To think she's gearing up to cancel?

[SunflowerMabel]

Last year the mum of my DC's friend kindly offered for her to join them on a mini break they had planned this year. I paid for her share of the accommodation and food (around £300)

Getting together has been a bit more tricky since they started (different) schools but we generally met up once a month or so.

So, they are due to go on on this mini break on Monday and I haven't heard back from mum. I text last weekend suggesting we meet up for lunch/an activity and asked for confirmation RE what time they'd be leaving to get to the destination etc and I haven't heard anything back at all.

She has been active on social media. I don't want to pester her but I'm getting a bit concerned that there's a cancellation coming. Surely there would be some contact by now if it was going ahead?

AIBU/WWYD?

@SunflowerMabel
My daughter went to a residential with rainbows at 5 and had a great time.
This trip to butlins will be fun for your daughter , you've paid for the dining so there will be food she enjoys, and she will have so much fun she won't have time to miss you. Both your DD and her friend will enjoy each others company. There are some very judgmental people on here but you know your DD best

£300 is an awful lot to pay for a 5 year old’s part of a holiday. Are you certain she’s not using you to part fund her holiday?

Aye I bet you will, because you've clearly got nothing better to do with your time than to keep coming back to this thread.

Why couldn't you just give your opinion and move on? It's a bit weird..

Well done OP…. Partly for sorting out the issue but mainly for the way you’ve handled the judgemental critics you’ve had responding to you on this thread. I hope your DD has a fabulous time.

I thing you are getting a hard time here OP. Hope your daughter has fun with her friend!

Christ on a bike - do you have nothing better to do on a Saturday afternoon?

Hope your daughter has a brilliant time, OP.

@SunflowerMabel I’m so glad it’s all sorted.

Im sure your daughter will have a great time.

I was exactly the same except we did go to the same school. We were always going out and going on holiday with each others families. I thought this was pretty normal but maybe not

Hope your DD has a fab time!

It's AIBU.... people make up their own 'facts' then accuse you (general 'you') of being a troll when you say something that contradicts the imagined fact

You've been clear throughout the thread, and I hope your DD has a fab time.

Just wasted 5 minutes reading this! What a ‘non’ drama!

I pity the people hoping for the worst for people, in particular when it involves little children.

I hope your daughter has fun, @SunflowerMabel and the trip is a safe one and that everybody arrives home happy.

Wow. Bad parenting? Really? In my home country we had a residential trip as 5yos at the pre-school.

They will be one hour away and catered. Don't let anyone spoil it for you both, she will enjoy it.

Oh dear, well that's 5 minutes you'll never get back!

The OP has been open about her thoughts/feelings/actions on this situation, not sure where you’re seeing excuses. Out of interest, why can’t she send her child on holiday with her friend?

This place becomes more joyless with every passing year. Sigh.

You sound perfectly fine to me OP.

I love a happy ending! And as an adult diagnosed with ADHD as well as having avoidance issues (not on treatment yet, but I work hard every day to compensate for my brain's annoying default setting), I give you double kudos.

@despiteappearance I rest my case.

Just wanted to say op, I'd of let my child go with her/my friend in your situation so just a show of support. Hope she has a great time, which I'm sure she will as she will be kept so busy.

I completely agree with this (I'm autistic.) well done you for sorting it.

Yes, it is young for your DD to go away but I understand your reasoning re: your disabled DC. Also you have known this mum for 2 and a half years and sounds like you've spent lots of time with her. She is not a stranger! Also the fact she works in safeguarding for the police is another important factor.

At the end of the day you know your DD well enough to know if she will be ok. Hope she has a lovely time. Butlins is great for that age!