To have a glass of wine while pregnant?

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Third trimester, I know it's not recommended but ... really fancy a glass of wine. Would you?

Only if cooked until steaming hot.

I think its more the worry of never knowing 100% if the accident could have been avoided.

The thing is, if something happened and I had had a drink, I would always be wondering if it was because of my actions. Not worth it imo, but that’s just me.

Nope! Read the NHS advice. Stilton is fine. It does not need to be cooked.

and Tommy’s spells it out too:

As below

No. Don’t see the point.

I did with my first. Second time round I haven’t yet, only cos I’m so bloody exhausted with pregnancy and toddler that cannot imagine anything else contributing!

I was quoting the NHS.
It says-

• soft or blue cheese (pasteurised or unpasteurised) that has been cooked until steaming hot

https://www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/foods-to-avoid/

Seriously??!! Wtaf!

Are you seriously implying social services will have any interest in a woman considering having ONE glass of wine? Hahahaha - your world must be bonkers.

Stilton is a hard cheese so it doesn’t apply here, see NHS guidelines. Uncooked Stilton is completely fine!!

@Saltedbutter yes. If you tell a medical professional you are drinking in pregnancy a referral is made to social services

Again, do you believe social services will be interested or take action? I’m well versed in the process of prenatal (and postnatal), thanks 😊

Apparently the guidance on Stilton changed recently. And the midwife who told me mussels were not OK was wrong.
Oh well, I worried for nothing.

I would suggest not wasting social services' time. As if they aren't under enough pressure.

What does drinking in pregnancy even mean?

One single glass of wine
Or
Chugging a litre of vodka every day?

Quite a difference

@Comedycook anyone who goes against the advice of not drinking

@SharonEllis I think it's important for them to know. It's considered prenatal neglect

So healthcare professionals and social services treat all pregnant women the same with regards to drinking....they won't differentiate between one unit in the whole nine months and a litre of vodka a day, every day? Is that what you're saying?

And do women get reported to social services for anything they do which is against official advice? Will you be reported if you confess to your midwife that you ate unpasteurised cheese?

The thing that stopped me was I thought if my child had any issues I would forever think it was due to the drink I’d had (even if it wasn’t). But that’s because I’m prone to that thought process.

And do women get reported to social services for anything they do which is against official advice? Will you be reported if you confess to your midwife that you ate unpasteurised cheese?

Exactly. And what about those women who go against official advice after the baby is born, like early weaning at 4 months? Or putting the baby in a different room to sleep before 6 months? Or co-sleeping?

Having a glass of wine in pregnancy is not neglect FFS.

@Comedycook do they differentiate between how much alcohol a parent was to give to a newborn? Would social services allow you to feed your newborn a glass of wine but not a bottle?

So when you report these women to social services, what do they say?