To think she's gearing up to cancel?

[SunflowerMabel]

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

I hope they get/got off OK and you are feeling more relaxed OP!

I wouldn't send my 5 year old off... because he's only just done his first sleepover at a grandparents and would hate it. But he isnt your daughter! It is amazing how many posters don't recognise that different people in different circumstances can make a different right decision!

It is. And often delivered as though it's the last word in having the last word.

The only head-wobbling I can imagine is a little flourish of self-satisfaction as the poster hits 'post'.

I'm surprised by a lot of these responses about OP's child being too young to go away with a trusted friend. I'm a beaver leader and we take a group away every year, all between ages 4-7. Of course it depends on the child but the vast majority love it and usually don't want to go home.

I think it sounds like a fantastic trip OP and i hops your daughter really enjoys it.

It's my pet peeve. Haaaaate it but it certainly helps identify a certain type of people here 😂

There are a lot of posters on MN who haven’t left their child for a night until they’re grown up- it’s bonkers

they'll have such a great time! So glad she has this opportunity, OP - hope the week isn't too nerve-racking for you. What a lovely little adventure you are giving her.

Pleased to see your update @SunflowerMabel Hope your daughter has a great time!

@SunflowerMabel

How did it goe ?
did she manage the whole trip or did she come home early - due home yesterday I believe ?

I'm excited to hear how her little girl's holiday went as well

She's home and she had the best time 🙂

A really fun filled and action packed week! Swimming in the sea, arcades, go karts, shows, rides, water slides, mini golf, discos, prizes, lots of dancing and meeting the Skyline gang (which she loved!), PJ masks and so forth.

I'm actually sat going through all of the photos with her now, I'm going to print them for her and make a little memory book. My friend kept me updated lots which was lovely. She's fab.

I'm really glad she got to go, I don't think she wanted to come home to be honest 😂

Yay! I’m so glad she had a great time! Ours did too - we’re shattered and laden down with more tat than any family should ever have but it was a fab time! Did you have a nice few days?

Brilliant !!!

I am so glad you didn't get cold feet and let yourself be talked out of it, and other Mum never was going to cancel.

What a lovely busy time your daughter had !

I'm glad she enjoyed herself. You know your kid and the other parent, so made your decision based on that.
People on this thread have been quite ridiculous and very judgemental about you as a parent.
They need to "give their heads a wobble" then do one.

That’s such a lovely update :) I’m so glad she had a great time, and even more glad that your friend has proved golden - she sounds brilliant and hopefully this will only make the bond stronger between you and her as well as the girls.

That's a lovely update. She'll really have grown in independence being away from you and enjoying one in one time with her little friend. She'll have built wonderful memories that she can look back on for years to come and it would have cemented their relationship.

When our kids go away it's for the adventure and experience for them not about us. If it means we get a little break from the hectic life of being a parent to x amount of kids that's a plus. Also good to spend quality time with the kids/kid left at home too.

I always send mine off on holidays with friends and have taken many kids abroad for the odd week on holiday. DC has just got back from a week sailing around the med on a friend's yacht. She's a bit older but not teenager yet and had the time of her life. Often kids have wonderful experiences with their friends and it really helps build independence.

Take no notice of the naysayers and have a glass of wine.

This is such a wonderful update.

So pleased for you both. Parenting isn't text book.

I’ve just read the OP posts and was really pleased to see your update!
I cannot BELIEVE the shit you were getting for this OP!

I have read about this a lot, so many parents massively over-protect their kids in the real world and under protect them online and it’s causing huge issues in young people. It’s good for little ones to be occasionally pushed outside of their comfort zone. My 6 year old daughter went camping this year with an organised group and she absolutely loved it! A few nights away, sleeping in a tent with her mates and I was happy for her to go. She was sad to come home!

Well done you for letting her have this experience

Great update. Of course she had a lovely time.

@SunflowerMabel I've read a lot of this thread. I don't actually think there's any real issue with your DD going away with her friends family. She is very young, but it sounds like this has been a built up relationship with this family over the last couple of years. So you've had lots of play dates etc, then this has moved on to days out etc. Your DD will be fine, you'll miss each other and I think it'll be tough on you both but at the same time, she'll be having a ball with her friend. I'm sure she can video call you at bed time etc.

I think you're getting quite a hard time, and most of it is not actually what you put the post up about.

I hate phone calls, to the point I will make any other kind of contact rather than pick up the phone. It makes me really anxious. Just a breezy text say hi friends mum, just a quick text to see what the arrangements are for Monday.

From what you've said about the mum, I doubt she is cancelling on you.

That is such fab news @SunflowerMabel !!! Love she got to enjoy a fun week with her friend and their family ❤️❤️❤️

Ah lovely ! Well done !

glad that it went well & she had a great time