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Michael Jackson

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C4tintherug · 03/08/2024 12:00

Why has Michael Jackson not been cancelled?

I don’t understand why a musical has been made out of his music, and why his music is played at school discos and is still everywhere.

After I watched the documentary where the men described how he raped them, I won’t listen to his music at all, in fact, I feel a sense of disgust when it is played publicly.

I don’t understand why we seem to have cancelled everyone else except him. Is it because he died before he was officially found guilty?

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Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:12

C4tintherug · 03/08/2024 16:50

When a man is not charged with sexual assault but we all know he did it- because there’s no proof- it’s always his word against her word and to convict somebody you need solid evidence.
Is this not the same thing with MJ…. his word against their words…. And he was lawyered up to the max, I wouldn’t have expected any other outcome.

Isnt sexual assault one of the hardest crimes to get a conviction from?

if my child said similar I would always believe them and I am saddened for the poster who is saying that if a jury finds them not guilty then that’s the end of it.. 😔

Anybody accused of what MJ had been would have been foolish beyond reason to stand trial without securing the services of the best lawyers they could afford.

Why then, is it always the assertion on MN that if you can afford good lawyers, you are somehow buying a not guilty verdict ? I saw the same argument applied on a thread some time ago regarding the woman who had a seizure behind the wheel of her car and drove into a school yard, killing two little girls. She had incontrovertible medical evidence of a seizure during which she lost consciousness and was found not to be responsible for their deaths. When it came to light that she was quite wealthy, those who had supported her changed their tune in the same way - her expensive lawyers got her off. It was nonsense then and it’s nonsense now.

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 17:13

Ghosttofu99 · 03/08/2024 16:29

You are not wrong op. Any other man would be ‘cancelled’ for regularly inviting other people’s young children into their bed regardless if anything sexual took place because it is entirely inappropriate and grooming behaviour. But because MJ was briefly the most famous person on the planet he gets ‘a pass’ from way too many people.

Most reasonable reasonable people, including MJ fans, who watched the doc you mentioned would be disgusted at his music still being celebrated at public events too.

For context, my DP was a massive MJ fan, had tickets to his tour and was devastated when he died but he will not listen to MJ again.

He doesn't 'get a pass' though, because he is dead. His music gets a pass because he is no longer here to profit by it. There's a point to cancelling an artist by not buying their music/cancelling their stage shows. 1) it's punitive. Hitting them where it hurts, their bank balance or their need to perform. 2) If their position as a result of being wealthy and famous made it easier to abuse, stripping them of those two things along with high public knowledge make it much harder for them to continue abusing.
None of this applies to Jackson because he is dead. There's nothing we can do to punish or prevent his actions now. What would be the point?

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 17:13

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:04

Wow, you’re really reaching on this one. We don’t, just as we don’t know that they were. But there is a jury selection process in which the jurors are questioned as to their suitability to serve and to uncover any bias either way. And defence lawyers don’t ’hand pick’ juries. During jury selection in the US, it’s the judge who decides what questions should be posed to potential jurors to decide their suitability to serve. And the list of questions is drawn up after consultation with all parties, not just the defence.

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No not reaching, I was asking, I am genuinely interested so thanks for answering. Although no amount of talking will ever make me change my mind, I believe he is guilty, I always have and I always will

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:15

Mirabai · 03/08/2024 16:15

It’s not merely opinion that MJ has a face very disfigure by plastic surgery.

I wasn’t alluding to his facial features, I was answering the poster who was ultimately deleted for the comment about MJ fans being bizarre.

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:16

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 16:59

Cancelling an abuser is about not enabling them to profit from a position which they have held during times when they were abusers and may have used, directly or indirectly to procure victims. If Gary Glitter, like Jackson, had died without being brought to justice, chances are his music might still be played. But whilst he is still alive and could still use any profit/status from the sale of his records to continue abusing, there is purpose to cancelling.
There's no point cancelling Jackson. It wouldn't serve any purpose. I still wouldn't be interested in the musical of his life, but since he won't benefit in any way shape or form, I don't have a problem with it existing.

