To ask what your life looks like at the moment?

[Mixedit]

Sort of out of curiosity and also due to wondering whether life is stressful or if I'm just a bit rubbish at coping with it - I'm asking what does your life look like at the moment. What time do you get up? What responsibilities do you have? How long do you work for? What do you do after work? What time do you go to bed? What do you do with time when you're not at work?

I feel like I barely have time to stop and can't decide if I need to change me or change the situation.

Me and DH and one DS nearly 6.
Both woken at 6am by son
Dh off to work at 7- 3 days a week in office and 2 days from home
I work 25 hours a week after school run and back in time to collect from school run.
Home to chill and prep dinner
DH home by 6 for dinner
I try to exercise 3 times a week; a class or run.
Son asleep by 8 usually and we take it in turns to get him to sleep.
DH working on side hustle every evening and I have a bath and watch tv.
Bed for both by 11.
Son has karate, swimming and footie in the week/weekend.
Weekends are family time/ socialising.

We cope money wise but have no savings due to side hustle getting up and running and just paid for family holiday.

pretty content but things will change when side hustle becomes main hustle!

The most relaxed its ever been. I get up when I naturally wake, which is usually about 730, 5 days out of 7. Two days I commute so get up at 6. I'm at a point in my career where I'm paid more for responsibility and knowledge than activity, and have lots of autonomy to decide what I do and when. I love the work and my manager and team are supportive. I have no dependent children now, and no longer have care responsibility for my late parents. My partner pulls his weight and domestics these days are minimal as we don't make much mess anymore. I have loads of time to myself and when not at work or loiking after GC, spend my days walking, doing yoga, going out to gigs, the theatre, days out etc. I rest a lot too.
If only I was also young with more of life ahead of me than behind me, it would be perfect!

Three kids,9 and 4 yo twins. All in full time school. DH works so out 8-6. I don't.

Up at 7 and get kids ready for school. Leave 8.20, walk and drop off then back home for 9.

Chores / free time until 2.45 when I walk back to school to collect and we're home for 4.

Watch kids / tidy / prep dinner for 530-6ish when DH is home so we eat together.

Youngest go to be at 7, one does bedtime (until 8.30ish) whilst one tidies
Swop every few nights. DH then ours eldest to bed/ I finish any tidying

9pm DH makes a drink and we sit down to watch TV until bed at 23.15.

this thread reminds me of…

I get up when I want except on Wednesdays
when I get rudely awakened by the dustmen.
I put my trousers on, have a cup of tea
And I think about leaving the house!
I feed the pigeons, I sometimes feed the sparrows too

Me, DH and two teenagers, 14 and 16. Luckily both retired but still pretty busy:
School day routine:
7.00 wake up, DH brings me coffee in bed and wakes the youngest.
7.10 get up, shower, one of us makes breakfast
7.45 school run (1 hr trip) usually me (DH gym)
9.00 dog walk
10.30 coffee and race each other on Wordle, both catch up on emails etc then either I go to my mum's to help for the day or:
Housework/DIY/gardening. Or a hobby group meets at our house for 2 hours.
12.30 make lunch. Or occasionally take dog out later instead so walk to pub in next village.
3.15 school run - 1 hour
5.00 sometimes running a teen out to an activity or catching up listening to youngest on his musical instrument and helping with homework.
6.30 dinner
8.00 one or both of us often out connected to hobby, or one of the village committees/school governorship meetings.
10.00 regularly collecting DS16 from GFhouse (1 hr round trip). Or watching Dexter with him.
Usually in bed by about 11.30.
Just realised I spend average about 3 hours driving each day!

What time do you get up?
Around 7-7:30am. Whenever the dog decides its time to get up.

What responsibilities do you have?
I don't actually think of myself as having any 😅I mean I work full-time but my job is very autonomous. Me and DP share domestic work and life admin 50/50 but there's not a huge amount of that. We have a dog but she's easy and we love her more than anything so I don't see her as a responsibility so much as a privilege.

How long do you work for?
At the moment, it depends day-to-day on how much I can be arsed to do. My job is very autonomous and I don't really have targets which are enforced so no-one would notice if I did absolutely bollocks all until October. But I'm enjoying my work at the moment so I probably work about five hours a way.

What do you do after work?
Walk the dog; cook, eat and clear up tea with DP; do brain games with the dog; shower; read; TV.

