To think she's gearing up to cancel?

[SunflowerMabel]

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

But that's you most parents are OK with it and it's not what the op asked

That's brilliant news op I'm sure she will have a brilliant time

I think you’ve had a really hard time on here. If DD wants to go, let her. She’s with a trusted, responsible adult and will have a lovely time. And if she wants to come home you get the train to her. She’s hardly going to Peru.

Honestly OP, if you trust your friend and think DD will enjoy it don’t let the miseries on here make you second guess yourself.

To be fair, I think most actually wouldn't be ok with it but people have situations and relationships that are unique to them. Only OP can decide if she feels happy to let the child go and if she is that doesn't mean she's a bad parent as has been insinuated, just that she has faith in her decision.

I hope your kid has a cracking time with her little pal!

@SunflowerMabel Just for some reassurance, my DS2 has SN and he went on a week long residential with his special school when he was 4. By the seaside. Boat trip, playing on the beach etc. TBF they had almost 1:2 ratio. He had an absolute blast!

My friends with NT kids were having kittens for the Y6 residential. for their 11 yos. That seemed ridiculous to me! I’m sure your DD will be fine with a trusted friend where she has already had sleepovers.

I think it is pretty clear from this thread that most parents would not be.

Everyone can make their own calls obviously but I absolutely would not be an hour away from my kid for a week with someone I had only known 2 years.

Stop blaming your adhd. My boys and dh have adhd so I understand how it can affect you but you seem to be leaning on that as an excuse. You cannot send your child away with this woman whether she cancels or not. My youngest is your child’s age, the Mind boggles.

But the op didn't ask or need your permission to do so. The fact you don't even trust your own mother to look after your kid suggests to me your surrounding by pretty shitty people so unfortunately your kid will miss out on these experiences to gain independence. But other people have great relationships with others so can offer this to their children

I know you've already paid for food and board, if it is possible, a little bit of spending money would be lovely maybe enough for both ( or all as you don't say if there is siblings going too ) to have an ice cream - if you allow ice cream, or to spend in to amusement arcade.

and if you can afford it, a little gift for Mum upon their return ? maybe wine / flowers / scented candle

Of course she can, stop being so dramatic.

I hope your daughter has an amazing time.

Many people here we've just being ridiculous and making things up eg one poster claimed it's a WhatsApp relationship lol.

This is what happens when we can't apply common sense and just call or reach out to confirm rather than coming to mumsnet first.

Thats odd.

How well does this scam work out for you?

What?

@SunflowerMabel
I completely understand why you would arrange this for your DD so she could have the experience of going to butlins with her friend. We go to butlins often with friends and if DD wanted to take a 5 year old friend who wouldn't otherwise be able to go because of the additional needs of a sibling I wouldn't hesitate to take them

Thank goodness it's going ahead, my children at 5 would have loved to do this, not too young at all imo!

They will both have a lovely time. Lots of fun and friendship.

I'm glad you've heard back and it's all going ahead they will have a great time
And as for the so called perfect parents on here and what they think take no notice she will have brilliant memories of a lovely trip

Op Ignore the hysterical responses here. Every kid is different, every family is different. You know your daughter best. A couple of days at butlins will be a lovely experience for them. If she’s unhappy you can always collect her. Hope she has a fab time!

ffs is there any need for that?? Really?? The child is going to Butlins with a friend, not being sent to a prison camp! 🤦‍♀️

Hope your daughter has a fabulous time OP 🥰

I really think she is too young and this is too much for her. Whether she intended to cancel or not I would not send her. Is there any way you can go?

Sorry but how the fuck do you know?? You’ve never even met this kid 😂😂😂

@SunflowerMabel