To ask what your life looks like at the moment?

[Mixedit]

Sort of out of curiosity and also due to wondering whether life is stressful or if I'm just a bit rubbish at coping with it - I'm asking what does your life look like at the moment. What time do you get up? What responsibilities do you have? How long do you work for? What do you do after work? What time do you go to bed? What do you do with time when you're not at work?

I feel like I barely have time to stop and can't decide if I need to change me or change the situation.

I am single and retired, and I am writing a book.

I get up whenever I like, go to bed whenever I like, eat whenever I like, and whatever I like (within my dietary restrictions).

I go out whenever I feel like it and come back whenever it suits me. I'm pretty happy and I'm glad that there is no one watching and remarking on my actions.

1 toddler, 1 baby on the way, 2 dogs, 1 husband. Work 35 hours a week without travel time. Go on a couple holidays a year. Don't socialise much due to childcare, see family fairly often, at least once a week. Cleaner helps in the house, we share the cooking and dog walking. Not much excitement but that's to be expected.

2 "kids" 15 and 20
DH works 5 days a week, usually 3 days in office (7.15 - 6pm) 8.30- 5.30 on home working days
I work 2.5 days a week - 2 days at 8 hours, one 4 hour day. 4 hour day at home.
Come home, cook tea, quick dog walk, then usually slump on the sofa watching tv

Not a particularly exciting life, but I feel lucky to work part time so I can do the crappy jobs (and shop/lunch with friends) on my days off so we have less crap over the weekends

Up at 6.15am, make my DD breakfast and packed lunch, take 3 trains to work. Leave work at 5.30pm, back at 6.30pm ish. Make dinner for my DD. We both go to bed around 9pm but I watch TV in bed for an hour before I go to sleep. Weekends I usually play two hours of tennis and take my DD somewhere fun. We watch a lot of TV as well.

Love these threads! I’m nosey.
Me, DH, almost 4 year old, almost 2 year old and 3 cats..

DH works full time, I work 30 hours across 3 days. DC go to nursery the days I work and other days are at home with me.

Non working day:

6-7am - Wake up when DC wake up
7-8am - Nappy change for youngest, breakfast for all, feed the cats and a coffee for me
8-10 - Getting dressed, putting a wash on, tidying up after breakfast, prepping anything we need for the day
10-12 - Trip out (anything really.. park, visit to parents, shopping, soft play, out in the garden etc)
12-1 - Lunchtime!
1-2 - Youngest sometimes will nap, me and eldest have some 1-2-1 colouring, crafting etc
2-4 - Play at home, general stuff around the house
4-5 - Cooking/eating dinner (DH gets home in time for this)
5-7 - A bit more play, bath time, getting ready for bed
7-8 - DH & I take one DC each and put them to bed
8-10 - Tidying up after the day, feeding cats, reading or watching TV (gaming sometimes for DH) and then bed

Working days:

6:30 - all up and have a drink, nappy change for youngest etc
7 - 7:30 - get DC dressed and ready in the car to go to nursery (they have breakfast there)
8-6 - work! DH picks DC up from nursery and brings them home and starts dinner
6-7 - Dinner time and play time
7-10 - Same as non working days!

Weekends we spend as a family, visiting friends/family, trips out etc nothing too extravagant. And any time in between is cleaning/gardening/food shopping/budgeting etc

I feel like I never get a moment to myself and life is super busy at the moment. But I am lucky to have my family and know that easier days may come at some point in the future ☺️

I'm almost 38, married, kids almost 9 and 7, work part time school hours.

My weekdays consist of getting the kids organised in the mornings, walking them to school then turning around to walk back to work. I do my shift then walk back to school then walk back home.

When I'm home I do typical house jobs like tidy up from the mornings carnage, sort washing, dinner etc.

Mondays I'm off so from school I go to the gym for 2-3 hours then home, jobs, hours rest then back to school.

Tuesday evenings once my husband is home I run.

Wednesday he goes out so I am in charge.

Thursday another run.

Friday evening I go to the gym.

Saturday mornings I get up early to go for a long run. Food shop then stuff around the house or whatever I need to do.

Sunday mornings I am back at the gym, take the kids with me and put them in the kids club. Collect them, home, lunch, jobs, husband out all afternoon.

We muddle through with meals and child stuff between us but they are at an age where they just need someone to cook and keep an eye on them. Bedtimes it's just reminding them to have a bath, making sure they've done homework and then getting them to bed.