What time do you go to bed?
About 10:30pm but then read until about 11pm.

What do you do with time when you're not at work?
As well as the above - weight lifting; boxing training; shopping; cleaning; gardening; crafting; working on a novel.

I love my life. It's chilled. It's predictable. It's comfortable. It's filled with love.

Me and Husband (both 50) plus 4 children (3 at secondary school, one at primary). Husband works full-time, mostly from home with occasional meetings/days in town. I work (and also volunteer) with a small local Festival for pin money.

Get up every weekday at 6am, make lunches for children, see the older three out the door and then do the school run with the younger one, walking the dog at the same time. Back home, potter, housework, Festival work, cooking, knitting/sewing/reading. Yoga or running 3 or 4 times a week. 5pm start supper, all eat together where possible, ferry various children to various clubs/activities. Some mornings I meet up with friends for coffee or lunch.

At the weekend, up at 8ish, perhaps driving children to sports matches/meet up with friends, we might have friends over for supper or go out.

Every so often I go to town for the day to see an exhibition or theatre. We take the children out a lot and we go on one big holiday a year (usually Europe) with weekends/weeks away with family (who are not local to us).

No money worries at all, mortgage nearly paid off, good pensions/savings and (fingers crossed) good health. So far the children are doing well in school and are active outside of it (sports, DofE, good friendship groups) and are starting to figure out what they want to do in life. We live in a lovely market town in the South West, have good friends and are surrounded by gorgeous countryside.

I consider us to be very lucky.

What time do you get up?
6am, in the gym by 6.30am.

What responsibilities do you have?
Business owner.
Adult children now sort of self sufficient.

How long do you work for?
As much as required, or as little as needed, have a great team running it.

What do you do after work?
Sometimes work related client / team / industry dinners 2-3 times a week.
If working away, explore the city I’m in.
Spend time with partner.
Read.
Plan / book stuff for the future.

What time do you go to bed?
9pm ideal! 10pm normal. Sometimes later.

What do you do with time when you're not at work?
Family and friends.
Visit restaurants, bars, events etc.
Spend time chilling in countryside / near the coast.
Have a property side business that always needs a bit of something doing / responding to.
Mini breaks. At least one weekend a month we’ll disappear Fri pm to Sun eve. Mostly in uk, but a few will be European if we’ve seen something good to do (or sometimes just fancy it, book in the moment and then 4 months later be perplexed and say ‘oh, looks like we’re going to xx next weekend, how random!’ 😆)

Along with everyone else, sending a big virtual MN hug ❤️

Me, husband and 3 children, I work full time and have 52 mile commute 3 + days a week depending on how I juggle my WFH days. Husband is farmer so out the house 14 + hours a day. He gets up at 5:30, I get up at 6:30, I wake up the kids at 7am and get them ready for school. On my commute days I take 2 of the children to the bus stop at 8am and I drive to work. Husband comes home at 8:20 to take youngest to school mini bus. On WFH day it's the other way around. I finish at 5pm and will get home around 6pm when commuting. Make tea, empty pack lunch boxes and make fresh ones. Spend time with youngest doing activities or watching TV. Put youngest to bed around 9pm and go to bed at 10pm. On Saturday I take youngest horse riding then either go shopping or come home to clean the whole house. I spend Sunday doing washing, housework and ironing for 5 people which can take all day depending on amounts of bedding washed. I do all shopping, cooking and housework and most of the child care as husband works such long hours. Oldest 2 help out on the farm after school and at the weekend.

Love this, Im so nosey ....

Me, DH and DD who's finishing her first year at school.

Things are busy for us at the moment as we have my Dad, his parents and his Nan who all need support with things, lots of small 30 minute jobs that seem to never end, ordering shopping, prescriptions, admin, hospital and doctors appointments etc. We are are also called at short notice a few times a month fix things, diffuse situations, help them work the telly, were always on alert for the next drama....

DH works mon- fri 7:15-17;15 thankfully a 5 minute drive away, pops home for lunch most days.
I work full time from home, should be 8:30-17;00 but thankfully flexible.

My day:

6-7 wake up when DD wakes up, have tea and breakfast
7:00 - 7:45 try and do some work to clear urgent bits down.
7:45 - 8:30 get dressed and get DD ready for school
8:30 - 8:50 school run
8:50 - 14:45 Work
14:45 - 15:30 School run
15:30 - 17:30 Try to work, get DD snacks, do home work and get dinner ready.
17:30 - Eat dinner, chat to DD and DH.
18:30 - 19:00 DH puts DD to bed, I finish off any work, clear up after dinner. I try to make sure clothes and lunch is packed for the next day but that's hit and miss.
20:00 - Have a bath and watch netflix/read.

