To ask what your life looks like at the moment?

[Mixedit]

Sort of out of curiosity and also due to wondering whether life is stressful or if I'm just a bit rubbish at coping with it - I'm asking what does your life look like at the moment. What time do you get up? What responsibilities do you have? How long do you work for? What do you do after work? What time do you go to bed? What do you do with time when you're not at work?

I feel like I barely have time to stop and can't decide if I need to change me or change the situation.

57, kids left home. Live with DP in city centre apartment.

alarm 7am. Noodle around on phone then out to the gym at 8am.

walk to work for 9:30 ish.

Work for myself in work I love that can be busy.

finish at 6ish, walk home.

dinner, tv on week nights. Go out at least twice at the weekend. Have 5-6 holidays a year.

Early 40s, it's me, DH and 2 dogs. No children.

I work 30 hours, 3 days a week, in a very stressful and demanding environment. DH works 35 hours, 5 days a week, from home in a very flexible job. On my working days I leave home at 8:30am (up at 7:30am) and usually I'm back home at 7:30pm. DH does the shopping, cooking and takes care of the dogs. I do the laundry and cleaning.

Usually go to bed around 11pm regardless if I'm working the following day or not but just fall asleep around 12:00. We have dinner at 8-9pm and read or watch Netflix/TV before bed.

On my days off I go for walks with the dogs and DH, read a lot, go to the gym, study and take care of my plants. We live 30 minutes away from central London and like to discover new restaurants, go to the theatre and concerts, visit bookshops and so on. I also go home at least once a month - I'm originally from an European country a short flight away - as I have 4 days off every week. I go mainly to spend time with my parents and friends but while I'm there we go to the beach, eat a lot of fish (difficult to source it here!), etc.

It's not an exciting life at all but I like the predictability of it.

Me, DH, three teens. I work 30 hours a week, mainly outside the house but with some flexibility to wfh, DH works long hours, partly in the office and partly wfh. The DC do lots of activities (sport, music) so I spend a lot of time driving them to things. I do feel busy but it's much easier than when they were little!

DH and I, plus two DDs aged 7 and 5.

Get up between 6.30am and 7am.

I work 3 days a week, DH works full time from home. On my working days, DDs go to after school club. On my non working days I pick them up and take them to activities after school (swimming and dance.) DH and I alternate the morning school drop offs.

My work is pretty stressful but working part time helps loads. On my days off when DDs are at school I can get errands done e.g. cleaning and food shopping but also have time to go to the gym. I would actually prefer DH worked outside the house sometimes as he is always here so I never get the house to myself.

Evenings we tend to all eat dinner together around 6pm. I do all the cooking, DH washes up. DDs watch some TV then up to bed around 7.30pm. DH and I alternate bedtimes so one of us supervises getting the children ready for bed and the other one tidies downstairs.

DH and I are normally watching TV from about 8.30pm-10.30pm then up to bed. We don't tend to do much in the evenings!

Weekends we alternate having a lie in and generally potter, get jobs done, go out somewhere as a family. I tend to supervise homework on a Saturday morning so it's out of the way for the weekend. We like reading, doing puzzles, being in the garden, going to cafes etc. Every Saturday night we have pizza and popcorn and take it in turns to choose a film to watch. All in all we have it pretty good!

Get up at 8am
Feed cats & quick wipe down of surfaces, clean downstairs loo, stretching exercises, then shower
Feed birds & feed farm cats that hang out with my cats. Currently trying to trap one for castration, but he ain't having none of it
Tidy garden
9.30am breakfast, check e-mails, make note of new bookings for my holiday cottages, other admin, tidy up somewhere in house
10.30am start cleaning accommodation, if guests have checked out
11.30am take DN to work, then walk her dog & pop to shop
1pm continue cleaning
3pm lunch
4pm coffee, then iron bed linen, listening to vids, call DM
5pm feed dog & walk by river, mountain (not up, near), or street- he decides
6pm sit down with tablet
7pm feed cats, then collect DN from work
8pm dinner, online, chat with DN
11.30pm'ish bed & read or mumsnet
Try to fit in piano nanny, but I need to buy a keyboard at this stage

DP works away, no DC

Mid 50's don't work, dh works from home unless he's at meetings. Adult kids have their own lives and I'm bored ridged. Have a few holidays coming up which I'm looking forward to though. Have elderly parents to keep an eye on and hopefully grandchildren one day!

I'm single with two teenagers at home and one dog. Work full time as a teacher/SENCO.

I get up at 5.45am and walk the dog for an hour. Leave for work at 7.30am. Finish work around 5.30pm most days. Then home, make dinner and another dog walk, clean the kitchen, shower and bed.
On a weekend I do things like see friends for drinks or dinner, spend time with family, get the train to somewhere interesting, gigs, festivals, shop, yoga, bake, read, do huge dog walks to the beach, a lake or mountain.

