To ask what your life looks like at the moment?

[Mixedit]

Sort of out of curiosity and also due to wondering whether life is stressful or if I'm just a bit rubbish at coping with it - I'm asking what does your life look like at the moment. What time do you get up? What responsibilities do you have? How long do you work for? What do you do after work? What time do you go to bed? What do you do with time when you're not at work?

I feel like I barely have time to stop and can't decide if I need to change me or change the situation.

My DM has got 5 great grandchildren. She's 78. Her oldest DG is 38 😁

In a word busy. I had a really bad patch when I was in my 29’s I feel lucky to have the life I do. I get to do all these things.

at home is me (36)and DD (14). I have a partner but we live separately

6am- up, make breakfast, feed cats, pack bag for work.
6.30 - take tea to bed and read for 15 mins
6.45- shower, dressetc
7.30 leave for work
8.30/9 - arrive at the office.
Work- stressful corporate job
1.00 - if meetings allow, run 6-8km 2-3 days, take a walk with colleagues other days.
Morestressful corporate job
5.30(ish) leave office
6.30 (Tuesdays and Thursdays) do sport specific training, Wednesdays go to partners for dinner, otherwise straight home
7.30/8 - cook dinner (cook 3 portions so I have lunch next day)
9.00- 30 min super clean (washing up, laundry, hoover, cat litter etc)
9.30 -shower
10.00 - bed, read/meditate.

weekends:
9am Saturday sport training 2 hours
sunday- long run.

my sport provides a good social element. Down time is renovating my house/garden. I have sport events about 1 weekend a month on average. We try to travel as much as my bank account allows.

I feel like I have so much time now I’m not doing my masters on top of all that.

time with my daughter is one her focused activity every weekend (cinema, brunch, climbing) she also sometimes comes to train with me

I live with DH (we have grown up kids who've left home)

He's just retired early and I work freelance, so neither of us have to set an alarm which is lovely after years of having to.

My hours are pretty part time, some weeks busier than others but I make sure I have time to go to the gym/walk everyday and see some friends through the week.

Most evenings we watch tv but sometimes go on evening walks in the summer. Go to the cinema once a month. Out at weekends either visiting the dc/going to the pub etc. We go to bed at 10.

58, wife (we're both women) and 2 primary aged children, both with ASD. One at a special school and one at a mainstream. I also have an older daughter (30s) and 4 year old grandson who live in the same town and see multiple times a week.

I work full time as a palliative care specialist nurse and wife is a full time secondary school teacher.

2 cats. 1 rabbit.

We're up at 6. Feed animals and shower and dress then get children up. I do mornings, she does evenings. (She leaves earlier and I get home later). Shower children, breakfast, dress, school reading and homework for child at mainstream, housework and laundry. House is always clean and tidy before I leave.

Transport comes for child at special school at 8. Leave for other child's school at 8.40. Then I go to work. 40 minute journey.

Taking mainstream child to clubs in the evening. Evening then spent prepping for the next day. Eat something. Go for a walk. Scroll TikTok or watch a film etc. Get into bed at 9. Fall asleep at about 10.

I'm not remotely content.

Weekends I do as much overtime as I can (mortgage up by £400 a month recently) or I take child to cinema or shopping etc or wife takes them both to the beach while I stay home and garden or DIY.

Just me and my husband at home now, live in Middle East. Get up at 4.30, deal with horse and ducks, start work 7am, finish 2pm. Come home, have a nap, get up, sort pets, cook something, go to gym. Watch TV in bed. Weekends, riding, brunches, sailing, beach. Some weekends fly to Dubai to see friends.
I am at a point where I can do exactly what I want to and can afford to. Its taken 48 years, but I can honestly saying there is not one thing I would change, culturally, financially or socially. And I love my job, I work in a very male dominated field and really love my work and the work life balance.

I'm 60, live alone with my cat.

On work days, I get up at 4.45 am, feed the cat, shower, hair, make up, dress, then sort out my lunch, and make and eat breakfast, while either scrolling on my phone or reading. I do not like to have to rush or hurry in any way in the morning 😂 and I'm a natural lark.

6.20 am leave the house, bus/train/bus, then arrive at work in central London at around 8 am.

4.30 pm leave work, get home by 6 pm, sometimes later, depending on public transport.

Once I'm home, I fuss the cat, cook and eat dinner, tidy up the kitchen, maybe watch an hour of TV, then I'm in bed reading by 9 pm, lights out by 9.30 pm ready to do it again the next day.

Sounds really dull but I love my job and my colleagues, that's where the fun in my working day is!

Days off/weekends I'm awake by 5 am usually (like I said, I'm a lark!) but will make a cup of tea and bring it back to bed to drink while reading and stroking the cat. Then up around 7 am, work out, shower etc and do all the things I can't fit in in the week - seeing friends, visiting a family member in residential care, cinema, meals out, shopping, food shopping, batch cooking, cleaning, gardening, hairdressers, any bits of life admin, singing lessons, singing practice, reading ...

