Friend had a go at me over a can of Diet Coke

[coldayscientist]

Last Saturday friend had a few people around, she lives in the country so taxi/uber is impossible so all those drinking stayed over.

In the morning there was still some stuff out from the night before, including cans of Diet Coke, I opened one and had a sip, put it down not really thinking and said my goodbyes, my friend said “aren’t you taking that with you?” I responded “no I’m good thanks” and she retorted “what I’m absolute waste” - awkward silence, I grabbed the can, mumbled sorry and left.

Shes now messaged me to apologised. I’m just so annoyed that she spoke to me like a child.

I really want to know from the OP if she does this at home? Does she buy a 6 pack of cans and take one sip out of each one?

Although presumably her parents wouldn't let her!

Sounds as though you just don't like being called out on crap behaviour, hence being annoyed now.

You were beyond rude and actually I would find that really disrespectful for a guest to be so casually and needlessly wasteful and then leave me with the can to clear away. My 6 year old knows better than this.

I don't know why your friend apologised. She did nothing wrong.

She was right. You opened it, took a sip and left it there. If she didn't want it she would have had to empty it and put it in the bin.

I think you were rude and lazy.

You're friend was annoyed at you being so wasteful, was rather blunt about it, with hindsight regretted being rude to a guest, so messaged to apologise. Message back and say you're also sorry that you opened the coke when you didn't really want it and you're both good. This is not a difficult social interaction to negotiate!

I do if I’m about to leave. It only takes a moment to ask the host.

I don’t see why wouldn’t you unless the host says to take some with you because they’ve overstocked or made too
much of something.

What a ridiculous post 🤣 if you wasted a can by taking just one sip then your friend is right, she apologised so what’s even the issue?? Seriously, 🤦‍♀️ 🤣

I know 🤣 seriously, if this is all they have to worry about 🙄 🤣

How was she harsh to say ‘what a waste’ 🤣 🤦‍♀️

YABU because it is a waste
Annoyed she spoke to you like a child? For pointing out the truth???

Huh? All she said was ‘what a waste’ which she is completely correct and this is such a non issue. ffs 🤦‍♀️ 😂

YABU your friend is right it was a complete waste of a drink and how utterly rude are you than you would think nothing of opening a drink and then just leaving it in someone’s house after they where kind enough to not only host you in their home but also letting you stay it’s you who needs to apologise and learn to some manners my 10 year old niece has better manners than you.

You opened a can, took a sip and then left it there for your friend to clean up after you.

What childish behaviour.

Yeh it might sound petty but it's the disrespect of taking a sip then discarding it at your arse for her to clear up.

So apart from the waste it was something a toddler would do. No you didn't have to ask if they were left over but the right thing would be to take it with you.

No need for her to apologise

She hardly said anything bad though just stating facts

Well, apart from apologising to you, she wasn’t wrong 🤣.

But apologising for stating that it was wasteful which it is. OP is way too sensitive

Why the hell did your friend apologise you should've done

Understandable in the haze of a hangover that you might do this without thinking, so your friend was in the wrong to be snappy with you. Also, if you're travelling, an open can isn't the easiest of things to take with you.

Finally, once the can is open and sipped, that's that. It makes no material difference to your friend whether you finish it or not; she is still a can down.

However, she was hungover too, and she's apologised, so draw a line and move on.

Mindless thoughtless waste

She apologised for the way she spoke to you.

And you are bitching on about her instead of replying “it’s fine, and anyway, you were right , it was wasteful. Lovely evening, thanks so much for having us”

I'm guessing you are about 15 or 16, my kids used to do that and it drove me nuts. It's not her that needed to apologise its you who needs to become more aware. Sorry😉

The friend wasn't snappy.

If the OP only wanted a sip of something, she should've gone to the kitchen tap.

You're lucky she apologised, and yet you're still annoyed at her? Grow up.

Get a grip, honestly don’t know how people like you manage to function on a day to day basis.

Yeah OP you sound like an entitled child so that is why you were spoken to like one. No idea why your friend has apologised.

I would tell my kids off for doing this, and I would expect an adult to behave a bit better.