To think she's gearing up to cancel?

[SunflowerMabel]

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

Fantastic, I hope your DD has a lovely holiday!

Brilliant news, I hope your little girl has an amazing time

Ah great, hope she has a lovely time!

My son went camping for three nights just after joining beavers....he was 6. Had a couple of reservations about it but he was fine and had a ball !

Pleased for you OP. I, too, remember your original post.

I think you are just a worrier (like me)

FWIW a mother I know has a holiday flat abroad and the fiftenn years I have known her, she always brings a friend as it makes it easier for her and happier for her DD. Do not stress!

A nursery near me used to take the older children away for 2 nights every year. So that’s younger than OPs daughter. And they were all fine!

So glad it is all still on OP. Your daughter will have a great time. Ignore the horrible posters on here, you’re doing just fine

Please don’t listen to the awful judgemental comments on this post and decide based on your thoughts. You have known this lady as a friend for 2.5 years, and you have trusted her to look after your child for day trips already (with no issues I take it?). The update about her job and DBS check alongside you knowing her personally is also something to give comfort, as well as her being a fellow mother. However you need to feel comfortable as well, just decide based on how you feel. I would suggest if you let your child go still to agree with the other mother about contact/updates to put you at ease.

Excellent update.

You agreed to it for the very best of reasons - to give your daughter a treat. Don't wobble now, let her go and have a ball. You have no reservations about the mother so why wouldn't you? And if DD does get homesick you've said you're only an hour away from her.

I hope she has a whale of a time.

Ha! One of mine would have merrily gone on holiday with anyone and I know a few other parents I’d happily let take him away for a night or two. Takes a village and all that.

In your situation I would send her now. How many nights is it?

It's a family she has known for a long time, had sleepovers with and a friend she loves. Plus you're an hour away.

Hope your little girl has the best time op. I think her being 5 isn’t a big deal if you trust the mum and your little one is happy in her company. Like you’ve said if she gets a bit homesick you can always jump on the train and go get her.

Hope your dd has a brilliant time.
Like you said, if you have to go get her you can but you know your dd better than us.
She'll have fun with her friend and it'll definitely be easier for your friend with two kids.

Though of course you can wobble! Mums are allowed to wobble and the lack of contact wasn’t an ideal lead-in to sending your little one away. Just do as you feel is best op.

Iv known a few children from different families who attended their local young carers group.
most are young adults now so dont go anymore but all of them found it helpful and enjoyed it.
they found it positive being in an environment where the peers around them had similar experiences (unlike school sometimes) where they could share their experiences and home-lives without worrying about being different.
there were residential holidays and other events that they could attend.

one girl I knew after she had been there a few years and got into her teenage years even got picked to speak at an event in Iceland which effectively meant she got an all expense paid (supported by the young carer staff) holiday to Iceland! She was proud to be able to talk about her sibling and her experiences growing up as a young carer and loved visiting Iceland.

Yay! Glad you heard back from her. Hope your daughter has a wonderful time

I’m glad you’ve had a response and hope your daughter has a wonderful time. Don’t let other people make you feel bad about giving your DD a nice experience if you previously had no reservations about sending her on holiday with your friend. I was a quiet, shy child and very close to my parents but have never been homesick and went on sleepovers, weekends and holidays at a similar age to your DD. All DC are different and if she’s keen to go I’m sure she’ll enjoy it.

Well now that it’s all sorted I hope she has a lovely time.

I know I’d be texting during the stay (only once or twice) though, for my own peace of mind, under the guise of ‘hope she’s having a lovely time would love a pic of you all together’, so I don’t sound as anxious as I’d actually be, lol.

Just wanted to say that my ‘BF’ when I was little was my Mum’s friend’s DD. We didn’t go to the same school and only saw each other in school holidays. I spent loads of time with their family from a similar age to your DD. We’d have days out, sleepovers and I’d go camping with them regularly. I’m sure your DD will have a lovely time!

That's good to hear. No doubt she never once thought about cancelling so wasn't aware of the urgency to get back to you. I think your daughter will be fine and it is a good opportunity for her to go away without the limitations of a disabled sibling. It is so important for siblings to have these opportunities and many charities do away breaks for siblings of disabled children so I am unsure why so many posters find it unusual that it would be one of the reasons why you thought it would be good for your dd.

Grow up everyone. A child going an hour away with a friend’s mum she knows really well isn’t any kind of issue. I hope your daughter has a wonderful time!

Oh good !

I think you were overthinking it a little bit only as you hadn't heard from her recently

I love my daughter, I would still let my daughter go - esp as she wants to go

you know you can get there fairly quickly if it doesn't work out, tho I wouldn't jump on the first train and would see if I was really needed i.e. if any homesickness wears off after 30 mins etc.

you are a good mother and I am pretty sure the other mother is a good mother, otherwise you wouldn't be friends

trust your own gut feeling and judgement

please let us know how it goes, some of us are invested in this :)

It's still going ahead, she's been packing this morning and has got the girls some bits for the journey.

That's great @SunflowerMabel I hope your DD has a great time!

Please ignore all the criticism - sometimes life in MN-world gives me an explanation about why a third of my undergrads believe they have "anxiety" and stress out about every little thing.

It was & is totally normal in my family's world for children to go away with their friends' families even at the age of your DD. And breathe.

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