To get irrationally irritated by waiting for latecomers when I’ve made the effort to be on time?

[Hazeby]

When you’re waiting for something to start, be it a work meeting or presentation or a school event….. “We’ll just give it ten more minutes for any latecomers and then we’ll start…”

NO!!

I may as well turn up ten minutes late myself plus how will these people learn to be on time unless it starts without them. Gives me the rage.

YANBU

I regularly deliver training and always start on time.

No, I think it’s pretty fruitless to get annoyed by this sort of thing. I don’t see what bearing it has in the grand scheme.

I think you might need to chill a bit
People get delayed for all sorts of reasons they couldn’t have avoided and it’s ten mins out of your time to give them that grace

Pkus it’s usually more disrupting if people join once it’s started to helpful to have as many present at the start as possible

Are you usually quite uptight?

I totally agree with you, they could always start as 99% of the time a cable is missing, the presenter can't log in, thy need to find a slot etc.

The classic response of people who are often late to things!

I’m not uptight generally but I’ll admit I have a thing about lateness. I don’t know why but it really pisses me off.

(And I did acknowledge in my thread title that I may be irrational about it)

I completely agree with you. Don't reward the latecomers by waiting for them

YANBU - apart from using the word "irrational" !

It is totally understandable, you are being told THEIR time is more important than yours, that you are obliged to wait for them.

YANBU and not irrational either. People who might be delayed should allow a bit extra time and suck it up if they miss the start. If an event start time is going to be difficult for several attendees to commit to then it needs to be scheduled differently.

I think we can probably all agree that never being late is hard to achieve, despite best intentions... E.g if you left 'on time' but then a road traffic accident or roadworks significantly delay you etc.

But I get the sense OP that you're talking about people who are habitually late as standard (we all know people like this!) I have friends who are always 20 minutes + later than we agreed when we meet up. It really irks me as I was taught being late routinely is poor manners. It's effectively saying "your time isn't as important as mine".

I’m never late! But I also get that people have babies who poo as they leave the house/emergency phone calls/flat tyres/heavier traffic than expected etc etc

Exactly that. The habitual latecomers. By all means crack on and be late but why do I, and a roomful of other people who were on time, have to wait for you?!

I start things on the dot and if you’re late, you have to suffer the embarrassment of disrupting everyone.

I always say ‘I bet they wouldn’t be late for a flight’. Can’t stand lateness.

YANBU- and when they stroll in clutching their takeaway coffee!!

Are you usually quite unreasonable?

92% of voters think you a) wrong, b) a PITA, and c) a self centered time waster

Agree with you. Turned up to a breed specific dog walk, on time. Hung around for around half an hour waiting for two people. Meanwhile my dog was getting stressed with being somewhere strange, people banging walking boots together (she's very scared of any bang type noises). I had just got to the stage of thinking I would have to leave when finally we set off 45 mins after the star5 time. I won't do another one. It has always made me edgy when people can't start on time or near time - ten mins wouldn't bother me too much but hanging around waiting is very stressful.

With school events it's usually that they start too early when you're still supposed to be working. You have to make a last minute dash.

this especially drives me mad for online meetings. ages spent trying to get people to click the fipping link to open the meeting. It's just so disorganised. I was a Brownie and taught be to prepared. ;)

I think there is a balance to be had. People will always be late if you have a large group. For "audience" type events, it's a good idea to give a start time 15 mins before the intended actual start because it's much less disruptive to wait than to have the first ten minutes drowned out by people getting to their seats.

For a school trip with a coach leaving to catch a plane, then no, don't wait.

And it's cumulative time lost: if you have 12 people in a room waiting for 1 person who's 10 minutes late, that's 2 hours of the company's productive time lost. Being late sometimes happens to all of us but it seems to happen to some people with remarkable regularity.

Because it’s not about you, assuming you’re not running the meeting. I wait because I don’t want to have to repeat myself, and/or, if it’s an in-person meeting or lecture, to have my train of thought disturbed by the door opening, latecomers coming in and settling themselves etc. It’s marginally less irritating to wait and not have interruptions.

As children we were taught 'Punctuality is the courtesy of kings' and I've always stuck by that and make every effort to be on time.

I was at the hairdresser last week. It’s in a town with often heavy traffic, so I always leave plenty of time, just in case, which usually means I’m early. Another stylist was waiting for a client, who strolled in 15 minutes late and complained because the stylist couldn’t do part of the appointment she’d booked. She seemed surprised when it was pointed out that if she’d arrived on time it wouldn’t have been a problem. No apology, no understanding that she was at fault.

YANBU. This happens all the time at my uni lectures. I'll usually aim to get there about 10 minutes early, so by the time we've added on an extra 10 minutes to wait for latecomers, I've been sat there twiddling my thumbs for nearly 20 minutes!

I have ADHD though and waiting is something that gets me unreasonably wound up. I just want to get on with things!

Because it’s not about you, assuming you’re not running the meeting. I wait because I don’t want to have to repeat myself, ....

Do you then overrun, so that people who have to be somewhere else have to leave before you have finished? (which is presumably also disruptive) Or do you just cut some of what you had planned to say so you can finish on time?

Haven't you been lectured about " time blindness" already? Lots of people claim to have it.