I really love my life and after so many years of parenting I'm loving my increased freedom.

up at 7am, drop DC at school anytime between 8-8.30 back home 5 minutes later as live close by

WFH so do a couple of chores then start work

Work is pretty flexible so can normally fit in some “me”, time e.g. exercise or something like a haircut, running errands.

Collect DC from grandparents (who help us out) or after school club at 5

Sometimes log back on to work in the evenings but not all the time

Try to get to bed 10 - 11.

Just one child so DH and I each get a bit of “me” time each weekend

WFH makes a massive difference to the quality of my life.

Me, DP and DS (3yrs).
This is my life 4 x days per week when I’m working (wfh 2 days, work in office 2 days). DS has always been a night owl (probably my mediterranean blood…!), and it’s worse in the summer, so we don’t get evenings to ourselves (unless you count the 15mins of reading a book in bed). It’s pretty crap, but.. I am very lucky that I have 1 x day off in the week which is JUST FOR ME. It is bliss. I am eternally grateful for this luxury and for the sanity it restores.

07.15 - wake
07.17 - breakfast (DP wakes DS up at 06.40, feeds him, and makes my breakfast most days)
08.00 - dress for work (I’m a night shower person)
08.45 - go to work (tube)
09.30 - work (30mins-1hr lunch ‘break’ sat at desk)
17.30 - go home (tube)
18.30 - arrive home + shower
18.50 - make quick dinner if DP hasn’t
19.15 - dinner + doom scroll (I count this as ‘me time’ as DP + DS already had dinner, though they’re usually pottering about in the kitchen whilst I eat / DP reading endless books to DS)
20.00 - DP meditates (on his own) for 1hr and goes to bed
20.30 - get DS ready for bed
21.00 - get in bed with DS and read books ENDLESSLY
22.30 - DS finally asleep (DONT ASK)
22.30 - read a few pages of my own book in bed (‘me time’)
22.45 - sleep*

*behind schedule today!

Severely depressed here.

Monday-Thursday: Get up at noon and lie in bed for a few hours. Make plans for that evening to do something, then when it is time to do leave the house, lie back in to bed paralysed trying to force myself to go. Give up. Lie in bed again. Go to the shop. Manage about 1h of productivity applying for jobs. Get back into bed. Cry before going to sleep.

Friday-Sunday: Visit my bf who lives in another city.

My life has been very different the past 2 years since my cancer diagnosis.

Before I was a very busy primary school teacher. Then I had to take ill health retirement.

Now... DHs alarm goes off at 6.40. He gets teens up for school/college. Sometimes I get up too, sometimes I sleep till 8.30ish.

After breakfast I hoover & tidy. I do the laundry. We have a cleaner on a Monday morning, & a dogwalker 2/3 times a week.

Depends on my fatigue, pain, side effects of chemo what I do with my day. At the mo I'm not on any treatment as it wasn't working. I still have lots of hospital appointments though. Friends might visit or we go out for coffee once or twice a week. Daughters & grandkids might pop in. I read a lot.

By 5.30 DH, DD & DSS are all back in. We chill for a bit chatting about everyone's day. Then DH makes dinner. Kids clear up. We either watch something or I read.

Weekends we try to get to the beach with the dogs.

Life is a bit crap right now as I only have one treatment left to try, the last 2 didn't work. I had growth & spread. I'm trying to be positive though, & have everything crossed I'm still here this time next year so I don't muck up DDs gcses.

I imagine involved g/parents also helps!

Me, two year old and four year old. Absolutely horrendous time. Basically just work and struggle to manage the kids and get to bed at 9pm, only to do multiple wakes in the night and then wake at 6am and then repeat. I feel little to no joy. I love them but my 4 year old isn't chilling out and my 2 year old is coming in his prime terrible two years. Hoping things get better because I'm exhausted and at my wits end.

We both work FT but have a lot of free time, it's not always been like this so I appreciate it everyday. I WFH flexibly, (workload dependent) and my kids are older so no longer have to rush to school, nursery and then crawl in traffic to get to work. DH works shifts 4 days on/ 6 off so is home a lot to get stuff done. We share all chores, on his days off he'll do most of it. When he's working I'll get stuff done in my breaks during the day.

A busy day for me where DH is working would be:
5.15am: DH up and out for 5.30 to start his 6-6 job.
8.15am: Get up, showered, make up, dressed in gym kit, freshly brewed coffee. Laundry on, empty Dishwasher, bread maker on (dough setting), prep soup machine for lunch, defrost meat for dinner.
9.00am: start work.
10.30am: hang laundry out, switch soup maker on, make dough into bread rolls ready to bake.
Lunchtime: bake bread rolls in oven, eat fresh soup and bread for lunch. Prep dinner. Supermarket delivery, walk dog.
Anytime between 2 and 4.30pm: finish work dependent on workload and go to the gym.
5.30pm home, start dinner, shower.
6.15pm DH home, eat dinner, clean kitchen, dishwasher on, bring laundry in.
Until 9.30 ish we all do our own thing, gaming/ homework/ home spa night/ watch tv or YouTube/ read / walk dog/ kids out with friends.
9.30pm DD2 bed, I watch a boxset with DD1 or DH until bed at 11pm.