I have a pretty easy life but sometimes I feel so overwhelmed because I don't prioritise the housework so it's always a state and I can never remember what the kids need for school.

Aged 60, 2 adult DC in early 20s. One dog and a cat.

DH is terminally ill with cancer and extremely poorly. I'm his full time carer and had to give up work as a consequence. I don't sleep well. I get to bed around 10pm amd I'm up again around 5:30am to begin caring duties. It's full on as he's very needy due to his limitations and lack of mobility. The only time I go out is to get a bit of shopping or to take DH to hospital and hospice appointments. I feel like my own life is on hold and every day is miserable. I admit I cry a lot.

2 preteens, 2 dogs, 1 horse, a husband, and self employed

On a school day, I'm up at 6.30, sort the dogs, breakfast, sort kids for school run @ 8.45. Then my day will be a mixture of seeing clients (lots of driving), doing the horse, and work admin/content creation. School pick up is 3 - home, snack for kids, chores, cook dinner, reply to emails, take kids to activities/spend time with them. Then I'll either work more in the evening (2 nights a week out of the house), or go for a run (4 times a week). Bedtime usually ends up being between 11pm and midnight by the time I've hung washing up and scrolled my phone for a minute. Weekends are a mixture of kids activities, work, horse, dogs and the occassional momemt to sit on my arse

I'm so sorry @2Old2Tango. I feel bad for moaning about my life being boring. You are going through hell. What an amazing thing you are doing for your husband and for your children too, looking after their father.

I hope you are managing to get some support and breaks and time for yourself. It must be so desperately hard and sad. I am sending you all the good wishes I have.

My life sounds really strange and tedious in comparison with that of many, but here goes:

Up anytime between 2am - 6am, dependent upon when Twin 2, aged 6, wakes up. She has complex needs (AuDHD, LDs, challenging behaviour, self-harming tendencies, so has to be supervised at all times when awake)
5ish - take a ridiculous amount of medication, the most crucial being pain relief
5:30 - Feed cats and dog. Exercise dog in yard
6-7 - Twin 1 wakes up. Also additional needs, but less complex. Still requires support and prompting with every part of the morning routine
08:30 - school transport comes, wrestle twins into seat belts
09:00 support worker arrives to assist with my personal care and we take dog out
10:30 - 12 - life admin and doing what housework I can
12 - 2 - medication, then sleep
2 - 3 Do SEN advocacy for other struggling parents online
3 - 7 - twins home, then the absolute chaos that ensues, with meltdowns, areas being trashed by Twin 2, as well as activities (supported by their SW)
7-9 Long, drawn out bedtime routine
9-12 - Creative writing, doom scrolling on Internet, fretting about what the next day will bring

Fun.

Married with two older teenagers. One of the DC works full time, one is in 6th form. They both drive. Life is a lot easier than it was when they were little and I used to juggle two jobs.
I now work full time mon-fri. I walk to work which is 10 minutes away from home.
I see a friend one evening a week. Have nice weekends, like walking with my husband. We share house and garden stuff . Even though I work full time I feel like I have a good balance now.

Me, DP, DS, aged one.
Both work full time.
Get up between 6am and 7am.
Sort baby between us (DP always takes him and dog for early morning walk), get dressed, drop baby off at childcare, get into office by about 8.30am
Usually home by about 6.30pm, sometimes much later.
Take baby to park, bath him, put him to bed.
8.30pm - have some food, scroll on phone, watch TV, read
Bed anywhere between 10pm and midnight.
At weekend we go out for food, day trips or swimming with baby, might see a friend for a coffee.
I have a cleaner once a week.
We go on holidays often.
Job stressful at times but enjoyable.
Money not a massive issue.
Can't seem to find the time to keep on top of house or exercise.
First world problems.

Me, DH and two kids (aged 3 and 5), plus a dog and a couple of cats. DH works full time, but wfh. I work 21 hrs, 2 long days one short day, but I have to commute, 1hrs 15 mins each way.

So, on the days I work, I'm up at 5.30am and leave the house at 6.20am. Get home just after 6pm, then it's pretty much into the kids bedtime routine. I barely see the kids on these days and it sucks. In my short day I finish at 1pm, home by 2.30pm, dump bags, head out to nursery pick up, followed by school pick up and then back home to chill with kids, make dinner etc.

