To ask if you have a favourite child?

[CobaltQueen]

I do wonder whether anyone will answer this honestly.
As the scapegoat and the least favoured by my mother, I am interested to read the responses.

My parents do, I don't
Some people have favourites depending how their children turn out or behave

I absolutely don't. I have children that annoy me more or who delight me more at separate points but they swap around.
I'm sorry you had this it is definitely a thing.

No. My two dc are equally awesome in many different ways and some of the same ways.

No, they both annoy me in equal measure.

DC1, however, would say that I favour DC2. That's because DC1 has a very strong personality and seems oblivious to the times we back him up and takes the times we side with DC2 very much to heart.

I absolutely love my children equally, love spending time with them together and apart but they're only little - 6 & 3.

I have two DC who have different strengths and also capacity to annoy me in different ways. I don't think one is better or more deserving than the other. But I do find one of them easier to get on with than the other (I think we just click better). I do worry whether that means I have a favourite?

Yes but I only have one.

Yes but it changes on a regular basis. Depends on which one last irritated me

My mother has always done this really weird thing where she puts my siblings in the victim role or praises them. With me, it is always critical and negative. She acts as though I deserve less of the fun things in life also and that I am not as deserving of them. She has bought them more presents at Christmas also which had me in tears last year as it was yet another reminder of my role in the family.
I am never good enough for her, always a disappointment where the other two are the 'Golden kids".

I have a favourite eldest child, a favourite middle child and a favourite youngest child.

I always say the dog is my favourite child. (Before anyone flames me, I AM joking)!

No. Just no. They are both my perfect babies.

That’s so sad OP. I’m sorry you go through that.
I sometimes joke with mine when one of them is being a horror and the other is being an angel that they are my favourite today, but in reality, it’s the behaviour and they know it’s a seesaw anyway. One day one’s up and the other down, the next day it’s all switched around.
They are so different to each other we have very different relationships but they are both equally special to me in their own unique ways.

I joke that my youngest is my favourite because he was born a week early, and the older two were both a week late. I'll also joke that the middle one is my favourite, when she pays her board money, or when the eldest visits and brings a bottle of wine.

Genuinely though, no I don't have a favourite.

Have you read Toxic Parents OP? or looked at the stately homes thread on here? if not you might find it useful.

I have a favourite son and a favourite daughter (but I only have one of each). I love them both equally for a different manner of reasons.

I can honestly say hand on heart I don't. They are all individual, but I love them all the same.

Have more shared interests with one of them and I worry the other feels like we favour that one which isn't the case

Genuinely, no. I have 5 (close in age) DDs and love and adore them all. I would say that with DD1, there’s an extra layer of connection. I honestly don’t love her more but I feel something else in addition. The moment I laid eyes on her was something I have never experienced before or since. When I tried to explain this once to DH he said it’s because she is my favourite 🙄 but I promise it isn’t that!

One of mine is much easier to parent. He's sunny and optimistic. He's very friendly and laid back.

The other is spiky and fierce.

Every day I make the effort not to favour anyone. They are definitely treated the same.

My mother does. I absolutely do not, I love both my kids equally.

Yes- whichever one sleeps through the night 🤣

No

No but I have one who I find a lot easier.

No but I do have 1 that’s is generally easier to parent than the other 3.