Your post literally makes no sense at all

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:19

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:16

Your post literally makes no sense at all

It actually does you know. Cancelling an artist is about hitting them where it hurts. You can’t do that to a dead person. They have nothing to lose.

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 17:24

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:16

Your post literally makes no sense at all

In what way? Did I write it in Swahili?

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:25

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:19

It actually does you know. Cancelling an artist is about hitting them where it hurts. You can’t do that to a dead person. They have nothing to lose.

No it’s not, it’s about cancelling their legacy and impact on society.

Youre welcome

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:26

I think the MJ fan club has been rattled. Bet you this thread makes the newsletter this month

ChishiyaBat · 03/08/2024 17:29

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:26

I think the MJ fan club has been rattled. Bet you this thread makes the newsletter this month

If it doesn't get deleted first like most of the other MJ threads.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:30

jen337 · 03/08/2024 16:11

Also Are you a teacher?? Shouldn’t you be safeguarding teenage girls not making excuses for nonces.

How on earth is this making excuses for ‘nonces’. It’s pointing out the difference between asking a girl out in the belief they’re older than they are, and asking them out knowing their real age. I well remember being mistaken for at least 18-19 when I was only 14, and a lot of it was intentional on my part. We may not like it, and knowing what I know now, I cringe when I look back, but let’s not pretend it doesn’t happen.

pam290358 · 03/08/2024 17:44

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 17:25

No it’s not, it’s about cancelling their legacy and impact on society.

Youre welcome

Well no, the cancel culture is about holding celebrities accountable for their actions and ostracising them from their ‘communities’ thereby hitting them where it hurts - in their ability to perform and earn their living - not to mention making it difficult for them to continue their ‘transgressions’. Difficult to do that when they’re dead. And MJ wasn’t convicted of anything, so his legacy and impact on society are still ‘celebrated’ if that’s the way you want to look at it - music still played regularly, dance videos accessible online etc. As I said, not really much of a fan of MJ, but some of the opinions expressed here say a lot about the double standards applied.

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 17:51

pam290358 · 03/08/2024 17:44

Well no, the cancel culture is about holding celebrities accountable for their actions and ostracising them from their ‘communities’ thereby hitting them where it hurts - in their ability to perform and earn their living - not to mention making it difficult for them to continue their ‘transgressions’. Difficult to do that when they’re dead. And MJ wasn’t convicted of anything, so his legacy and impact on society are still ‘celebrated’ if that’s the way you want to look at it - music still played regularly, dance videos accessible online etc. As I said, not really much of a fan of MJ, but some of the opinions expressed here say a lot about the double standards applied.

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Exactly.

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 18:11

pam290358 · 03/08/2024 17:44

Well no, the cancel culture is about holding celebrities accountable for their actions and ostracising them from their ‘communities’ thereby hitting them where it hurts - in their ability to perform and earn their living - not to mention making it difficult for them to continue their ‘transgressions’. Difficult to do that when they’re dead. And MJ wasn’t convicted of anything, so his legacy and impact on society are still ‘celebrated’ if that’s the way you want to look at it - music still played regularly, dance videos accessible online etc. As I said, not really much of a fan of MJ, but some of the opinions expressed here say a lot about the double standards applied.

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No it’s about putting out a message to society that there is always a consequence to your actions. Dead or alive.

Keep on going with that he wasn’t convicted. He is literally in the same club as Saville. Neither were convicted but we all know exactly what they are.

It’s actually sickening that there’s people on a parenting site excusing him

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 18:23

Twistybranch · 03/08/2024 18:11

No it’s about putting out a message to society that there is always a consequence to your actions. Dead or alive.

Keep on going with that he wasn’t convicted. He is literally in the same club as Saville. Neither were convicted but we all know exactly what they are.

