To ask what your life looks like at the moment?

[Mixedit]

Sort of out of curiosity and also due to wondering whether life is stressful or if I'm just a bit rubbish at coping with it - I'm asking what does your life look like at the moment. What time do you get up? What responsibilities do you have? How long do you work for? What do you do after work? What time do you go to bed? What do you do with time when you're not at work?

I feel like I barely have time to stop and can't decide if I need to change me or change the situation.

Me, DH, DD 2.5. work 3 long days a week. Monday and Friday off.

Usually get up about 7, maybe 8 on the weekends.

We both finish work at 5pm. All eating tea at around 5:30. Dd bed at 6:30.

Tuesday evenings i attend a pottery class, DH attends photography club on a Monday.

Weekends i like a parkrun, we usually have a family day on the Sunday.

Have a cleaner every 2 weeks..

Nothing too wild

2 adult children at home. No dramas from them they’re lovely lads. They do their bit round the house.
Work ft, just had a promotion but my salary is a bit shit. Not dreadful but not where I’d like it.
minimal outgoings though, no mortgage.
Socialise most weeks and have a fairly good exercise routine. Lots of walking the dog.
After work is cleaning and cooking but I see my family a couple of evenings a week.
Bed by ten, up by 6 every work day. I read before I sleep.
Most evenings I get 1-2 hours to watch whatever series we’re on.
Oh and I’m married and we split household stuff 50/50.
Life wasn’t always this quiet but I’m only about peace and quiet now.

You really can’t compare yourself to strangers on the internet OP. If you’re stressed, you’re stressed and just because someone else is ‘busier’ doesn’t mean you can’t be! Sounds like you’re heading towards a burnout - if you can change the situation, then do! Life is too short.

HOWEVER - because I’m nosey and want to see others 🤣 - here would be my rough daily schedule during the week.

6.30am - alarm & up
6.45am - 2/3 times a week 30 min jog or walk, otherwise lie in bed
7.15am - shower & get ready
8.30am to 4pm - work (3 days from home, 2 in office. 8 min drive to office).
4.15 to 5 - chill, TV on, put something in oven, do a chore ( laundry or dishwasher etc, hang washing, hoover, change sheets)
5 to 5.45ish - chop, prep, cook etc… eat dinner, watch TV.
5.45 to 7.45ish - sometimes a YouTube video (yoga, weights), sometimes walk outdoors or sea swim, sometimes cinema, sometimes visit elderly relative and do shopping for them, sometimes my own food shop, sometimes more chores, sometimes NOTHING at all.
7.45 to 8.30ish - self care stuff as needed e.g. wash hair, shave legs, bath, nails, iron or steam clothes.
8.30 to 9.30 - TV, phone
9.30-10.15 - sometimes more phone, sometimes read
10.15ish - sleep

Obviously can’t compare me to someone with kids or a highly demanding job!

4 kids (1 adult 3 teens)
2 dogs
I work around 35 hours a week
DH does the same
Up at 7.30iah (work from home in the main). Work by 8.30 finish at 4ish. Dinner at 6ish. Go out or do activities or watch TV. Bed by 11pm
I cook twice a week as does DH in the kids do the rest.
I go out 1 or 2 times a week to pub/theatre/gigs with friends
I go to a weekly art class, the gym about once a week and a netball club twice a week.
The house isn't the tidiest but I prefer to prioritise going out and having fun.
It's very busy and hectic but that's how I like it.

Me, alone. OH died earlier this year and we were both disabled and caring for each other. Not able to work.

No sleeping pattern. Mostly stare at the walls all day. Mum visits once a week for 3 hours and tidys up a bit.

I tried asking for help but once the funeral was over everyone stopped responding to me and never bothered doing the stuff they said they would. Asked for a social worker assessment and they want so much of my income for a carer that I wouldn't be able to pay the rent if I took it.

This time last year my life was awesome. I'm stunned by how quickly everything changes.

My life is much slower and easier as my kids have got older. They are now teens and luckily for me they are lovely teens. I think pace of life is very connected to age of your kids, if you have any.

Up about 6:30, out to work at 8. Home about 5 and I like to get out a walk then and manage most days. I don't do excessive housework but do clean up (partner cooks) and tidy up after dinner each day. Then it's a mix of me going to yoga or taking kids to their sports activities or maybe going a walk while chatting on phone to friend.