When he's off shift, DH will do the home chores, laundry, shopping, cleaning etc, leaving me to work.

House is generally tidy, Dh vacuums once a week, I polish surfaces. I clean bathrooms Sat morning it takes 10 mins whilst I have a face mask on. I don't iron and try to keep on top of stuff.

Any admin is dealt with immediately, appts booked as soon as I can and in calendar ASAP, removes the headspace. I book my beauty treatments ( nails/ wax/ brows/ lvl lashes ) at lunchtime, avgs one every other week. My hair takes longer than an hour so that's done on a Fri evening.

Weekends are free to gym, chill, see family, days out etc.

Me, dp and too many cats. Ds is at uni so here intermittently.
Up at 6.30 then 8-4 in a job visiting people in their homes. Usually work additional hours despite all efforts not to. While we are both working full time we employ help in the house and garden and it's completely awesome. Multiple elderly parents, one in a nursing home for whom I'm the main visitor, one in a nursing home I don't often see, others fraying but currently independent, one thankfully died after a relatively short illness as when they were in hospital life was almost impossible.

6:45 alarm, up to get breakfast and shower/dress
8:00 take DD to get her school lift and walk dog
8:30 - 9:00 start work (from home)
14:00 walk dog for 30 min
17:00 - 18:00 finish work and make dinner or make dinner whilst in my last meeting
18:00 eat & watch current favourite TV show with DP / DD
19:00 - 21:00 dishes, quick tidy, read
21:00 put DD to bed
21:30 go to bed myself
Wednesday evening we go swimming. I have a cleaner weekly. I do laundry during my breaks from work in the day. This week I am sick so doing nothing!

Last few months have been hectic, but currently boring. Organized an international move, and now just waiting for our new house to be set up with our belongings before I fly out in just over a week. Very little left to do at this point, so twiddling my thumbs.

What time do you get up?
Alarm for 6.30 on weekdays but I often wake up before in the summer when it is light. Maybe sleep a bit later on weekends but my internal clock is set to early. I like to bring coffee back to bed and check the news, emails, sort my internet banking or do an online shop from here. I sort the cats and take the dog for a nip round the local area.

What responsibilities do you have?
3 Dcs now almost grown,all still at home. Youngest about to turn 18. Middle off at uni but home for the summer. Eldest lives at home but works FT. 2 cats and an elderly dog. My dh does close to 50% chores but he only works 30h. He does all the gardening and DIY stuff as well. I do half the cleaning, all the laundry, all the family organising. Cooking meals is shared. I usually do a weekend, cook from scratch. Dh is a decent cook and also cooks twice a week. Dcs usually do a day each. My job is very demanding and I'm often out for long hours or need to log back on when I get home.

How long do you work for?
I work 5 days pw, 8 til 6 ish, sometimes later. My commute is either 30m or an hour depending on which site I'm on. I try and wfh around one day a fortnight. I frequently have evening meetings, calls during my commute and work to finish at home. I also work on call so have an on call shift every three weeks or so. My job is well paid, but when I consider I am salaried and pulling a regular 50 h work week I don't feel quite so fortunate. I'd quite like one of those mumsnet wfh jobs I keep reading about that only requires 4 or 5h of actual work per day for a FT salary.

What do you do after work?
I have a commitment to move every day. I go to the gym two or three times a week for strength training or a class. I like to go for a walk/bike ride on the other days if its not raining, dragging a DC if I can. If the weather's bad I do yoga at home. I'm learning a language so work on that, and also listen to language pods when I'm commuting. I read avidly, at least a book a week. I listen to podcasts whilst I'm doing housework or laundry. Otherwise I always have music playing. I have a record player and like to listen to my vinyls. Dh and I usually have one or two shows on the go but don't watch TV every night. I sometimes meet a friend for dinner after work. Every couple of weeks I go to a pub quiz.

What time do you go to bed?
I go up anywhere between 9 and 11. I usually read or write my blog, then asleep by 11.30ish. I've taken to taking a glass of wine and a cat up with me. I like a proper wind down and find I'm just peopled out by the end of the day.

What do you do with time when you're not at work?
I'm planning home renovations, atm. We usually holiday twice a year plus some shorter trips so I'm often planning a trip. I spend a lot of time with my sisters family, our dcs are similar ages. We meet in the pub on a Saturday afternoon, or for Sunday lunch, have bbqs etc. My brother lives further away but I see him for weekends 4 or 5 times a year and we sometimes go on holiday together. We also have shared interests in music and theatre so may meet up in a city for a concert or show. I have scattered friends that I know from different places, rather than a group of friends, so meet up for lunch or drinks or coffee with different friends. I'm also starting an MBA soon.

