To think she's gearing up to cancel?

[SunflowerMabel]

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

She hasn't admitted she doesn't know the woman. She said she's known her for about 2.5 years, the children have had sleepovers as well as dozens of days out together, and on several occasions the woman has taken has taken her (OP's) daughter out on her own without her mum for day trips etc.

Why on earth do people come on here and make up their own facts purely to give themselves something to attack the OP for?

Wow, there are some absolutely fucking mental replies on this thread! OP, I hope your daughter has a really lovely break with her friend.

Thank you all so much for the well wishes for DD's trip 😊

After speaking to OH again at length we are happy for her to go (he always was, it was me who was dithering)

Friend is a v responsible and kind parent/person and I trust that she'll take good care of her.

I have been promised regular updates. I think she's going to have an absolute blast as there's some fun shows and activities lined up.

If for any reason she wants to come home early we have a plan in place for me to go over and collect her.

I'm sending her with £ for treats for the pair of them and I'm going to buy mum something nice as a thank you a truck full of wine is what she will need after 4 nights with the two little hurricanes!

I expect she'll have a fab time , I've only skimmed the responses , but a responsible/ crb checked / safeguarding friend sounds , to me, ideal.

She is going to have an amazing time I loved Butlins as a kid my parents are disabled so going there meant that we could entertain ourselves and my parents didn’t need to worry about us.

You are so right. There must be many people on here who do just that, and they incite one another. It leads to depression.

This thread is insane! You never know which threads will attract a Greek chorus of hyenas who can't wait to tell you to "give your head a wobble" about your "poor parenting choices".

Hope she has a great time OP. Update us after the week and let us know how much fun she had, give the hyenas something to gnash their teeth about!

Speaking as a mother who often took other people’s children out/away I’d say give (insist on giving!) the treat money to the mother rather than the child. Then that can go to the group “who wants an ice cream” and other treaty opportunities. You can’t really expect a five-year old to offer to get a round in! They see it as their money and spend it on extra crap/tat!

I think your dd is going to have a fab time!

Let us know how she got on ( if you feel like updating)

This is first time on MN and frankly I've been shocked and disgusted at some of the comments and replies on here!
So, it might have sounded a bit flakey regards the arrangements, but really, some of the attitude absolutely stinks! Glad all is well, and DD will get to go on a little holiday, that I'm sure she will love and benefit from. Also, if things should go tit's up, then not too far away to collect. Good luck.

I don't reply on threads too often but OP you sound absolutely lovely. Unfortunately due to one of your children having SN your family life is going to be different to others on here so you continue doing what you think is best for you and your family! It's so easy for others to say they'd never send their child when they're not in your position (I also have a 5 year old DD).

I think someone already mentioned young carers charities but I wanted to recommend one, obviously not sure where you're based and if they can help, but take a look at HoneyPot.

I actually felt uncomfortable reading this thread it was brutally harsh! Especially suggesting It was because she can't cope with having a sens child so it dumping her child! NO Sandra what she means is having a sens child affords her less opportunity to treat her daughter to trips!

I bet she has a fab time OP :)

A lovely update OP - sounds like she will have a great time!

Some friends can be the family you wish you'd always had. I wouldn't have sent my child away at that age with anyone (probably more a me thing) but I know people who have sent their children off with aunts and grandparents and cousins. My mother would have done it. I hope your DD has a lovely time.

Exactly.

I don't know why but each time anyone uses 'give your head a wobble' as part of their 'advice', you can just tell they're not a nice person 🙈
They're the sort of people that feel better about themselves by coming here and criticizing everyone's lives and choices.

'Give your head a wobble' is a pointless expression anyway. I'm not sure why it has caught on so much here. It doesn't mean anything.

The trip sounds fantastic and you sound like a great mum. I hope she has a wonderful time!

Of course they do but they're only 5.5, they're not going to be able to arrange their own days out or go alone are they?

Oh gotcha, poor wording on my part then. They very much do like each other 😁

She'll have a lovely time. My DD used to go with friends to their caravan at this age. Two is easier than one as they are company for each other. She always had such fun.

Ignore the naysayers. I can't actually believe the horrible things some posters are saying and I've reported a few, as have others. You sound like a great mum.