DH goes to the gym early in the morning on the days I don't work and then walks the dog. I spend the day with the little one - playgroup, walks, shopping etc. I go to the gym two evenings a week and once at the weekend. I'm trying to start running, but it's hard to fit in. The dog also needs a second walk in the evenings. DH usually sorts out dinner. Then we slob in front of tv most nights. We have a cleaner once a week.

Weekends are family time - we have one lie in each. One day we usually split so we get some child free time, the other we do stuff together.

To be honest, I'm exhausted. Which is ridiculous as I know I have it better than many. It doesn't feel like there are enough hours in the day. I'm looking for a new job, something closer to home or where wfh is an option. I think that will help. The commute is a killer for me.

Almost 40 live with DH. I have a chronic illness and have good and bad days. I haven’t worked for the past year. DH works Mon/Fri leaves at 7.30am home at 5pm.

Bad day

7am Alarm - Wake up with a lot of horrible symptoms. DH brings me breakfast and enough water for the day to bed. Leaves me a sandwich in the fridge for lunch before going to work at 7.30am. I’ll spend the day mostly asleep and in between I’ll scroll on my phone/sort admin (online shopping, bills, appointments etc)/watch tv/sink wash at some point.

5pm DH home from work - Evenings I generally feel a bit brighter I will cook, eat dinner with DH whilst watching tv for an hour.

7pm Back in bed - I’ll scroll on phone for a bit then watch tv. DH does his own thing (running, gym, play football, watch tv, gaming, reading)

10pm Meditation and Sleep

Good day
7am Alarm - Wake up then get up and have breakfast and read a book.

8am - 15 mins Yoga then back to bed for a rest, listen to a podcast.

9am - Shower and get dressed then 15 min rest. Then tidy up put a load of laundry on then rest on sofa watch tv/sort admin.

1pm - Make lunch then sort laundry then rest on sofa watch tv.

2pm - Get in bed (too fatigued to sit on sofa anymore) and sleep or watch a movie.

5pm-10pm As above.

Chores - I do all admin, tidying, cooking & laundry. We get food shopping delivered twice a week, we have a cleaner once a week, gardener twice a month and window cleaner once a month. DH does dishes, makes me food
on a bad day, DIY jobs and runs errands and gives me lifts to appointments. He drives and I don’t.

Weekends

Saturday - DH out at a hobby most of the day and I try to meet a friend for a coffee/go to the theatre/get nails or hair done if I’m not having a bad day, makes it really awkward having to cancel on friends or cancel appointments if I can’t get out of bed.

Sunday - If I’m having a good day then DH and I go out for brunch or lunch/visit family/go to the cinema/go to a museum/visit a National Trust place/go shopping. Only one activity a day!

Any day that I do go out will be for a maximum of around 2 hours and then I’ll spend the rest of day in bed. Won’t be able to cook so dinner will
be takeaway or leftovers.

Married with two DC. Both work 4 days condensed. Typical working/school day.

7.00: Drag myself out of bed
7.00-7.30: repeat myself 1000 times for the DC to get dressed, make their breakfast
7:30-8.00: get ready for school run
8.00-8.20: repeat myself 1000 times for DC to finish breakfast, brush teeth and hair, shoes on
8.20-9.00: school run. Break up fights on the way. Arrive having had to tell at least one off sternly with threats of no screens. Home.
9.00-5.00: work from home at my very dull but well paid and flexible civil service job. Do a lot of mindless scrolling and mumsnetting, eating, laundry and chores mainly, send the odd email, have the odd Teams call and read/write dull and complicated documents.
5.00 onwards: some sort of after school activity for one or both DC. Dinner, bedtimes. Endlessly snack.
8.00 onwards: occasionally watch something with DH, or just mindlessly stare at my phone.

In a rut at the moment! Two SEN Dc is stressful, plus my job bores me to tears. I do run 3 times a week (on my day off and mornings when DH does school run) and our weekends are very busy, filled with DC activities, family days out, seeing friends.

On a weekday:
get up at 7am
drink coffee
start getting ready for work
leave at 8am to catch train
spend 8 hours doing my (somewhat boring) job
get back to home town around 6pm
often do some grocery shopping on the way home
cook tea
bath
should do yoga but don’t usually bother
scroll /podcasts
go to bed around 11pm

On weekends I do laundry/housework then just faff around

I’m a single parent (have been since the day my son was born as I fled abuse). The single parenting isn’t the hard bit, it’s the fact that I’m disabled and my son also has adhd and autism. This means I need more sleep than the average person due to my chronic pain exhausting me, and the fact that I cannot get it because my son doesn’t sleep.

