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Michael Jackson

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C4tintherug · 03/08/2024 12:00

Why has Michael Jackson not been cancelled?

I don’t understand why a musical has been made out of his music, and why his music is played at school discos and is still everywhere.

After I watched the documentary where the men described how he raped them, I won’t listen to his music at all, in fact, I feel a sense of disgust when it is played publicly.

I don’t understand why we seem to have cancelled everyone else except him. Is it because he died before he was officially found guilty?

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ObelixtheGaul · 12/08/2024 11:01

Firefly1987 · 12/08/2024 02:01

@saidthebellsofstclements I don't get it, one of you described a pub when it was in actual fact a restaurant or vice versa? Yeah that's completely understandable and nothing like what James alleges. He said he was molested multiple times in one place when in actual fact it didn't exist until after 1992 when he claimed the abuse ended. It's not a small detail it completely throws out the idea MJ dropped kids once they were a certain age and wasn't interested in anyone but young boys. Not only that but James' description of abuse happening in the train station was meant to be at the very start of it happening, so being 16 at the time does not tie in with that at all.

@Mirabai yep the personal attacks always start sooner or later don't they. I was a fan, like I've been a fan of lots of artists and bands. So I've read the evidence over the years and I'm just not convinced either way. My "excuse" is there is far too much misinformation on both sides to ever know the truth of what happened. What's your excuse for defending a CONVICTED baby killer on the LL thread? Why are you not angry that an evil bitch tortured and killed babies? Do you think it's only ok to question evidence as long as the accused isn't a suspected paedophile? You ignore the mountains of evidence against her.

I’m 53. I thought he was a pervy sqeaky freak then and I was right. He wasn’t cool he was just really weird.

So you were too old then-not a kid whilst he was in his prime so you don't get the appeal he had at the time to these kids and somehow think he needed to build a fairground to get them to spend any time with him. Despite the fact he's always said "I've never invited them into my room they always ask to stay with me"-not that he should've allowed it of course. Yeah he was weird, he hardly had a normal upbringing did he, he had to act like an adult at eight years old and experienced violence at the hands of his father who admitted to whipping him.

@kkloo It sounds like you're saying that you don't think that it would be psychologically or emotionally abusive to make a little child the centre of your world, share the intimacy of a bed etc. and then ditch them afterwards for a younger boy? Do you not think that that could cause trauma?
I don't know if any of that is true as I have no idea how often he spent time with them or the nature of their friendships. How do we know he ditched the boys? Some he remained friends with and some would lose interest in him no doubt as they grew older. And they continued to speak very highly of MJ until they came out with the allegations, so do Culkin, Feldman etc. to this day. Wade and James did not at any point up until then say they were traumatised by their friendship with MJ. If they suffered any trauma it's most likely to be from having messed up home lives and shit parents.

Your last question shows that you just don't understand grooming. Victims of it will often have extremely complex relationships with their abusers. They could love and hate them. They could be angry with them and also feel sorry for them. They could wish they never met them while also wishing they could be with them. They could know that what happened was wrong and fucked them up but also be jealous if he did it to others and that they weren't 'special' like they thought.

I'd probably believe Wade and James if they just wanted to tell their story, but no Wade wants over 1 billion dollars from Jackson's estate! James wants money too. Blaming his estate and trying to get money out of it just smacks of greed. They had their chance for justice whilst he was alive, of course you would question someone who stands to gain millions and millions from people believing their allegations. They know they can't get justice now from the person that allegedly hurt them, or ever see them in jail, or get money off them whilst they were alive-but being a multi-millionaire now MJ is dead will help? OK then.

I don't think he was in his prime in the 90s. I'm old enough to remember the Thriller album in the eighties, when he still looked like a human being. That was, for a very long time, the biggest selling album of all time. By the 90s he had become a weird parody of himself. The 'Wacko Jacko' stuff, like sleeping in an Oxygen Tent in the 80s was later revealed as a marketing stunt. By the 90s, how truly bizarre he had become was coming to the fore. His music would never reach the heights of Thriller, or the follow up, 'Bad'.

