To not shower every day? And....

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I don't shower every day. Am I gross? I shower every other evening and on those days I have a proper wash including hair shampoo conditioner etc plus any shaving that needs to be done

Mornings I wash face teeth and put deo on. I think it's ok as I don't smell but wondered am I gross

Also on another entirely different subject, do some ppl never go to parents eve? And if u miss a few does it get mentioned

I would be pretty grim if I showered every other day, but maybe I'm just a bit sweaty. I certainly don't feel as fresh if I don't.
With regards to parents evenings. I don't think one off absence would be particularly noted, although it is extremely frustrating if you have made an appointment but not turned up as the teacher may need to hang on a bit later.
Never going wouldn't absolutely be noted. I've been teaching nearly 20 years and I still remember I boy I first taught in mine and his first year. His parents never came in the all years he was in school. Funnily enough he actually crossed my mind this week, and this was one of the thoughts I had about him. He wa lovely and I just can't understand why they didn't come. Often parents can't make it and ask for feedback by phone call or email but this lad's parents did absolutely nothing.

Unless you all share the same bathwater, a typical bath will cost a lot more than a typical shower. And it's worse for the planet.

PS: I shower daily without fail. I'd feel gross if I didn't.

@spikeandbuffy

Someone will come on and say oh I didn't mean disabled people but either a strip wash is fine for everyone or nobody

Obviously it’s better than nothing and if you are disabled or have sensory issues or no shower or whatever needs must. Not judging anyone who has to do it.

But I am not talking about this I am talking about people presenting it as being an easy and cheap alternative to a shower. I just don’t follow this logic at all. If you don’t have mobility issues and have a shower it seems to me it’s an absolute no brainer that a shower is miles easier.

Showering every other day is fine. Anyone who thinks everyday is essential i think needs to get a grip.

I always go to parents wvening but id rather not ;) my kids have never had a bad one though

You aren't supposed to wash your genitals with soap though...

Since when? Yes you don't wash your vag ( where a tampon would go) with soap. But all the outie parts and your butt crack need soap.

I use sanex. I'm not stuffing it inside me but oh need to wash the outside areas with soap! As you would anywhere on your body.

I hate bloody strip washes. Such a faff and I'm sure I use just as much water as a quick shower. Do people really use the same flannel for their face as well as their genitals and then let it dry out and use it again the following day?

I know they always say that, but I put the plug in the bath once when I was having a shower and by the time I was finished (5-10 minutes) there was much more water in there than if I’d had a bath.

The few times I’ve done a strip wash I make a right mess water all over the floor and it’s such a faff. I don’t like flannels either.

Nah you’re fine, it’s apparently not great for the skin to wash it every day. It’s different if you do manual labour and need to wash certain areas so you don’t get sore. I do a physical job so shower every day before I work but when I’m off work I don’t always bother. As long as my face is clean, creams on and deodorant I don’t think it matters.

I wish this too. Those Japanese toilets would be very cool.

Toilet paper really isn’t enough. Hence the need for a daily shower.

Shower daily but only wash hair every other day unless very hot/sweaty. As long as a thorough wash on the other days I can't get too het up about alternate day showers but not for me personally.
Parents evening - always attended. I believe it does get noted if parents regularly don't attend.

I used to shower every day but now I'm WFH it's more like every other day (depends on exercise, outings etc). My family haven't complained.

On the parents evening- lots have people have said it gets noted if parents don't attend regularly. What does that mean - it gets noted? Why would anyone care about it being noted?

@ButWhatAboutTheBees

I'd love to get those who "can tell" and stick them in a room full of people, all dressed the same. Then tell them to indicate which people they think haven't showered that morning

If they indicated me, I'd slap their smug look round the other side of their face.

Nah, not having it.

I have a shower when I wash my hair, which is usually twice a week, but will shower more often in hot weather.

To those who dont shower daily do you go out and use public toilets? Sit on the toilet seat that has been shared by others then not wash after?

@naichick yes I have done this ? genuinely, what exactly are you expecting to happen to me if I do this ?

Parents evenings - we have been banned because we smell

i shower every day in summer but not in winter months . i dont sweat alot. if its really hot i might shower twice

Oh god not this again.

Anyone you've heard say 'my dermatologist said never use soap down there'... that's a person who had reason to see a dermatologist in the first place. The advice was for them, not everyone else.

No, it's the advice for EVERYONE not to use soap to clean your vagina as it can upset the pH levels and cause all sorts of problems

We never had a shower in the house when I was growing up. Baths every few days and strip washes morning and night. That was the norm and I don't remember anyone smelling.

I shower or bath most days but that's just habit. I don't notice a difference if I skip a day.

One of my parents was ill recently and relied on strip washes for months. Though they were very glad of a shower when the option became viable, there was never once a smell from them.

Of course you don't put soap up your vagina. But the parts of your genital area that are just normal skin, not mucous membrane, can and should be washed. Unless of course you experience an actual problem in which case you'd seek advice and experiment with other ways to clean.

God some people must absolutely reek down there.

Feel like there are a lot of germaphobes on Mumsnet. What do you think happens if you don't wash your bum for a couple of days? Absolutely nothing happens.

I'm chronically ill and I usually have a bath every other day. Nobody tells me I smell. I'm not covered in grime. Washing every day would be a lot of extra effort for me, and since I have very low energy I am fine with every other day.

Also a lot of ableism on threads like this. No, not everyone has the capability to "just have a quick 5 minute shower ever day". I can't shower at all because I have POTS. I can only bath. And it's a lot of effort and money to run a bath every single day.

Last year I had surgery and couldn't shower or bath for 10 days afterwards because I couldn't get my wound wet. I made do with flannel washes. I still didn't smell.