I don't like going on holiday. Anyone else?

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We are on day 4/5 of a UK break (Airbnb). Husband said do you want to just go home today and I could not have said yes faster 🤣

I just don't like going away. Strange bed, poor sleep, food I'm not sure about (I've got bowel endo and I have to be careful what I eat). Worries about finding a toilet in unfamiliar places when endo flares up, which it always does. It's definitely a hangover from awful childhood holidays with a bullying father and I'm having therapy at the moment to help with anxiety, but don't think I've ever been on holiday and not been tense and wanting to go home from day 1.

Anyone else just not get the fuss about holidays?

How odd 😂 This attitude would certainly be a dealbreaker for me in a partner.

I love them but do feel quite out of sorts on lead up as I get older! Can’t explain it. It can be stressful packing wise for young DDs though and I am a worrier, panicking in case I’ve forgotten something vital so could be tied it with that.

How lovely that your DH is happy to just go home, knowing you’d rather.

I haven’t voted because if you don’t like holidays that is your prerogative so not unreasonable but I live to travel - I have a whiteboard in my hall where I count down daily to my next trip - so always staying home would not work for me (and to put it in perspective I have a lot of outdoor space and a swimming pool and live in a country with good weather!).

Yes, me!! I find packing and travelling really stressful. Husband is the same, a total home bird 😂 we do still go away on short breaks but always have a couple of days off at home to ‘reset’ before going back to work.

interestingly, I also have a chronic health condition which can mean urgent dashes to the loo. I think this is always at the back of my mind and makes unfamiliar surroundings more stressful.

I dislike holidays too, our family didn't get on and they were always awful with no space to escape as we were children.
The stress of packing, being away is just a big worry for me. I haven't been on holiday since 2004!
Nothing weird about it, I know plenty people who don't go on holiday for various reasons.

I hate going away. I can't relax and end up loosing weight because I get so nervous and tense. Love being at home. I go for the sake of my family but count the hours until I can go home.

I love time at home but definitely get a boost from going abroad. I don’t seem to get the same boost from uk holidays - I think it’s the unpredictable weather. Sun, swimming in the sea and meals prepared for me and concentrated time with my family are what I need to balance the slog of life. I do understand why others wouldn’t want that though.

I like the idea of going on holiday, but a week max for me. Like you I miss my own bed, garden, adult kids, and home comforts etc. I am not like some who say, we had a great holiday, didn’t want to come home etc, I am always ready to come home, and book destinations with early morning return flights, DH is the same so it doesn’t cause problems. As a pp said I hate the build up to a holiday, the packing etc, really get on my nerves.

As I've got older, I've tended to prefer shorter breaks eg 3 separate trips of 1 week would suit me far better than one 3 week trip

And, I like my own bed, pillow, duvet combination. Don't like sleeping in a strange bed

I used to really stress about them, wondering if I was going to cope physically (I'm disabled), lack of sleep, food and so on.

That changed when we bought a motor home. Now I know I'm going to be ok and there's none of the stress about packing - it's all on board and all we need to do is throw some clothes and food in and we're away. I love the freedom of being able to site hop too and not being tied to just one place.

I’d you're in the UK then surely you’re familiar with food and can find something!

Agreed. I love being away. I almost forget home exists.

I'm not a huge fan either!
Find packing and travelling stressful. Plus my DH is someone incapable of sitting still which is much easier for me when we're at home. We don't really enjoy the same things from a holiday. I never get a quiet moment and he's constantly busy.

I like holidays but I do think they are an awful lot of faff, very expensive for what they are (even the cheap ones) and it boggles me how people go on so many a year.

I think I could honestly have a 10 day holiday every 2-3 years and be totally fine with that frequency. My wider family all think I am odd - they all go on several a year and think that is normal and anyone who doesn't is clearly not living a good life.

And as someone who used to fly a lot for her job, the less flying I do now, the better as far as I'm concerned.

I wish it was that straightforward, but family likes to eat out and sometimes it's difficult. Went for a pub meal last night, place had great reviews, should have been ok wasn't. Had to take codiene for cramping and diarrhoea this morning.

Nope, I hate being at home

We live for our foreign holidays - have a perfectly lovely home, good jobs but we have 6 holidays a year - my children have got the bug too

My son has asked for city breaks instead of toys for his birthday since he was 7 😂

My Mum is like this she will not leave our town now for more than a day.
It gave me the travel bug as we only had a few UK breaks growing up.

However now age 44 I do like holidays but I also find it a chew. I hate the packing and unpacking it is such a hassle and I need 4 days to just chill out and potter at home afterwards.

I like eating though so the food is the best bit. I also refuse to stay somewhere that is worse than my home. So would not camp.

I voted YANBU because your feelings are valid - I don’t share them but we definitely don’t all have to like the same things.

When I was a teen I hated being away from home on hols. I think it was to do with feeling self conscious though, esp because we always went to the same resort which, though lovely, was an extrovert’s paradise.

I live by the sea, so I currently can't be bothered to go on holiday. Maybe when the novelty wears off, but so far it's been 5 years...

I go on short breaks, but I'm always overjoyed to be home.

She's explained it stems from childhood trauma, and your response is to laugh and call her odd?

Id say having such a lack of empathy for another human is what's odd here.

I did when children were little. Now I want them to see the world and to have fun! I've not done many holidays due to money but I'm hoping to change this and go abroad with them once a year. (Leaving DH who isn't a holiday fan at home)

I don't like family holidays. I am fine going away on my own.

I've definitely gone off them as I've got older. I'm now coeliac so eating out is a pain, I don't sleep so well in other places and I hate packing.

I felt like this for a couple of years. The whole lead up to it, prepping, planning, last minute scramble and then travelling.

Single parent, really busy job.

I’ve sort of got over it, but I have fewer, more luxurious, shorter breaks. 5* hotels, pure luxury and I don’t have anything to do once I’m there. I’ll never do a self catered holiday again.

A cruise might suit you?
Everything taken care of. Medics and great food too.
You don’t have to do the shore trips if you don’t want to and on board, there’s always a loo not far away.