Like some of the posters of around my age (50) I found him creepy in the 90s, but the Jackson I remember as a child in the Thriller era, not so much. He was linked with adult women, then, not small boys, although later it would be said that this was to hide what was already evident to those closest to him.
His prime as a solo artist was the 80s. The 90s was when he really started to lose both the plot and his audience. His music wasn't centre-stage any more. I could tell you most of the tracks from his 80s career, and I wasn't even a big fan. Beyond that awful earth song I can't even remember the title of that Jarvis Cocker took the piss out of his performance of on the Brit Awards, I'd be hard pushed to remember what he did musically in that period, but I can remember the growing concerns about his behaviour around kids.

Maybe it is different if you were a kid in the 90s and 90s Jackson was the first you knew. For me, the 90s was when he started to fall apart musically and personally. He still drew the crowds right up until his death, because he still knew how to put on a show, but his music wasn't making the money it once was.
The point about the money Robson wants from his estate is one of the reasons it's been hard to nail Jackson. Victims have been dogged by claims that either they or their parents just want the cash. If this had been the dirty old man down the road who had no money or fame, I think the evidence presented by Robson and Safechuck would have satisfied anybody enough. But because there's potential financial gain, it muddies the waters. Jackson's fans see the pound signs. There's certainly an argument for the pound signs being a big reason why parents were still allowing their kids to stay over with him at the time of the Martin Bashir documentary, despite the by now we'll and truly open concerns.

Even if you didn't believe the rumours, if that was somebody on your street who didn't have the money and fame who had that level of suspicion attached to them, your kids wouldn't have been anywhere near that house. So why were the kids still round there? Because the parents chucked their kids to the potential wolf for what Jackson could 'do' for them financially.
The whole thing stinks, from the man himself to the parents who threw their children at him even after his well-publicised trial.

saidthebellsofstclements · 12/08/2024 11:03

Until his car broke down and a certain Chandler parent stopped to offer assistance, he had not met their child. That's not a rumour. It's fact.

@CosmicDaisyChain
That worked out well for him, a negligent parent offered their child to him unsupervised, if someone did that with me I'd report them. He took them up on their offer and shared a bed with their child because he was a pedophile.
This is becoming a pointless discussion, nobody will ever convince me he is a child abusing piece of shit and vice versa.

CosmicDaisyChain · 12/08/2024 11:24

saidthebellsofstclements · 12/08/2024 11:03

Until his car broke down and a certain Chandler parent stopped to offer assistance, he had not met their child. That's not a rumour. It's fact.

@CosmicDaisyChain
That worked out well for him, a negligent parent offered their child to him unsupervised, if someone did that with me I'd report them. He took them up on their offer and shared a bed with their child because he was a pedophile.
This is becoming a pointless discussion, nobody will ever convince me he is a child abusing piece of shit and vice versa.

You might want to edit the last sentence as it sort of contradicts yourself.

NaiceMaker · 12/08/2024 11:57

Because he was insanely talented and produced a fantastic body of work.

Rolf Harris paintings, Justin Lee Collins hyperactive ramblings, Jimmy Savilles TV shows aren't a loss to the world.

The same reason why Jimmy Page, David Bowie, Steven Tyler, Mike Tyson, Mohammed Ali (not a sex offender but had a lot of views around interracial marriage etc that wouldn't be tolerated now) etc won't be cancelled.

A lot of people see a reason to seperate the person from the art. So long as the art is good 😀

Mirabai · 12/08/2024 12:01

Jimmy Page in particular has avoided opprobrium merely by the skin of his teeth.

Nonetheless it’s hard to credit anyoneputting MJ’s musically very basic ditties on a par with Bowie.

