Meeting new baby

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If a close friend/relative had a baby, you asked when is good to visit & they replied they’d let you know - how much time would you allow to pass before you asked again? Or would you wait to be asked no matter how long?

YABU - wait
YANBU - ask again

I would send flowers and wait.

I’d wait

I'd ask, but in a non pressuring way

They will message when ready. They know you're wanting to see them as you've already messaged.

P.s. is the baby now 18?

If so, they've dumped you! 😂

@RockyRogue1001 😂😂

How long has it been? Not that it matters; I’d wait.

I'd stop inviting myself and wait to be invited! She's not forgotten, it's just not convenient for you to visit and it would be very rude to pressurise her further.

She'll invite you when the time is right for her.

Almost a month

I'd leave them to get back in touch with you, but sending flowers in the meantime is a nice gesture if you're close.

Are you a friend or a grandma? Have you chatted generally since?

Close family I'd ask again pretty quickly.

Close friend I'd be generally in touch re how they're getting on anyway so would raise it again after a couple of weeks.

IME the visitors suggest when they're free and the new parents confirm if it suits.

That’s barely anytime. Especially if mum is trying to establish breastfeeding. Just wait. Having a baby is a massive transition and it’s super important for the new parents to bond as a family before inviting others in.

The baby and I share a parent

She's probably wondering where you've been! Suggest a time that suits you, they can make up an excuse if they don't want visitors, but a month is ages for close friends or family.

You're half siblings? Which side?

So you're siblings and this is your Dad's partner/your Step-mother?

Go through your Dad. Ask when you will get to meet your brother or sister.

ETA: I'm assuming it's not your mother's latest child!

I’d check in and see how the parents are doing. The last thing I could remember after having a baby was who had been in touch when and what I’d said in reply.

Ask your dad if everything's ok.

Then if it’s your brother/sister and it’s been a month I’d ask your mum/dad again. That’s obviously a little different to if you were a close friend!

Spoken to both, just still no mention of a visit. Didn’t know how long to leave it before mentioning again

If it is a sibling talk to the parent you share and ask.

I think it it's a sibling it's a bit different. Are you normally close with parent?

OK I'm gonna stick my neck out. I think that's weird. You are this baby's half sibling. Unless there is a backstory then surely back here in the real world this is not normal.

I'd expect a sibling to be invited round very soon.

m can you talk to the parent you share with the baby and ask what's going on?