To not shower every day? And....

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I don't shower every day. Am I gross? I shower every other evening and on those days I have a proper wash including hair shampoo conditioner etc plus any shaving that needs to be done

Mornings I wash face teeth and put deo on. I think it's ok as I don't smell but wondered am I gross

Also on another entirely different subject, do some ppl never go to parents eve? And if u miss a few does it get mentioned

How harsh. Its not gross, I don't shower everyday it runs my skin. You can't tell who showers everyday and who doesn't.
When I was a child it was the norm to have a bath once a week and I dont remember ever noticing people smelling bad.
Some people can't shower for a number of reasons you need to have a bit of empathy for others

And what about people who can't afford the money for the water/power to shower everyday. They didn't say they didn't have the time to shower daily they said they don't have the money too!

And for the other question some people don't go to parents evening and it definitely gets talked about by the school staff

I think it honestly depends on the person! I'm 38 and possibly slightly peri-menopause, a side effect of which is night sweats! I therefore feel gross every morning, and need a shower! However, if you don't feel dirty and don't smell, then there probably isn't any need to shower every day.

I shower every other day. If I showered every day my skin would get dry and it makes me feel really uncomfortable.

The exception is if I've done exercise, I would always shower if I got sweaty.

I shower more often than not, but I'm not bothered if I miss the odd day. Those days are generally when I'm not going anywhere. I don't think you are disgusting for showering every other day.

It's possible to shower in 1 minute. Wet a sponge, lather it up, wash body, then turn shower on for rapid rinse off. I wonder how much that costs?

When I had a working shower I definitely couldn't shower in 1 min ! It took longer than that for the water to get hot.

I was out and about today completing errands and I got so many horrible whiffs walking past people, I think some don't realise they smell so musty... like old Pillows or something. I wouldn't point it out but imo you can tell when someone hasn't bathed/showered.

I shower every other day. I WFH mostly. The only exception is if I have arranged to meet a friend for coffee or lunch. I would shower before specifically going out to meet someone.

I wear clean underwear everyday and if I am not leaving the house I often wear the same top again. If I am meeting someone, then it's a shower and fresh clothes.

I often didn't go to parents evening in Primary. I got called in quite frequently most terms, so had far more chats with teachers than most parents. The teachers were usually quite happy for me not to come in again and have the same chat 😂. One asked me to book a slot anyway, but they knew I wouldnot be there, but it would give them a breather and a chance to have a cuppa! I was happy to oblige.

People might well have smelt a bit sweaty today because... they were sweating at the time 🤣

It's not gross and you really can't tell with most people if they shower every day.

I don't always but I WFH so nobody to offend
But when I shower I shower.. so bar soap, flannel, and everything from ears to in between toes, back of knees, belly button is washed
Then a shower oil and a long lasting cream antiperspirant

I feel much cleaner doing that than using shower gel daily to have a quick swish about and it keeps me fresher a lot longer

Face washed twice a day and a bidet bottle too

Shower twice a day.. just like to be clean!

It's a bit gross, yeah. If your skin gets dry, put a body oil on damp skin like the Palmer's oil and it absorbs right away and leaves you super smooth.

When I was pregnant I started to bath everyday because my back ached. My skin deteriorated so quickly. It’s definitely better for my skin not to shower/bath everyday.

Just washing face is not enough. What about genital area? You probably won't smell gross, unless you live in a busy city and the weather is hot. But it is more about basic hygiene.

I personally can’t imagine not showering every day. But it wakes me up, I like to feel fresh - I’ll often turn it to cold in the morning. Also peri and sweaty in the night.

But I’m one of those people who sometimes have 2 (or 3) quick showers a day. I have an active job (but in close contact to people) then I often go for a run later in the day. My showers are very quick but necessary.

I can’t stand it when people start going in about ‘pits and bits’ and a ‘flannel wash’ on here. Just hop in the shower! Unless you don’t have one (or you have a disability). But then I’d just fill a shallow bath and get in that.

I usually shower every other day, more often if it's hot out or I've been active. I do a desk job and apply deodorant every day so I don't really work up much of a sweat. If I've been to the gym or hiking, I'll always have a shower. Agree with other posters that too much showering dries my skin out horribly.

OK, I read this thread about half an hour ago just as I was getting ready to have a shower before going out - am now sat in car outside a pub waiting for my friend!

So I decided to time the whole process!

It took 3 minutes for the water to run hot enough for the shower during which time I got undressed and sorted out towels.

I was in the shower for 8 minutes, first I wet my hair thoroughly then applied shampoo and rubbed well. I only use one lot of shampoo so I then rinsed and put on conditioner. While the conditioner was on, I used the bar of soap to wash myself including feet, toes and all orifices! I needed to shave my legs and underarms so did that using the soap. Finally I rinsed the conditioner from my hair until squeaky clean, I have a shoulder length bob. Finally once the water was off I squeegeed the shower cubicle and got my towelling gown on, tidied up bath mat, razor and soap etc - another 1minute.

I consider that a quick shower, I did not sit under the warm water putting the world to rights or dreaming but I do sometimes linger.

So a total of 12 minutes in the bathroom before going in my bedroom to towel dry my hair and body, brush my hair and sit on bed putting on moisturiser, deodorant and spot cream ( psoriasis) - add on 2 minutes. It then took me 3 minutes to get dressed before I was ready to dry and straighten my hair, another 6 minutes. I would need to sort my hair out even if I was going to bed I’d still need to do my hair otherwise I would look like a scarecrow in the morning!

I don’t wear makeup so in total I took 23 minutes from turning on the shower to be dry and dressed again. That was a very focused time as I was keeping an eye on the stop watch, usually I dither around and take longer.

I am obviously inept at having a short shower and admire the person who said she can have one in 1minutes or even in 5 minutes!

I actually hate having a shower, too much messing around but obviously I have them. I do regularly ask my daughter if I or my house have the old lady smell but she assures that I’m fine!

Well, you would know though ... No news is good news when it comes to schools I say!

I would love to not have to shower every day and I don’t think there is anything wrong with not doing it but perimenopause gives me night sweats and sometimes hot flashes during the day too so I feel absolutely disgusting if I don’t shower every morning.

It also shows the people who can't think of any other possibilities than that if their own situation.
Some people just can't/won't believe we're all different and that some people do not need to shower every day. They just think they're gross/smelly etc. and they "can definitely tell" when someone didn't shower that morning and that person on the bus that reeks? The only possibility in their narrow little minds is because that person didn't shower 6 hours ago. They're so bubbled they don't understand that the smelly person probably hasn't washed for over a fortnight, lives in poverty, had social issues etc etc etc.

I shower every other day in the winter (every day summer) but I do a proper strip wash on the inbetween days in the winter. Bottoms and genitals smell after a day, there's no getting away from it. Don't delude yourself.

With people smelling musty laundry’s probably an issue as much as showering. I have to use fragrance free detergent and no softener because of my DS’s eczema. It does the job but you don’t get a clean laundry smell and everything needs to be dried very quickly. It’s weird how the nose adapts as now sheets at my parents smell harsh/chemical to me and I used to like their detergent.

I shower every other day and - get ready for it neurotic Mumsnet Clean freaks - only wash my hair once a week if that. GASP. I know.

I don't smell, I'd definitely know if I did because I have some deliciously honest friends and family who would 100% tell me if I smell.

I'm actually surprised there are so many people who would apparently reek after only 24 hours not showering. You all must sweat brine.