respect our culture. I actually wouldn’t ever expect your aunt not to speak her own language when speaking to her friends and family - that’s part of her identity, as is eating what foods you like.

Have you considered volunteering with refugees to teach them English?

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:29

Fluufer · 04/08/2024 11:11

What you actually mean when you say "people feel ignored". Practically speaking, what does that mean? What voice or rights do you feel that group doesn't have that others do?

She is conflating the hardship of political choices (austerity) with immigration.

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:32

OriginalUsername2 · 05/08/2024 21:43

Posts like these have been eye-opening to me. I’ll admit my first impression was “scum” - a quick reaction to the shocking violence and looks of the people involved - but I really get what you’re saying.

Of course they’re not making educated decisions, of course they aren’t well turned out, of course they have bad teeth and unhealthy lifestyles.

I’m still sickened by it, especially when you see them laughing and joking - not too concerned about the “issue” in these moments are they, more riled up by the excitement of being bad boys. But I understand it more.

Understand what, exactly? How to pander to racism and succumb to docisl media brainwashing? What do you understand exactly?

GeneralReflection · 06/08/2024 04:44

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:17

Political choices have brewed resentment. Choices like austerity, Brexit, the 2 child benefit cap, leaving asylum seekers in limbo, not funding education, not funding mental health teams, stoking division using hateful speech, raising taxes to an all-time high and a Tory government who were in it for themselves all the way have resulted in a perfect storm. Blame economic and social inequality and stop projecting your discontent onto immigrants.

Edited

Fair point. I think this is divide and rule politics coming back to bite itself on the backside.

Livelovebehappy · 06/08/2024 08:36

LunaNorth · 05/08/2024 21:11

As a fellow Hullensian, I applaud this post. Hull has had problems for the whole fifty years of my life, immigration or no immigration.

I was driven around Greatfield Estate as a Sociology A Level field trip - to observe the deprivation, believe it or not.

It’s been no bloody Shangri La at any point since World War 2.

Of course cities have always had problems. But the problems have trebled in recent years, because not only have we got our own homegrown issues, but hav3 been importing more to add to it. People can generally see the behaviour happening in their towns and cities from our own idiots, but it becomes a problem when we are introducing others from abroad into the mix, imposed on us by uncontrolled immigration.

Livelovebehappy · 06/08/2024 08:40

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:28

Have you considered volunteering with refugees to teach them English?

Nope. I actually work. Fulltime. And have no desire to teach English to people who have chosen not to learn it. There are English classes available in every college. It’s not the lack of teaching, it’s the lack of wanting to learn/integrate. You can’t force people to do something they’ve made a choice not to do.

Livelovebehappy · 06/08/2024 08:45

mumedu · 06/08/2024 04:24

The concerns she has are related to social and economic inequality - a political choice made over many years. If you leave people in limbo for years, they will inevitable develop health and well being issues.

We don’t know the backgrounds of the people rioting. They may hold down good jobs, might not be disadvantaged socially or economically. Thugs don’t necessarily equal no job, no house, no prospects. Some might, but equally some might not. Hence some wearing masks. They don’t want identifying to friends, family, employers.

bergamotorange · 06/08/2024 08:52

Livelovebehappy · 06/08/2024 08:40

Nope. I actually work. Fulltime. And have no desire to teach English to people who have chosen not to learn it. There are English classes available in every college. It’s not the lack of teaching, it’s the lack of wanting to learn/integrate. You can’t force people to do something they’ve made a choice not to do.

Most people who move do learn English.

There have been big cuts to the funding for English lessons over recent years, so lessons are much less available than they were.

There is also a difficulty because those whose visa/asylum claims have not been processed are restricted from accessing education and of course have no funds to pay for lessons themselves.

There is factual information available e.g. https://migrationobservatory.ox.ac.uk/resources/briefings/english-language-use-and-proficiency-of-migrants-in-the-uk/

English language use and proficiency of migrants in the UK - Migration Observatory

This briefing examines how well migrants to the UK speak English, use of the English language at home, and language-related problems in work or education.

https://migrationobservatory.ox.ac.uk/resources/briefings/english-language-use-and-proficiency-of-migrants-in-the-uk

Livelovebehappy · 06/08/2024 08:59

bergamotorange · 06/08/2024 08:52

Most people who move do learn English.

There have been big cuts to the funding for English lessons over recent years, so lessons are much less available than they were.

There is also a difficulty because those whose visa/asylum claims have not been processed are restricted from accessing education and of course have no funds to pay for lessons themselves.

There is factual information available e.g. https://migrationobservatory.ox.ac.uk/resources/briefings/english-language-use-and-proficiency-of-migrants-in-the-uk/

Well of course access to English lessons, or any other education, is going to be restricted whilst their applications are being looked at. We don’t know if their applications are genuine, or are going to be successful, so why would we we invest our very limited education resources in teaching them English? And the processing delays are another big issue. Far too long. The Government need to either make good on their promise to speed up the process, or take France up on their offer to have a processing centre located there.