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To want my glasses back?

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FlexibleFi · 17/07/2024 17:59

More of a WWYD than an AIBU.

I went to a wedding June. I and three other friends from university days (14 years since we graduated) were invited and booked an AirBnB for a long weekend. We don't see a lot of each other but we have a WA group and message every few weeks. It was a lovely opportunity to catch up.

After years of being really hard up, I had a significant job change this year and for the first time splashed out on a few special things — including a rather fancy pair of designer glasses instead of Specsavers basics. The glasses are for reading and computer work, I don't need them for ordinary things. They're quite a mild prescription. All three friends at the AirBnB tried my posh spex on. One, I'll call her Rachel, commented that we must have the same prescription because she could read perfectly with them. She joshed me for spending so much money on them. A couple of times over the weekend, when I'd left them sitting by my phone or book, she'd borrow them to read something without asking.

We had a great busy and boozy weekend and when I got home I couldn't find my glasses anywhere, so I messaged the group to ask if anyone had picked them up accidentally. All said no. I messaged the AirBnB owner to ask if they'd been left there. No. Searched the car, searched everywhere. No sign of them. I'm not someone who often loses things.

Then this Sunday Joanne, one of the others in the wedding group sent a screenshot from FB of Rachel reading a menu in a restaurant while wearing a pair of glasses that look just like mine. Joanne commented 'Well now we know where Fi's glasses went, LOL' on FB. By the time I managed to get onto FB (ancient account I rarely check) the image had gone — but I had the screenshot.

I messaged Rachel, sent her the screenshot and said it looked as if she'd found my glasses, could she post them back to me please. She's replied saying they're her glasses: she liked them so much that she's bought a pair exactly like mine. I don't believe it and neither does Joanne. Rachel's recently split from her long-term partner and she talked a lot while we were away of how difficult she's finding things financially at the moment.

They were £300. I could claim on travel insurance (I have annual travel insurance) or on my household contents, but then I'll have to pay more for premiums for the next few years.

Joanne has said she'll get involved if necessary but I don't want to ruin memories of a lovely weekend. I can't immediately afford to replace the spex with the same (I have a holiday booked and that will eat up my budget for the next month or two) so I'll have to order a pair of cheap prescription readers on the internet. WWYD?

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wordler · 28/07/2024 21:13

Great news. Try not to stress about the extra pair you ordered - it's always sensible to have a back up. Keep the cheap pair at work, or in your car in case you misplace the other pair etc.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 28/07/2024 21:20

Lovely that Joanne and friends brokered peace and got the glasses back. However, unless I rec'd a direct and sincere apology from Rachel I wouldn't forget this or trust her.

PreciousMahoney · 28/07/2024 21:35

Yey Fi! Delighted at your news. As for Rachel, Id say to her the words of the wonderful Kevin Bridges

"Did ye aye"

Glad you're putting a security mark on them, and look, all the trolls are hiding under their bridges🤣

threelions · 28/07/2024 21:35

I'm so glad to hear you have them back. The least Rachel can do is apologise to you herself.

Funny how she accidentally kept them!

Didsomeonesaydogs · 28/07/2024 21:37

Awesome news! So pleased you’re getting them back! Well done to your great friends!

(Although I hadn’t previously commented, I’ve been eagerly checking every time I get a notification that @FlexibleFi has updated the thread!)

angela1952 · 28/07/2024 21:50

wordler · 28/07/2024 21:13

Great news. Try not to stress about the extra pair you ordered - it's always sensible to have a back up. Keep the cheap pair at work, or in your car in case you misplace the other pair etc.

Or slip them to Rachel next time you meet in case she needs them?!
I doubt you’ll see much of her in future though, she must be so embarrassed knowing that everybody knows she’s so light-fingered

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 28/07/2024 21:56

Happy for you OP!

Hurrah for Joanne. We all need friends like her xx

Savemydrink · 28/07/2024 21:58

How will she cope????

To want my glasses back?
LemonadeSunshine · 28/07/2024 22:07

Ah thanks for the update! People are so random at times, glad you've been able to move forward :-)

FrazzledFTworkingMum · 28/07/2024 22:08

Dayoldbag · 28/07/2024 20:42

Great news OP.
Rachel is the absolute dregs.
I don't for a second believe her bullshit.
She's a cheap thief and liar and life is simply too short to allow people like that access to your life.
Good luck.

This. Bye Rachel.

FangsForTheMemory · 28/07/2024 22:09

I'm a bit disappointed Joanne didn't wrestle her to the ground and prise them off her nose, though!

3luckystars · 28/07/2024 22:15

I’m delighted you got them back. I would drop her though.

All the best x

TheFormidableMrsC · 28/07/2024 22:28

I'm so happy to read this. I imagine Rachel will be too embarrassed to face you but you definitely need to take Joanne out for something lovely for being an absolute superstar! Tell her we all think she's great! 🥰

VickyPollard25 · 28/07/2024 22:30

Greats news @FlexibleFi !! I had no doubt they were yours. I’m so glad for you that you got them back!

Weezypopsy · 28/07/2024 22:33

This is great news! I would be keeping a very low profile for a long time if I was her!

TheHuntSyndicate · 28/07/2024 22:34

Good update but the utter nerve of the woman!

Well at least she has the shame of what she did to make her cringe from time to time.

You and your other friends are far more forgiving than I.

Ivehearditbothways · 28/07/2024 22:36

Found them in her bag…. Yeah, but then she wore them out and about and basically decided she was keeping them! When you find a friend’s belongings, you text them. You don’t go about using the thing!

She is so clearly a liar, very possibly a thief. I hope you’ll just be rid of her.

6pence · 28/07/2024 22:38

Well I suppose you can be civil to her for the sake of group harmony but it’s never going to be the same again is it op!

Borgonzola · 28/07/2024 22:41

Absolutely amazing. Congratulations. I would nominate this for Classics due to the wild ride but then the bonkers derailments would also unfortunately be included

Cherryana · 28/07/2024 22:45

This thread has my vote for Mumsnet classics.

It is possibly one of the greats because of the happy ending. Thank you for sharing it with us!!

Ginlfixit · 28/07/2024 22:52

So a thief AND a liar. Nice. Well at least you know you can't trust her. There's only one route I'd be taking with Rachel and that's never speaking to the devious deceitful cow ever again. There is no moving on from this. What a load of bs. They actually think you are supposed to just forget about this and carry on being friends with her. I'd tell them to sling their hooks with that.

ScruffMuffin · 28/07/2024 23:27

She isn't telling the truth. She just wanted them and quite obviously nicked them. But well done to you, Joanne and your other mates on getting them back! Thanks for coming back to let us know the happy ending (now watch your stuff around Rachel!).

CountessWindyBottom · 28/07/2024 23:30

Oooh I like Joanne! So glad that such an honest mistake of packing them in her bag by sheer accident and then wearing them until found out, again by accident, was rectified @FlexibleFi.

How are you feeling about this @DestructoCat?

Ohnobackagain · 29/07/2024 00:27

Ah @FlexibleFi it was all so feasible for Rachel until the glasses ended up on her face. I mean, finding your glasses in her bag (never happened) the way it would have gone is “Fi, I know I loved your glasses but there was no need to leave them in my bag - anyway I have them safe for you” 🤨🙄

Galoop · 29/07/2024 00:56

Wow. Sure she "found" them in her bag. Glad you got them back and that your friends helped you with that. How awkward for all of you. Hopefully Rachel realises not to be a scummy thief anymore.

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