To not understand why my mum ( or anyone ) needs to sunbathe topless ?

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I'm staying with mum and my two kids at a holiday cottage. It's private so no one can see, but I still don't get why she or anyone feels the need to sunbathe topless ? I would just never do it and it makes me a bit uncomfortable to be around people who sunbathe topless.

I get it I get it, not everyone is like me.

But why do your boobs need to be brown ?

She also insists on wearing a bikini at almost 70. Ok fine, I don't wear a bikini and I'm not even 40 yet. I do think, good for you but I do think one pieces are just more classy. Same with having everything on display.

I realise I sound mean spirited don't I ? Or just uptight ? But isn't more, less and more classy in general ? Interested in opinions !

She raised me so I'm surprised I am not more on display myself but I'm pretty private about my body and always have been.

Quote the part where I said women should have to cover up on beaches. People are allowed to find something uncomfortable and still acknowledge that other people are allowed to do it.

I’m going to assume you meant “your post,” not “your penis.” 😂

There is a wonderful thing called suncream.

Boobs are just boobs, get over it. And personally I don’t understand why people take out finance to buy a flash car they can’t afford to pay cash for - but people do. Could it be that people are different and make different lifestyle choices? That they choose things that they want instead of always things they need? Feeling sorry for your mother being remorselessly judged on her holidays by the prude she has raised!

the last paragraph of your message showed exactly how you think. It’s disgusting. Thats why women feel uncomfortable, because you can’t keep your own perversions to yourself.

Women should be ashamed of wearing a bikini now should they? I’ll add to the list then. Right-o.

I’m nearly 60 and I will carry on wearing a bikini whilst I can still get my feet through the leg holes.

😁

Why do you hate the female body?

You have internalised misogyny you should deal with instead of projecting onto other women.

Second paragraph raises a good point. Women don’t sunbathe topless where I live in the US, but thong bikini bottoms aren’t unheard-of. A couple years ago, I had to spend a lot of time telling my younger daughter that no, butts are private, and we do not show them to people in public under any circumstances. Why should she believe that’s a “rule” when adults in front of her clearly aren’t following it? Is the “rule” that only adults are allowed to show bare bottoms in public?

My grandma wore a bikini into her 80s. What’s the problem with a bikini 🤷‍♀️

Topless women should feel uncomfortable because I feel awkward around them and look away? What is it that you think I’m doing?!

I don’t believe you’re bisexual - or, if you are, you’ve got some serious homophobia/biphobia to work out. It’s not a “perversion” for same-sex-attracted women to find naked breasts sexually arousing.

To be honest I would be more worried about her getting skin cancer on a part of her body that rarely sees sunlight and will therefore burn more easily.

She should be using at least Factor 50 which then means she's unlikely to get brown boobs.

But I guess I'm just dull and practical ☹️

I find men’s legs sexually attractive. fit cyclists at the traffic lights, great legs at the beach.

I don’t find it ‘uncomfortable’ I don’t think they should cover up, I am not driven into a frenzy, I just think ‘oooooh’ and get on with my day.

Men find women’s legs sexually attractive, stomachs bums in bikinis, shorts or jeans… why do breasts cause such discomfort?

I haven’t said I’m bisexual, it was another person who said they were bisexual and thought you were gross, not me. I have no homophobic tendencies, don’t make this about sexual preference it isn’t, it’s about the fact that you, like many man, apparently can’t control your sexual urges so you think women should cover up. Sort yourself out.

She doesn't wear sun screen, never has ! Or a seat belt, unless I shout at her to do it !

I would never ever tell her to cover up but I just think it to myself that I could never be so free with my body, in front of anyone. It's private. I've always been that way.

Your mum sounds cool..

Fine in a private place. Or on a beech where it's allowed/the norm.

But this place isn't private. OP and her kids have granny's tits in their faces.

Thanks for the factual correction.

Again: Quote the part where I said women should have to cover up on beaches. And, again: What is it that you think I’m doing?! I see topless women, it’s awkward, I look away. Is there something else I’m supposed to do?

It's generational. My parents (70s) see a tan as a status symbol. They both sunbathe in nothing or next to nothing because they don't want tan lines. They do it in anything from 16 degrees plus. They are both the colour of old boots.

This is my parents 😆😆 happy to bake for hours in minimal clothing to get an amazing tan. I rebelled against the above and tend to stay out of the sun.

I'd never do it myself, but chacun a son gout.

But this place isn't private. OP and her kids have granny's tits in their faces.

Hahaha. It's fine honestly. I am just totally weird about stuff like that. I am a prude when it comes to my body. Other stuff, not so much.

Your last paragraph was pervy and gross. Your argument is that women need to realise how sexual their breasts are and that having them out means people like you feel uncomfortable. You’re putting your issues onto women. It’s unpleasant for women to read that they cannot be topless without you thinking things about ‘luscious’ breasts.. You can keep arguing, but it is unpleasant.

Boobs are just boobs?

Leaving aside the function of feeding a baby -

Do you get sexual pleasure from your partner touching your boobs?

Does your partner get sexual pleasure from your boobs?

If the answer to either of these questions is yes, you have the answer as to why people find looking at boobs a sexual turn on, whether they are in a magazine or on the beach.

A man's bare chest bears no relation to a woman's bare chest.

No one needs to be. No one needs to be in a holiday cottage denying a local person a house at a reasonable cost.

Your mum and others choose to be topless, and if sitting in an enclosed garden then that is OK.

I love swimming in the pool naked. I wear a 2 piece, I also sunbath (carefully) naked.

I never would have done any of this in the past (I'm at an age where I DGAF now and I am the size I am, covering up won't change that), and I won't in public, considering I'm fat but we have privacy and there's nothing better than being naked in the sun/in water. I do wear a sunhat though to protect my face. Its much better than having a swimming costume on.

I would never go topless on a beach, I don’t want men getting satisfaction from ogling my breasts…especially for free. 😂