I don't like going on holiday. Anyone else?

[MellowExpert]

We are on day 4/5 of a UK break (Airbnb). Husband said do you want to just go home today and I could not have said yes faster 🤣

I just don't like going away. Strange bed, poor sleep, food I'm not sure about (I've got bowel endo and I have to be careful what I eat). Worries about finding a toilet in unfamiliar places when endo flares up, which it always does. It's definitely a hangover from awful childhood holidays with a bullying father and I'm having therapy at the moment to help with anxiety, but don't think I've ever been on holiday and not been tense and wanting to go home from day 1.

Anyone else just not get the fuss about holidays?

None of us like holidays in our family so we just stay home and have days out instead. I hate change so struggle to relax when away. The times when we have gone away we count down the days to going home and sometimes leave early!

I don’t know, I tend to be able to pack in under 15 minutes, the key is having all your washing up to date which mine is. Plus I also just pack for myself and do double check what ds is packing. Everyone else does their own packing. I do my toiletries, dh does his and shares with ds and the dds do their own. I don’t bother doing hair/makeup when away. I don’t understand what people are doing when they say it takes days to pack!! Days doing what?!?! Maybe I’m low maintenance and have way less to pack plus I’m just packing for myself and I really dgaf what I look like on holiday though.

I feel that way about B&Bs and holiday cottages but love hotels. Perhaps you are just doing the wrong sort of holiday?

I also and not very good at suitcase Tetris, I can never seem to repack when it’s time to come home and fit everything in without great difficulty

This is my super power! Many a time someone's said "you won't fit all that in there" and I always do. If I could monetize that skill in some way, I'd be rich 😂Although it does mean I have to keep a careful eye on the weight of the case as I can easily overpack.

@KimberleyClark

yeah but you’ll likely be bloody freezing - so not like being abroad!

I'm on holiday now, my first proper break since before covid.

Breakfast cooked for me, endless sunshine, pool, sun lounger, my phone is off, laptop left at home.

I thought I'd coped with life fairly well but, oh my word, the relief. Not to have to think about anything. All of a sudden I'm so tired I just want to sleep.

And I'd forgotten HOW to do holidays. I've come away without a bikini, most of my summer clothes don't fit properly any more. I need to throw them all out and start again. But for now, I'm snoozing by the pool in a pair of shorts and a vest top. I wasn't looking forward to this trip, it was a bit of a chore, but I'm so glad I came. 🤗

I like holidays when they don't involve an airport 😂 I'm happy to fly but airports drive me round the bend

Each to their own. Personally I love holidays. And am lucky enough to go several times a year. Shortly off to France where it will be a home from home. Also heading for couple of nights to stay with a cousin in a different country. That will be great to catch up but not exactly a holiday! Very fed up with the miserable weather so holiday can’t come soon enough!

OP, there must be somewhere you like staying - a place you know well, somewhere familiar with things you like to do, sailing or skiing or just mooching in the sun. A little villa tucked away somewhere or a hotel in Stockholm with decent mattresses and beautiful white cotton bed linen. Somewhere that makes no demands on you?

@ClassicBBQ

but change can be good!

I absolutely hate it. I'd be happy never going anywhere again.

Time off work is important though. In the OPs shoes given what is described I am not surprised at her view.

l am going away this afternoon and really wish I hadn’t read this thread 🤣. I’m just not really looking forward to it. My last holiday was an utter disaster. I booked a villa and when we got there it wasn’t finished, we arrived to a building site. The holiday before that I booked a rural finca and it was surrounded by wild packs of hunting dogs. I honestly thought we’d be eaten alive in our sleep. Both trips refunded but a total nightmare. No wonder i’m anxious about later!

@RuthW

really! Why?

I don't like going away. I am much happier staying at home. No packing and traveling and I get to sleep in my own bed

@TheChosenTwo

plus I’m just packing for myself

That'll be why it doesn't take you long.

YANBU, in the sense that we all like different things.

I personally love holidays and we go away as much as we possibly can. I couldn’t have a long-term relationship with someone who didn’t enjoy travel; it’s a huge thing for me.

I’m assuming that you’d be happy for your partner to go away for a break alone or with friends, if he wanted to?

I'm the opposite - I don't get enough holidays lol. I didn't enjoy them so much with younger children though. Mine are all pretty much grown now.

I love holidays, I really enjoy hot weather and the coast/swimming so love a relaxing sun holiday. I even love the airport.
We also camp in the UK which we love as it’s an adventure and so different to being at home.

I minimise any stress by making lots of lists of things to sort before we leave and things to pack.

I feel the same, but do continue to go on holiday

I enjoy experiencing somewhere new but I hate the packing and planning ahead of time, I find airports the most soul destroying place in the galaxy and I miss my home comforts a lot. I am much better with Air B&B/villa type holidays than I am with hotels.... I just can't relax much in a hotel.

I also have food intolerances and the UK now caters pretty well for this, and I love to eat out a lot and feel confident doing this in the UK. Other countries....even ones you'd expect to be good for this.... yeah. Not so much. Food is a big enjoyment for me, but most holidays I end up starving half the time due to lack of (nice) options (and yes, I can usually find something to eat but when DH says "Oh look, you could have the seasonal veg" for the third night running I just don't fancy eating it tbh. In Rome I ate grilled courgette 4 nights in a row and I haven't touched one since! Amsterdam several years ago saw me lose 5lbs on a short break and I ended up eating Eat Natural bars for each meal, that I (thankfully) found in a random supermarket 😂

@LuckySantangelo35

you are always all over these sorts of threads, trying to make people feel like there is something wrong with them if they don't like going away much. FYI, not everyone likes change, hotter weather, being away from home, different foods etc. If you try really, really hard, you can just accept that others are different.

It depends. What you've described - a UK short break - isn't what I'd call a holiday. That involves getting on a plane and I love it. I'm single but do know that I couldn't be with someone who didn't appreciate going away. That said, I'm a massive homebody too!

Only place I like staying for a length of time is my mil place in USA. Always feel totally relaxed and happy there. It’s home away from home as they live rurally like we do. Otherwise I prefer shorter breaks or day trips.

My husband isn’t a big fan of holidays. He wants to go places and enjoys eating different food etc but he hates travelling and hates not having all his bits and bobs with him (so he often overpacks). He often ends up feeling unsettled even though he enjoys many parts of it.

He always wants to take time off to just be at home and I can agree to the odd day or two but then I always end up doing a load of jobs around the house because I can see them and they are there

I somewhat agree. I love holidays but there's a lot of stress that comes with organising, packing, travel and when you arrive at the place if it's an airbnb there's a lot of flap cleaning at the end etc. If you're travelling with difficult people it can be even harder.