I socialise at weekends mainly but prefer to do it mostly during the day and have lazy evenings. Occasional nights out. I'm very contented at this stage of life doing less and having more time to walk and read and spend time with my kids when they fancy it.

I am so sorry reading this. How awful for you. I hope things change for you soon.

Sorry to read this, i hope people step up soon.

Single no DC, mid 30s.

Get up at 8:30, start working from home at 9 am. I am online until 5 pm but take long breaks in between calls so I often work 4/5 hours a day. After work I relax, read, go to yoga class, go swimming, see friends for drinks or dinner, go to the cinema. I usually go to bed around 11:30.

I go away for the weekend often, sometimes to beach, sometimes to the mountains.

I am pretty happy tbh.

Also I have a cleaner once a week which is lovely 😊

Me, dh & 2 teenagers
2 dogs, 2 cats, other small furries!
Up at 4.45am Monday-Friday
Usually up by 5.30am Saturday/sunday😴
Both work approx 40 hrs pw, still skint and money is a huge worry.
Still ferrying kids to extra curriculars, not much time for me/us.
So much time spent cleaning, don't know where all of the dirt appears from (if I had to apportion blame....probably the dogs!)
I am exhausted and there is truly no end in sight!

I work 3 days a week 8.30-5
DH works 5 days 9-5.30
We eat dinner/tea at 5.45ish
DS bedtime is 8.30
We try and walk in the woods or on the beach after tea 3 nights a week

Morning alarm is set for 6.30 but we have coffee in bed and get up slowly after a “who can do wordle or nerdle first” competition

Friday is homemade pizza and board game night
Saturday is fun dinner and family day (bike ride, big walk, go karting etc)
Sunday is roast dinner and F1 / Sports / Swimming day

I do housework on a Thursday and DH will mow our massive unruly garden on a Friday afternoon as he can finish early if no meetings.

DH will prepare lunches the night before :)

We have takeaways on special occasions or if we have something exciting to celebrate like a good school report

Id love to spend one of my free weekdays on a hobby!

DH and I are trialling a new walk / jog / run around the village after dinner twice a week but can’t be arsed at the mo 😂

2 kids, 2 adults, 1 dog and 2 guinea pigs. I work 37.5 hours a week from home. My kids are at school. School days are up at 7, get everyone ready and out the door, back home to walk dog, start work at 9. Work until school run time, pick up kids and come home, back to work until 5.30. After that its make dinner/tidy up/clean/sort washing etc until the kids need to go in the bath at about 8. Get the kids bathed and into bed, do stories etc and probably be back downstairs by about 10, earlier if I'm lucky. Watch an hour or so of tv and go to bed about midnight-ish. At weekends I try to catch up a little on sleep on Saturday morning then do something with the kids for the day, Sunday is spent preparing for the week ahead so ironing, washing, housework etc. Very, very routine and very very busy.

Interesting question! I always like reading people’s answers to these.

I work full time hours compressed into 4 days. I get up at 5am on the two days I am in the office and 7am (or whenever my son wakes me up) on the days I work from home or don’t work. On my office days I am home by hand seven, on my WFH days I finish at 6.

Professional job, stressful at times but interesting and enjoyable.

I have a 3 year old and I’m pregnant. 3yo is in nursery two days, with family one day, and my husband and I both work compressed hours so each have one weekday with him.

In the evenings I tidy up, go for walks, read, garden, watch some tv, bake. I go to bed at 10. I never have enough time for anything in the evenings and I’m usually knackered!

At the weekends we like to go for walks, visit museums, swim, bake, have fancy breakfasts, play games, go to the beach, visit family, chill at home.

I have a mid-renovation ancient house always needing something fixed or sorted. Two cats and a handful of chickens. Large garden I can’t keep on top of so it’s mostly a meadow. I tell myself it’s good for the pollinators…

I find I am tired a lot but I am content. Things get on top of me and cause me stress but it passes and I go on. If stress is chronic I do think it’s a sign something has to change.

Agree with @loropianalover about comparing your life with others helps you.

At the moment I have a life of leisure. I gave up a full time job in the civil service in May last year to become a full time foster carer. I had a child move in within a couple of weeks, they left in June.
I am recovering from the trauma of the experience, his behaviour and the way his departure was handled.
I'm not a morning person, wake up 8ish, get up, feed the cat, put away last night's washing up, put a clothes wash on if needed. Take a cup of tea back to bed, browse the Internet for a bit, pay bills, do any organising that needs doing.