On Monday DD goes to Brownies round the corner from my inlaws so I drop her off and go round for a drink and get them anything they need, we leave at 5 and are home just before 7.

On Friday my mum picks up DD form school and takes her swimming and DH picks her up form my mums so and they're not home until 6.

One lunch time/ after work a week DH goes to my Dads to drop bits off for him and help him

Weekends:
DH plays cricket most Saturdays and i gone form 11-8, me and DD have the day together, meet up with friends for a play date, go visiting etc.
Sundays DH takes DD to his Nans collecting his mum and Dad on the way, he gone a few hours so I try and catch up with house work (I say every week that Im going to keep on top of it so I can have some time to myself on Sundays but this has yet to happen) We try and go out for breakfast, or do something Sunday afternoon.

I do all the housework, washing, ironing, shopping, cooking, admin, school stuff for DD, its a constant cause of conflict as Im so fed up of doing everything.

We are also in the final stages of buying a house and selling ours and hope to get a move date and day now, this will reduce the school run to a 3 minute walk (Yipeee!) and give us more space but has obviously been stressful and we havent actually done the move yet.

I don't have any hobbies, my swim bag has been by the front door for the last week with every intention of going "tomorrow" Im pretty fed up most the time and life feel like I spend my whole time trudging round after other people. It feels bit like being in a hamster wheel and every week I say it'll be different....

One thing I have enjoyed is DD's first year at school, I've made a few mum friends, DD has done so well and I prefer the routine to her being at nursery.

Blimmin heck 😅

This time last year I was working full time plus extra hours, felt like I never had time for anything or anyone, I was a stone overweight and I was fed up. I decided something had to give so I quit my job and got a local part-time role on much less pay with much less stress and responsibility. I think some of my friends thought I’d gone mad to be honest, especially the ones I met through my old career.

So my life now: I have two DC aged 5 and 8, and I work 2.5 days a week (usually two days in the office and one from home).

On a work day I’m usually up at 6.30am ish, take kids to school at 8am, go to work and then either DH or I will pick them up from school / after school club. In the evening I catch up on chores / cook dinner, I’m also out quite a lot as am very involved in a couple of local groups. Sometimes go to the gym if I can be bothered!

I have two days a week where I don’t work and the kids are at school and on those days I do most of the errands and housework so we don’t have to worry too much about it at weekends.

Basically my life is pretty straightforward and not that stressful! It’s nice whilst the kids are small and I don’t plan any major changes for at least the next 2-3 years. Weird though to think how different my life could be if I hadn’t quit my old career and I do feel I’ve let the side down a bit by giving it all up.

DH and I, hopefully only around 6/7 years to retirement. 3 DC in their 20’s, eldest has moved back home to try and save for a house deposit. It’s great having him back, but he is very messy.

I work 3 days a week, alarm goes off at 6.am and I’m out of house 7 am to 5.30pm. DH self employed mainly wfh. Even on non working days and weekends alarm set for 6am and dog gets taken for walk by 7am.

DH has a few sporty hobbies.I don’t have hobbies as such but always seem so busy. On my non working days and weekends I see friends a a lot for walks or coffee or lunch. Do gardening (but dislike it). Housework. I like pottering although that is such an old fashioned word.

We are probably out 3 evenings a week seeing friends, going to theatre, going to concerts, quiz nights etc. So much to fit in. At the moment we are manic.

If we are out I can stay up to the early hours. If we are in I’m in bed between 9 and 10, promising myself I’ll read but the reality is I’m dropping off not long after I get in to bed. I’m averaging 7 hours sleep a night at the moment which is fabulous. The menopause messed it up, but now if I don’t drink too much , sleep these days is sorted.

We are fairly new vegetarians , and I will never go back to eating meat.

We’d like to retire soon but simply can’t afford to, still have a mortgage and we like the good things in life. I wish I could go back 20 years and be far better at managing our money then so we’d be in a better financial now. I feel sorry for the younger generation and realise it is much harder for them.

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My life feels a little bit mad to be honest, but I suspect compared to others it's fairly sedate.

