I don't like going on holiday. Anyone else?

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We are on day 4/5 of a UK break (Airbnb). Husband said do you want to just go home today and I could not have said yes faster 🤣

I just don't like going away. Strange bed, poor sleep, food I'm not sure about (I've got bowel endo and I have to be careful what I eat). Worries about finding a toilet in unfamiliar places when endo flares up, which it always does. It's definitely a hangover from awful childhood holidays with a bullying father and I'm having therapy at the moment to help with anxiety, but don't think I've ever been on holiday and not been tense and wanting to go home from day 1.

Anyone else just not get the fuss about holidays?

If I'm honest I enjoyed them pre DD as holidays were active, where and when we wanted to go, without the grim expense and crowds of school hols.

I can take them or leave them now. But I think dp and I will find new enthusiasm again when we don't have a grumpy teen in tow.

OP you don't have to apologise to anyone except perhaps your DP if it's stopping him doing things he wants to do.
Not everyone likes hot weather or travelling etc.

I agree with you OP - now. But I used to live somewhere very unpleasant, and I was just grateful to a bit at home!

I mean its not odd, its right there explained in the op. The poster had a bullying father and is in therapy. Agree with the poster that is lovely the dh is so understanding.

I don't mind. We have a lovely home and garden, comfy bed, good kitchen and its usually more relaxing than being away in a strange bed.

I hate packing and all that faff. And we have an elderly cat who needs us.

I hate crowds and strangers and noise.

But I like exploring and new cultures.

Once or twice a year is great though.

You are completely entitled to feel how you feel. I find holidays stressful - I think years of doing self catering with small kids, having to remember all the kit, potties, travel cots etc has taken its toll and I have to remind myself they're a bit older now so the practicalities are easier (though still not old enough to have a lie in and at the age of moaning/pestering/arguing/squabbling so not exactly restful company...).
I find packing stressful in case I've forgotten something and because husband moans if I pack too much.
For many years we had an elderly pet so I had to also arrange pet sitter and make sure everything was clean and ready for them. Then I'd have half an ear open for the phone in case pet sitter called.
Sort of linked to getting phone calls I worry about leaving the house - floods etc. we have no family nearby so trying to sort this out from a distance would be a nightmare and coming home with kids to a wrecked house would be very difficult.
This year elderly pet is no longer with us and I can't decide if it will be better because I won't be listening out for the phone twice a day or worse because the house will be empty and any damage could go unnoticed... I might get a neighbour to pop in a few times.
I also can't decide whether to turn the water off (couldn't previously as pet sitter needed it).

I think based on your health issues, that contributes massively. I don't blame you but it is unfair on everyone else.

Similarly to you, I just find holidays uncomfortable and full of difficult sensations and newness. Autism makes it a nightmare most of the time.

Love holidays and travel. UK and abroad
Seeing and exploring new places, being in familiar places I love. Just with DH and no one else. It's even better since I retired, time to pack and get organised, no post holiday blues. Four holidays planned for next year.

When people say on threads like this that they miss their “home comforts”… what do you mean? I mean I get it if you’re camping or staying in a hostel or something but if you’re staying in a nice hotel surely they have the same or similar things you have at home?

no judgement, just genuinely curious!

I agree OP. A lot of fuss about nothing. I enjoy going away for a few days to do something specific, but the idea of going somewhere for 2 weeks just to lie on a sun lounger and do sod all, strikes me as hell on earth.

@BrigadierEtienneGerard

there are other types of holiday other than sun lounger type ones you know!

what about seeing the world? Different cultures? Different foods? Different sights? Etc

We are homebirds too! I price up holidays all the time but we never commit. We have been plenty places and even lived abroad for a while but never go an annual holiday.

We all have exceptionally different sleeping patterns, I'm at insomniac who sleeps 4 hours and wanders about, DS is a really light sleeper so DH train like snoring would make him struggle.

None of us like busy places.

We are all pale and blonde or gingery so we can just about cope with the Scottish sun.

We visit friends who live in a country with a very similar climate to our own or we save up and stay in nice places in UK for 2-3 nights.

Even when we have gone away we both get to day 5 and can't wait to start packing and go home.

I appreciate that's really strange but it works for us.

This is an interesting thread.

I don't mind a night or two away in the UK but I have no interest in going abroad. Also I couldn't bear to be away from my cat. He gets freaked out if me and my partner go out in the same car because he knows, or thinks he does, that we are abandoning him. If we go out separately in our own cars he's fine with that. He's a strange cat but I love him.

I can imagine if you are ill and need a clean toilet, it must be tough. So YANBU in that way.

Personally I love holidays/ trips and quite often I go solo, though DH also likes travel, thank goodness. Even better now DC are grown. We don't do sun breaks though. We are naturally tanned. Mostly culture, ruins, food, nature.

I hate pottering at home. The organising of breaks can be tedious but I don't feel anxious or anything.

Personally an air b&b in uk wouldn't be a holiday.. but that's just because I wouldn't want to stay in someone else's home when i'd rather be in my own! I'd probably prefer to do day trips.

I live for my holidays. If dh wasn’t on the same page (and he’s not about some of my ideas) I just go without him. I wouldn’t miss out because it wasn’t something he wanted to do.
If you don’t enjoy them then you don’t enjoy them, it’s not unreasonable to prefer one thing over another.
We have a lovely house and garden now and while it’s nice to be able to spend time enjoying our hard work I would also feel stifled if I didn’t spend time away from it. I wfh most of the time so it’s also my job to be here in my home office.
I massively appreciate the change of scenery and a blue sky.

Yes those whose partners don't enjoy hols, go without them! Also as a 52 year old I don't understand 40 yr olds saying they are too old to enjoy holidays! Eh? Just say you don't like hols. 40 is not old.

I'm generally unsettled for the first day and sometimes two. But to be honest once I've got there, had a meal and a drink, I'm OK.

I've only once come back early from holiday and that was when we shouldn't have gone, my husband was really stressed with work and it became apparent about 3 days into a 10 day holiday that he was having a full on nervous breakdown. We came home and I've never been more relieved to get back home.

I actually said to someone yesterday that holidays are overrated!

I do have a nice time, but the orgainsing, packing etc is stressful to me and while I do enjoy our holidays I don't enjoy them THAT much and I am always glad to come home again. A week is plenty for me, I never think about going for a fortnight!

This. Haven't done a sun lounger holiday since my 20s.

Not wanting to be away from home for valid medical or other practical reasons is fine. That’s a bit different to “not getting the fuss” over holidays. It‘s not rocket science why people like holidays. I would suggest you be careful about not projecting your own issues
onto those around you or you run the risk of resentment from dh/dc.

I don’t like going on holiday either but we have always had a caravan or campervan so I can cope with that. sometimes my husband and son go off somewhere without me and my son does a sport which allows for travelling abroad a couple of times a year with teammates and coaches. He’s growing up completely differently to me. We had a small farm growing up and never took holidays. School trip to France was a one off!