Get up properly 10.30 - 11.00 unless I have an appointment. Do some housework, go to the gym and allotment.
On Fridays I have breakfast with friends and then go to my volunteer ' job'.
My son is home from uni so he is helping me tackle some bigger DIY stuff. I have some decorating to do and repairs to damage caused by the foster child.

I'm 59 and so been around several blocks several times. My experience is that its rarely one thing that is 'wrong'. There may be a primary cause but things have knock on effects. I've been utterly miserable at work, made radical changes and then been happy at work but at the cost of lower pay, or less free time.

My main issue is that no foster child means no income.

DH and I, retired, no kids. I do some volunteer work, yoga and pilates classes, a book club and am studying French. Typical day: up 8.30 - 9, duo lingo for half an hour, chores (gardening in summer) walk or bike ride if weather is nice, French grammar, shopping once a week. Dinner and tv together in the evening. Bed and book 10-ish. Off to France in September and Goa in January.

Sorry OP but you did ask. And no - I don't belong with the other oldies on Gransnet

I am so sorry. This sounds incredibly hard. I hope things are brighter for you one day soon ♥️

Single

Two Dc both 23 one just finished at uni,

Medically retired.

Wake up about 3am in pain. Take drugs with tea and biscuits.
Wake up about 9am in pain. Take drugs with breakfast (yoghurt and oj) feed cats
Wake up for the day about 11am.

I usually try to do a bit of housework - washing up or laundry and then need to lay down for snout an hour.

Have lunch (more drugs)

Have a bath and rest afterwards.

Then afternoon housework slot usually followed by a nap because it exhausts me.

Wake up around 5pm eat dinner and more drugs.

Watch tv or read a book until bedtime.

Up 540, 6ock train, start work 715. Finish work 630-830+, train home (50-62.5h weeks, 3h commute). Get home cook, eat, dishwasher, work admin, bed 945-10pm. Gym 1h on any day off. Walk with mates when I can. Just joined national trust

Some of you are actually heroic

mid 50’s, DH 12 years older with life limiting disease

get up when wake up, sometimes 6am, sometimes 8.30am (often awake a bit in the night).
a year ago household chores were pretty much shared, fun times were on the horizon
now I do 99% of everything (he makes me a very nice cuppa).

I work but am able to fit it around DH treatment and appointments - 10+ a month.

I’m on the go from the minute I get up till I’ve loaded the dishwasher after dinner.
i often feel hard done by - am grateful that DH is ok ish (and could go on for many years)
love our dog but just wish we didn’t have a dog to walk
dh refuses to spend money on dog walker or someone to cut the grass

have a hobby I love but am too knackered in the evenings to do it.
DC all live over an hour away (but did come when I hit rock bottom a couple of weeks ago).

am hoping things may get easier in a couple of months if treatments work For DH.

just bought a robotic hoover, def helped.

am having a meh month, the weathers def not helping.

but keep telling myself I have it better than many and to pull my socks up (onward and upward as my dear dad would have said).

46, married with one DC still at home (25)
Up at 5:30, DH and I leave for work at 7:00
I am home by 3:30/4:00 , DH not long after.
Everyone helps with all the house stuff/cooking/shopping/admin and we have a pretty stress free life.

I am really sorry to hear this. Life can be cruel and change in a moment. Surely a carer is means tested and you would be left with enough foe rent/COL etc? Are there any activities/interests you could pursue? Please forgive me if I sound insensitive but you need to instigate changes to enhance your days.
Please take care. What about local groups? I have attended some in my area during lonelier times in my life

Totally chilled these days as an empty-nester and just the old dog to look after!

Alarm 7.15, shower, brekky, washer on if needed, start work 8am (wfh)
Finish lunchtime, empty dishwasher, make lunch, potter around house doing odd jobs.
Walk dog 1-2pm
Study
5pm make dinner, DS sometimes pops in for a brew or food.
Evenings I walk, yoga, iron, self - care, read, cinema, watch YouTube travelogs and plan/dream of all the travel I'll do soon...
Last dog walk
In bed between 9.30/10, scroll or listen to podcast with a cuppa, sleep for 11.

Took a while to slow down into this sedate pace of life, but getting the hang of it 😌

I'm so sad to read this and I really hope things can improve for you soon