I get up at 6.30am on weekdays, later at a weekend and often lie in till 10ish with a cup of tea.

I work Monday to Friday mostly 9-5 sometimes I throw in a late night audit. I'm on a nice career pathway and intend to keep learning and pushing myself.

At home there is myself, dh and two young adult daughters 18 and 20 who are both doing degrees and working part time. Both have nice boyfriends and they all come and go as they please. We have one cat who is on the naughtier side!

My dds and dh do help with household chores and for the most part it works very well.

We spend most weekends in London, walking and enjoying nice wine and we absolutely love a concert.

Life on the whole ticks along nicely and I've a few gripes but doesn't everyone

No children, just me and DH.

Awake at six in the week and just doze in bed or scroll on my phone until half seven. DH leaves at 7 most days.
7.30 - Get up, feed and sort the animals, let the cats out, then vacuum, make breakfast, put laundry on if needed.
7.50 - breakfast, wash dishes, get ready for work.
8.30 - leave, walk the dog on my first job of the day (I'm a dog walker) and drop him with FIL who looks after him.
9.45 - head to work properly.
1.30 - collect the dog, home, feed the animals, have a shower and lunch.

Then by 2:30 I'm generally "done" and have the rest of the day to myself. Occasionally I'll have evening jobs to go to. DH is home by half three normally, so we have our evenings to do whatever we like.

Bed around 11 after getting the cats in and feeding everyone again!

I work part time, term time only. Two young adult dc, one at home, one at uni, husband, dog and cat.

During term time I leave for work around 8.15, get home early afternoon, walk dog, do chores, cook supper and then relax in the evenings. Apart from walking the dog I do yoga and sit ups three times a week. Did have cleaners but have recently let them go as I can’t really justify having them!

During holidays I potter a lot - walking the dog is essential for my mental health as it gives my days some structure. I attend to the dcs, sometimes I’ll do a day trip with them, I’ll do some freelancing work from home, at the moment I’m doing some painting around the house. I’ll clean, cook, wash, tidy, yoga, do some gardening. It’s nice and I’m very grateful for it but I do feel guilty a lot of the time!

I have alot of stresses along on . With supporting adult DD awho has bipolar and other mental heath issues , my older teen has mental health issue , ds has autism. I also have my GS alot. House work etc It's very hard work mentally and emotionally and has almost sent me over the edge. I don't work and would not cope if I did.

General day
Up 6.30 sort kids for school etc
Leave 7.30
Im home be 9.20am
Then i may be baby sitting or/and dealing with stuff.
Leave home 1.50 get kids from school for 3pm
Home 4.15 ish
5pm dinner.
General family stuff
Kids bed by 9pm
I'm in bed 9.30 /10pm but often can't sleep till 1am ish.

It's OK sharing. But don't compare. You could have similar stresses /life to someone else but their support system may be different to yours . Or manage things differently. Have more mondy to pay for therapy or a cleaner. Have a nanny etc to help take the edge of things. Obviously lots don't but some do or simlar

Your DH’s nan?! How old is your DH and his nan?😱

I have a DH, one primary school aged DD, 2 secondary school aged stepchildren and 1 dog.

We both work full time and DH works away a lot. I only have to go into the office once a week.

06.00-06.30: Wake up depending on if I’m going into the office or not. Sometimes my DD wakes me up earlier
06.30-07.30: If I’m in the office I drive to the office around 07 and get there for around 07.45. If home I do chores like laundry, tidy stuff away and get started on breakfast, makeup, get dressed etc
07.30: Log onto laptop and start work while getting ready
08.30: take DD to school. Work is great with the flexibility
09.00-12.00: work. It’s dull but the flexibility is great, my boss is kind and it will do for now
12.00: take dog for a walk on my lunch break
12.30-15.30: more work. Fit it hoovering/laundry/tidying when I can
15.30: Collect DD. I do most of the school runs but DH will do some when he’s at home. Start prepping dinner. DD has activities 3 days a week that we share taking her too. If DH is away I will prep dinner around work
17:00-20:00: dinner, more housework, homework, sorting stuff out. DD bedtime is 7 but not asleep until gone 8 and I have to stay with her
20:00-21:00: usually and hour of tv and then bed 😴

I do gardening on the weekend which I enjoy and have started taken up sewing but other than that just focused around work, housework and taken kids to activities. We have stepkids Friday to Monday most weeks with occasional day in the week when DH is home

DH is 44, his Dad just turned 80 and his Mum (DH's Nan) is 102 - they all live really long in in family 😆