It’s actually sickening that there’s people on a parenting site excusing him

Not excusing what he did in any way shape or form. We should have cancelled him when he was alive. The point is, there WASN'T a consequence for him personally. There should have been, but there wasn't. And cancelling his music now isn't any sort of 'consequence' for him, personally, because he is dead.

I certainly make no excuses for the man. I think he was guilty as hell. I just don't see what removing the one good thing he did (if you like his music) will do to mitigate the immensely bad thing he did.
Willing to own I may be wrong, but I promise you I have no desire to excuse the man in any way for crimes I absolutely believe he committed.

Getonwitit · 03/08/2024 18:25

Brexile · 03/08/2024 15:19

A great dancer, though I can't stand to watch him because he was a creep. The popularity of his music is a mystery to me - it just sounds like a creepier falsetto-ier version of what every other mediocre pop star was doing at the time. Maybe Jackson's music is ephemeral after all, and will be forgotten when the last Gen Xer is gone. We were the ones who all seemed obsessed with the man in one way or another, whether we collected his albums or hid behind the sofa when he was on the telly!

I am proud to say i never bought a single record of his, i always found him a creep, he made my teeth itch from a very young age. Elton john has had the same effect on me since i first saw him on tv when i was about 5.

Mirabai · 03/08/2024 18:27

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 15:03

Once more with feeling, that’s an opinion. Doesn’t mean a thing in the absence of evidence to back it up. And the BBC have no room to talk on this subject do they ?

No it’s a fact. Savile should not have been allowed around children by the BBC. Are you going to say Savile is innocent now too?

Mirabai · 03/08/2024 18:30

ObelixtheGaul · 03/08/2024 18:23

Not excusing what he did in any way shape or form. We should have cancelled him when he was alive. The point is, there WASN'T a consequence for him personally. There should have been, but there wasn't. And cancelling his music now isn't any sort of 'consequence' for him, personally, because he is dead.

I certainly make no excuses for the man. I think he was guilty as hell. I just don't see what removing the one good thing he did (if you like his music) will do to mitigate the immensely bad thing he did.
Willing to own I may be wrong, but I promise you I have no desire to excuse the man in any way for crimes I absolutely believe he committed.

I don’t think the consequences for him are the point. The point is the consequences for his victims who have been disbelieved and harassed. And for society. We had to grow up as a society and face that “stars” can be serious sexual abusers otherwise it will happen again.

PhillipMontyTomato · 03/08/2024 18:35

I think the musical is in poor taste. I can imagine a very dark and disturbing musical/play that could be made about his life but I doubt his estate would give permission for his music to be played.

Mirabai · 03/08/2024 18:36

Rosscameasdoody · 03/08/2024 17:15

I wasn’t alluding to his facial features, I was answering the poster who was ultimately deleted for the comment about MJ fans being bizarre.

Fandom is a very bizarre phenomenon in any case. But certainly fandom of a man with serious drug and alcohol problems, a face disfigured by surgery, a weird falsetto voice and a self-proclaimed habit of sharing a bed with little boys is among the most bizarre.

RoseUnder · 03/08/2024 18:46

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On the radio.
At school discos.
At parties and holiday camps.
I don’t own any MJ records and I don’t think they have him on their Spotify playlists.

CantHoldMeDown · 03/08/2024 19:11

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Abouttthat · 03/08/2024 19:32

It's interesting watching the legal secretary of Evan Chandlers lawyer. Money was certainly the focus from the outset rather than 'justice'.

feellikeanalien · 03/08/2024 19:37

I can't imagine any other male pop star who was around at the same time as Michael Jackson who admitted to sharing his bed with unrelated little boys being met with the same reaction as Jackson was.

The childlike persona which he presented could have been genuine or it could have been an excellent way to cove up his true character. I remember watching Finding Neverland and thinking that, at the very least, he was a seriously disturbed individual.

I still remember Jarvis Cocker at the Brits in 1996 after the thoroughly bizarre performance of Earth Song.

Michael Jackson was clearly a troubled person and I think that the musical is purely a money spinning exercise which really didn't need to be made.