Im 5ft 2”, nobody has ever said anything to me about being short. Literally never. I’m amazed some people get weekly comments. I have a professional job and nobody has ever expressed surprise at my competence due to my job.
I don’t even particularly find the clothes thing a pain. I tend to wear dresses, if I get trousers then try for petite length but if that’s not possible I hand sew them up. It’s a 20 min job max and if’s not hard. Only thing I can’t do is jeans so I’d get them done for me.
leg lengthen surgery sounds risky. Even if it goes ok surely the risk of arthritis in later life is there.