K0OLA1D · 12/08/2024 12:02

BeaRF75 · 03/08/2024 12:14

You can separate the individual from their work. As I have said often, Caravaggio was a murderer but his work is still displayed all over the world and is highly regarded.

I don't think you can.

I was a huge Lost Prophets fan. Huge. Loved Ian Wakins back in the day.

Couldn't listen to them now.

Iwasafool · 12/08/2024 15:06

Meredusoleil · 09/08/2024 20:01

They were groomed too.

Good grief, adults with children being groomed to hand their children over? They weren't fit then, maybe not criminal just not quite the full shilling?

Firefly1987 · 13/08/2024 03:45

Mirabai · 12/08/2024 08:37

@Firefly1987

yep the personal attacks always start sooner or later don't they. I was a fan, like I've been a fan of lots of artists and bands. So I've read the evidence over the years and I'm just not convinced either way. My "excuse" is there is far too much misinformation on both sides to ever know the truth of what happened. What's your excuse for defending a CONVICTED baby killer on the LL thread? Why are you not angry that an evil bitch tortured and killed babies? Do you think it's only ok to question evidence as long as the accused isn't a suspected paedophile? You ignore the mountains of evidence against her.

There was no personal attack I merely objectively characterised the 2 principal types of people trying to discredit the victims - of which you fall into the fan category.

No idea why you’re bringing LL into this, but I’ve never commented on her as a person, simply on the highly dubious medical and statistical claims on which that case is founded - as now covered by the New Yorker, Telegraph, Guardian, The Week, Private Eye, National Review, C5 documentary etc.

Not true, plenty of people who aren't fans don't think there's enough evidence. When you've got people wanting huge pay outs it's fair to question things. Also being a fan doesn't stop me criticising his terrible choices, I don't even agree with the way he became a father solo amongst the sleepovers and many other things.

Why are you ok with there not being proof for Michael Jackson? Since the trial where he was found not guilty we've only got the word of Wade and James who want money and swore blind nothing ever happened up until the last few years. So much of the MJ case is about his weird behaviour yet Lucy Letby's is ignored-oh every healthcare professional takes home handover sheets and facebook stalks parents, there's not enough evidence (despite the fact there's literally loads) ok then 🙄

Firefly1987 · 13/08/2024 03:57

@ObelixtheGaul it was just called Earth Song lol. Well he was never going to top Thriller and he was obviously huge in the 80s but by the early 90s he was still massive and a global megastar.

If this had been the dirty old man down the road who had no money or fame, I think the evidence presented by Robson and Safechuck would have satisfied anybody enough.

The point is if Jackson wasn't rich would there even be any allegations? Money does terrible things to people, you see it all the time in families. It's a huge incentive. It's probably the reason he preferred to hang around kids in the first place as they liked him for him not because he was rich. A hell of a lot of adults only care about money. He really couldn't trust a lot of people. Obviously he failed to take into account that kids grow up and sometimes become money grabbing adults.

kkloo · 13/08/2024 04:10

@Firefly1987
Once again I need to point out that there is no proof for most child abuse claims, and for most all that there is is the victims word, so this case is no different than most.

kkloo · 13/08/2024 04:17

Firefly1987 · 13/08/2024 03:57

@ObelixtheGaul it was just called Earth Song lol. Well he was never going to top Thriller and he was obviously huge in the 80s but by the early 90s he was still massive and a global megastar.

If this had been the dirty old man down the road who had no money or fame, I think the evidence presented by Robson and Safechuck would have satisfied anybody enough.

The point is if Jackson wasn't rich would there even be any allegations? Money does terrible things to people, you see it all the time in families. It's a huge incentive. It's probably the reason he preferred to hang around kids in the first place as they liked him for him not because he was rich. A hell of a lot of adults only care about money. He really couldn't trust a lot of people. Obviously he failed to take into account that kids grow up and sometimes become money grabbing adults.

Yet he kept having kids in his bed even after being accused of abuse

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