I'm up by 7am, showered etc.
3 teens/tweens get themselves up and ready for school.
At work by 8.30am, home by 5.30am
(DH works shifts, a mix of earlies, lated and nights)

2 evenings a week I teach at a sports club, and 1 weekend morning.

1 evening DS has swimming

Mostly spend my free evenings watching TV or reading, cleaning the house etc. Occasionally go out for meals.

House never feels clean enough. I always feel like I'm losing track of something and I don't sleep enough but hey ho.

Me, DD, H and a cat. Currently on maternity leave from 4 months in NICU. Sleep when the baby sleeps, pump/feed/burp/clean up on repeat. Occasionally squeeze in a shower, some housework, a bite to eat, cuddle with the cat or, if I'm really lucky, an episode of Big Bang. Last week I even managed a few walks (baby is still on oxygen, so getting out of the house is a military operation). Hoping to repeat that with the nice weather, if I get a day with only one health care professional coming in.

Up at 6am and leave house at 07.15 for commute to work.

Leave work at 21:30 ish and get home 23:00ish. 20 mins for a cup of tea and then bed.

Repeat x5 days a week.

Alarm at 6.15am, will be up between 6.30 and 6.45 depending on what time I start work.

Generally start work between 7.30 and 8.30am and do 10hr shifts over 4 days a week.

Have weds off where I catch up with household chores, shopping and open uni coursework.

Evenings - home by 6.30pm or just after. Dinner and other chores. Bed by 10/11pm.

Weekends- open uni work, household chores and shopping. Sometimes a day trip on one of the days.

I'm single with a 15yr, 18yr and 23yr at home plus two dogs and a kitten. It can be a bit hectic as older ones are in and out at odd times and the 15yr wants me to take her places as we are rural with poor bus services.

Work full time.
Also training and studying alongside work.
Gym and classes 4 times a week.
Walk dog every day.
2 teenagers who need driving around as live rural and no buses.
No cleaner.
Husband works full time.

I'm tired.

Me, DH and 2.5yo DS, plus two dogs and some horses. We own our own business in agriculture which keeps him busy much of the time, I’m not expecting him home before 10pm tonight anyway. I work one day a week when my DS goes to his GM for the day, my office is on the farm. Otherwise I’m a SAHM. We get up around 7, we normally do a class or activity (swimming, music, etc) in the mornings, then the afternoons are our own. We go to the beach, ride our horses, walk the dogs on the farm or in the woods, play in the garden, go to the park, all those fun things. He’s in bed asleep by 7, I go up at about 10/10:30.
I feel incredibly lucky, I love my life. I would rather like to see my husband more but you can’t have it all I suppose, and of course with the hours he works, he doesn’t do anything around the house so that’s all on me.

Overwhelming.

cant work due to my autism and I feel so frustrated . Cant really do much at all due to it and I feel like it’s really ruined my life

I have a husband, we have two children, a 9 year old and a 2.5 year old, I only work three days a week (as does he).

Work day
5:30am wake up
5:40 run with the dog or go to the gym
6:40 shower, dress, breakfast
7:00 if they’re not already awake wake both the kids up, brush the little ones teeth and supervise the older one doing his
7:15 make them both breakfast, dress the little one
7:40ish set something up for the toddler to play with so I can help our son double check he has everything for school
8:00 wake up husband with a coffee and a biscuit
8:20 walk to work
4:00 finish work and walk home
4:40 get home see how both the kids are, that our sons had a good day at school etc
5:15ish start cooking tea with an aim of eating at 6pm
6:30pm bath time/bedtime routine for our daughter
7:00 bedtime routine for our daughter
Do what I like until bed at 11:30-12ish

None work day
6:00am wake up
6:15 go for a run, gym and do some hyrox specific bits
8:00 get home and take over the children so my husband can go to work
8:10 see if son wants me to walk him to school or not
The day then varies depending if I’ve planned anything specific, or if its a library day etc, if it’s nice we’ll go on a dog walk around the park and see what animals we can spot.
3:15 our son gets home from school so see if he has any homework etc
4:30 husband gets home from work
5:15 start tea and then the same as the above.

Some evenings our son might have rugby or dance, I might have rugby, my husband might have walking football etc. Things like cleaning etc we just do a little at a time to keep on top of it. Me and my husband have fridays off together, so often we’ll use nursery that day and have a day to ourselves.

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