On school days I wake up at 6.30 to get ready before I wake my son up. He often doesn’t end up sleeping until 10/11.. sometimes even gone midnight. By the time I get to sleep, I only end up with about 5 hours sleep each night. And as stated, I have a disability which causes me severe pain and if you’ve ever been in pain you would know how exhausted it makes you. So with that and the lack of sleep, I am barely functioning and being a single parent I cannot share the load 😔

then on top of that, I have to do everything - from the cooking to the cleaning or it doesn’t get done. I cannot even remember the last time someone made me a meal. Adult social services booked me 3 hours a week care, but I couldn’t afford it as it was £80 and I haven’t even got a spare penny, so I get no help.

I guess I’m ranting, but I’m having severe joint surgery on Friday, yet when I come home I still will have to do the night routine with my son and parent again the next day. My mum may help care for my son the following day; but I’ll still have to get up and make my own meals and wait on myself despite the major surgery. I’m being a downer and things aren’t all bad, but it’s just tough to ‘get on with things’.

late 50s, DH is disabled. Kids left home.
5am wake, read, watch news
6am get up,shower, make packed lunch, quick dog walk
8-5 work ( 20 mins to get to work)
Home by 5.30
5.45-7ish walk dog/ dog field
7 cook dinner
8-9 watch tv, MN 😉
9-10.30 watch tv in bed. MN

3 evenings out at exercise classes 8pm onwards
Mon- 1.5 hrs
Wed 2hrs
Thu 1.5 hrs

There’s me, DH and DD(5). DH and I work full time (I wfh and DH is hybrid).
Up at 6.30am and get ready for the day.
Drop DD at breakfast club at 7.30am
Go for a walk, then start work between 8.30 and 9.00am.
Finish at 5pm and pick DD up from after school club.
Make dinner at 5.30pm
Get DD ready for bed at 7.30pm
Sit down in front of the TV at 8.30pm
Go to bed at 10.30pm
Repeat.

This is v relative to age, work, children.

44, no kids, get up around 7.20, work 9-5 in reality bit longer, dinner, work on projects, bed 11ish. Things I do for fun - gym, swim, walks, see DM, I try and book something fun every few months (day trip out or dinner). It's very monotonous but it's temporary as I'm paying off some debts and planning to move next year.

Very often work in some capacity for 11 days without a day off (sometimes more as I am studying/training) and until I went of holiday last week was feeling a bit burnt out. Didn't realise how important a few days away are.

That's OK.
Similar here. 😛

Two teens and 4 year old. I am incredibly stressed but that is because youngest two have additional needs and youngest is complex special needs.
Usually up around 5 or 5:30 with DS. I have given up work recently but I feel like I don't stop. All the housework is on me which is okay but it's the meetings and medical appointments for DS that stress me out. DH is out of the house from 7:30 until 5. We usually eat around 6 and after bath and bed for DS at 7:30 we just crash. Used to go to bed around 9:30 but now it's closer to 10:30.
At the moment I can't get to sleep and am waking up around 3 so constantly exhausted.

As you may guess by my username (and possibly other threads I've made 🤔) I also feel a bit stressed and overwhelmed at times. I always find comparing myself with others pretty useless as "dealing with life" is quite a personal and complex thing. However you did ask so...

2 primary kids and a husband that works away fairly often during the week. I teach 4 days a week (off Friday mornings).
2 mornings a week I get up for a run or gym at 5.30 (if DH is here).
Otherwise I'm normally up, dressed, ready to go with kids by 7.30/7.45 for one of us to take them to breakfast club.
Walk or cycle to work to get there for anytime before 8.30.
2 days a week I try and leave very sharp (3.15) to go to the gym before I get the kids from after school club. Other days I'll leave around 4.30/5. Home, dinner, general housework etc. Kids up to bed around 8, I read/do a bit of work/watch TV and go to bed around 10.

Weekends I do a run or bike ride (often with DH and kids) and try and see friends if I can. One of my parents is terminally ill and requires round the clock care so I have to drive across to help with that one day most weekends which leaves me feeling quite unrelaxed and tense most weekends.

Don't work Fridays but kids are in school mornings only. I do try and ringfence that time for myself (seeing friends for breakfast/nail appts/lying on the couch watching rubbish telly!) and try not to do any housework or chores during those couple of hours as otherwise I feel like I get very little time for me due to the caring responsibilities. If you're feeling burnt out try and make a little time for yourself, no matter how small.