To not understand why my mum ( or anyone ) needs to sunbathe topless ?

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I'm staying with mum and my two kids at a holiday cottage. It's private so no one can see, but I still don't get why she or anyone feels the need to sunbathe topless ? I would just never do it and it makes me a bit uncomfortable to be around people who sunbathe topless.

I get it I get it, not everyone is like me.

But why do your boobs need to be brown ?

She also insists on wearing a bikini at almost 70. Ok fine, I don't wear a bikini and I'm not even 40 yet. I do think, good for you but I do think one pieces are just more classy. Same with having everything on display.

I realise I sound mean spirited don't I ? Or just uptight ? But isn't more, less and more classy in general ? Interested in opinions !

She raised me so I'm surprised I am not more on display myself but I'm pretty private about my body and always have been.

But you also have a problem with her wearing a bikini which is perfectly normal pool attire. Sounds like this is your own hang up about how ‘classy’ you think a one piece is.

It's weird to me that people think children shouldn't see women topless, but it's fine for men, I guess because boobs are so sexualised. It's a shame when they're main function is feeding babies.

Comfort perhaps?

Swimwear tends to feel itchy, constricting and digs in.

I used to go topless in France on beach holidays if lots of women were doing it, purely because I find it more comfortable and I don't need to keep adjusting boobs/straps. Why should we feel uncomfortable about people seeing our boobs? Men don't have to be modest and cover their chests. Plus we need to get ours out to breastfeed, it would help if society stopped sexualising breasts. Maybe fewer women would feel they need boob jobs and uplifts too. As a teen I was surprised how open and non self-conscious French were, women all ages and sizes going topless. It made me less worried my own were too small/not symmetrical enough.

Went to Spain recently and it seemed like majority of women on beach were displaying big round fake boobs (obvious when sunbathing on back as they don't move!)

Let your mum enjoy the sun on her skin, it's so natural.

I physically can’t fit into a one piece - I sincerely hope there’s not an expiry date on me going swimming !

Oh yes I do wear a one piece costume for when I’m going to the pool to do lengths, much more practical.
But for holidays I’m just enjoying messing about in the water and then I’ll be in and out for drinks, going to the toilet etc and it makes more sense to wear a 2 piece.

I'm peri menopausal / PMT right now and tbh the thought of my nipples getting sunburnt would be the final straw cos my boobs already feel like they want to explode. Could you imagine? Fuck n

I am a similar age to your mum, and definitely wouldn't want to be topless around my grandchildren so I sympathise. I also wouldn't wear a bikini now , my one piece is much more flattering.
Each to their own, but I would also be uncomfortable with other people being top less around me.

I'm feeling a bit miserable today and that really made me laugh! Good on your parents.

It's funny because I'm not British and I've always been this way.

As for the bikini. I just think a one piece looks better on most people, most of the time. It's my preference.

Don’t you need proper sunblock on your nipples?

I'd find it a bit embarrassing too. Luckily my mum doesn't do it! I don't mind kids seeing my breasts out at home (the baby still breastfeeds), but I don't see any need to have my breasts out outside even if I'm somewhere private. Also beyond husband and kids I wouldn't want to be on display. Maybe I'm a prude too!

I also wouldn't wear a bikini. I'm quite self conscious of my fat hairy body so I usually wear a swim dress or board shorts and rash vest! So even more covered up than your typical one piece. I wouldn't mind if my mum wanted to wear one though

As for the bikini. I just think a one piece looks better on most people, most of the time. It's my preference.

But you don’t get a preference for what other people think of we and feel comfortable in! It’s not about your preference.

It's mainly my dad. He's a good looking man and is a tad vain. He actually used to time how long he sun bathed on each side...

I still enjoy laying out topless in my 50's (if I have complete privacy, not with kids around). Nothing to do with tanning as I usually lay in the shade, I just love the feeling of getting some fresh air around my boobs. Being larger breasted bikini tops feel just like bras and I hate both with a passion.

A one piece is more classy? Weird statement. She can do whatever she wants and if she wants to wear a bikini at 70 good for her, your problems with your body and wearing a one piece are your own hang ups, don’t project them onto someone else.

A spectator would mean you are choosing to look.

OP, certainly a bit uptight 😀I'm British, 61 and I occasionally sunbathe topless, discreetly in my garden. Not because I want to be brown but because I like the feeling of sun and fresh air on my skin.

I wouldn't do it in front of my teen ds but I think you should leave your dm to it. It's her holiday too.

They’re just boobs, probably the ones that fed you as a baby. Thought if you have teens with you I can see how they’d be uncomfortable. The bikini thing is silly though, there’s no age limit on them. Would you feel uncomfortable with a man being topless in this heat, or wear a body suit whatever his age?

I'm with you op, no need for everything to be on display. Guess you may need to rethink your holiday plans in the future.

Honestly, the feeling of sun and a warm breeze against your skin is wonderful. Especially our breasts when they're rarely free from some restrictive clothing or another.
Men are very happy to whip off their tops, no reason why we shouldn't be able to as well.
I go topless on holiday whenever I can. If I had the privacy of my a non-overlooked garden, on a day like today, I'd be topless too.

I'd be more worried about actinic keratosis to be honest. Or , worse again, melanoma. Are some parts of the body more sensitive? A lot of elderly people seem to have sun damage around the temple or ankles for example. Not much danger of it this year I suppose ....

It's not up to you though is it? I personally don't wear a traditional bikini anymore (I'm 43 and a bit overweight but not "plus size"), it's really just my body insecurity and I know that's my issue. I would never force my views on anyone else.
I wear a tankini if I want to be by the pool all day on holiday because it's more practical for toilet trips.

Also young children don't think anything about boobs apart from possibly food so I don't think your DC would even notice. If it was a teenage boy I would say grandma should cover up (her boobs not stop wearing a bikini) or it would be a bit embarrassing

I'd be worried about melanoma on my tits

I'm more surprised that people still sunbathe in this day and age, with all the sun safety awareness.

My mum goes topless and I don’t get it either.

She can be the only topless woman on the beach at times.

She holidays with two other couples and her dh. I asked her once if she would walk downstairs with her boobs out when they were stood in her kitchen, she said absolutely not!!

So why is it okay in a foreign country 🤷🏼‍♀️