Work 3 days a week. Three kids.

Monday - Wednesday- go gym, visit elderly parents, clean house, occasionally meet a friend for coffee.
Thursday- Saturday- work
Sunday- see family or take kids out

Evenings- usually have a couple of social things on every month, plus book club once a month. Dh and I sometimes do a date night. Other than that I read, watch tv or do a crossword.

An interesting thread to read. For those who are not happy with your lot I really hope you find some peace and joy in your lives soon. Mine looks like this (age 48, married, 3 children between 4 and 11).

• wake up between 7am (weekday) and 10am (weekend if my husband has got up with the kids)
• school/work day I get the older 2 up, sometimes I do my youngest, sometimes my husband or our nanny
• if I’m WFH the morning is more relaxed as I take my time to log on by around 9, if I’m in the office I leave home between 8 and 8:30.
• Finish work around 6, but I have a busy leadership job so I keep an eye on things later
• i I don’t usually do dinner but sometimes if i have a quiet WFH day I’ll do something that takes a bit more time to cook
• bed for kids is around 7:30 for the little one, and around 9:30 for the older - we watch tv in the evenings, I like to read, the boys do some gaming, we try to fit in music practice. This will look different when secondary starts. Life admin is done in various spaces during the day like lunchtime
• i usually eat later once the little one is in bed. Meals all together at the table are usually either at weekends or if I’ve done a weekday roast
• bedtime from 11pm.
• at weekends there are kids sports activities and the laundry , and sorting out uniforms for the week. There’s usually something on like socialising or a plan for the park or the museum.
• on Sunday mornings in term time I sing at a church choir - that’s the day for my mum to come over and she gets my little one up and dressed. I go out early for church and on the way back I pick up my sons after their sport. Although I could otherwise sleep in on a Sunday, adding in this singing has proved essential to my wellbeing.
• we have a cleaner once a week, and the nanny on her days helps us keep up with household things. The older children have assigned tasks like dishwasher, bins, cat-feeding etc.

Live with my partner and 16mo. We are late 30s.

Wake up around 6.30am, shower, dressed, partner makes breakfast for me and baby. Eat breakfast together as a family.
8.45 take baby to nursery, then walk home and turn on laptop at 9.00.
Work until 12.00 from home.
12.00-13.30 - have lunch, go for a walk or swim. Sometimes with partner if he is also wfh.
16.00 finish work, collect baby from nursery, go home, eat dinner, play with baby, then go for a walk in the park/ swim (in summer) or watch a bit of Netflix if weather is bad, speak to family and friends on FaceTime etc.
20.00 bath time for baby
21.00 in bed, 21.30 asleep (baby awake a few times in the night so need to sleep early to feel well rested)

On weekends see friends, do day trips, have picnics in the park, clean and do laundry. Go for walks in nature. Cook Sunday roast.
We have a relatively slow and relaxed life, both our jobs relatively stress free and we try and spend as much time as possible with our 16mo. I have zero desire to have a stressful corporate job, we earn good salaries but don't feel the need to climb up the greasy pole.

51, married, dd20 at uni, dd16 at home. 1 ddog, small and very old house which will never be finished

Dh is 58, works shifts in an NHS lab for fuck all £ (gave up sales career to care for his late wife - when she passed 6 years later he was too old and nobody wanted him).

I'm self-employed so my week looks like:

Up at 6.45, drop dd to station 7.30 most days.
Work starts when it needs to, 8-9ish (either admin from home/going into work 15m away if needed on site, or teaching in a school). Whichever it is, that finishes at 3.30 then I start private teaching (from home) at 4pm every day.

Finish 5.30 most days and dash out immediately to get dd from station. Two days a week she gets back earlier and I finish teaching at 6.30/6.45.

Used to have loads of evening dance runs for dd but her timetable's changed since starting college, so nothing much taxi-wise in evenings atm. Often do a food shop.

Cook/clear up around 6-8pm.
Housework/laundry whenever I have a quick break when wfh or in short bursts first or last thing. Dh and dd happy to live as complete tramps so it's me driving it all/making them help when they're here, which they'll do.

I often have Fri mornings off but atm those tend to be taken up with physio appointments. If not, life admin/paperwork.

Weekends: visit elderly parents 2.5 hours away sometimes, occasionally catch up with friends or dd1, otherwise taxi for dd2, lots of dog walking, attempts at housework/laundry (house is a mess atm and can't afford a cleaner).

TV/phone once I sit down for the evening. Life is mentally exhausting but not enough physical exercise which won't be helping my general mood or weight. Dd1 is ND and video calls most nights as she can find workload overwhelming and gets lonely.

Bed 11-12 as a rule. Sleep till 10 some weekends where feasible.

No energy for hobbies, although I do love reading and need to make more effort to read rather than scroll FB etc!

We don't have holidays as I can't afford to take time off. Drop to part time hours in school hols which is good (most ppl don't want music lessons in the holidays). Only time off is a week at Christmas. Money is a constant concern and pension/future finances is a big worry but can't do anything much about that.