To get irrationally irritated by waiting for latecomers when I’ve made the effort to be on time?

[Hazeby]

When you’re waiting for something to start, be it a work meeting or presentation or a school event….. “We’ll just give it ten more minutes for any latecomers and then we’ll start…”

NO!!

I may as well turn up ten minutes late myself plus how will these people learn to be on time unless it starts without them. Gives me the rage.

"Traffic" is only really a genuine excuse when something particularly rare and unusual has happened such as a major accident that's blocked the road and caused severe congestion.

Busier than normal traffic due to school start/finishing times, or just general traffic volume in places that are always busy really isn't a valid excuse as it's entirely foreseeable.

YANBU!!
Lateness is my biggest pet hate! Especially when there's no real excuse for being late, just that 'oh sorry I got up late'. Nah, your time is not more valuable than mine and I won't wait for you.

There's a woman down my street who is ALWAYS late bringing her kids to school and I see them all running down the road to school 10 mins late every morning 🤦🏻‍♀️

So you're one of the ones who's always late then, clearly.

OP YANBU. People won't learn unless they miss the start of things due to being late. If the world slows down for them, they'll always take the piss, it's rude.

I agree with you. Things should start on time. It's a courtesy to be on time says someone often late herself. But I need to learn to not try and jam 101 errands into my life

How do you manage to finish on time if you wait for everyone to arrive?

"Clearly", eh?

Nope, but nice try (I guess?). I am at director level in my job which always means I have to be punctual and have two children who are never late for school.

Just because I don't get worked up about latecomers, it doesn't mean I am a latecomer myself. For me, it's an inconvenience that is overwhelmingly meaningless when all is said and done.

It's rude and arrogant and disrespectful of other people's time.

This has happened to me a couple of times, people with the appointment before me turning up late which meant that my appointment would then start and finish late too. Very annoying.

This is SO rude and really disrupts the flow of the class.

This happened in our class a lot last year, and our teacher now refuses to allow people to join late.

Your irritation is not irrational. You expect reasonable courtesy nothing more.

I host a daily call at work. It starts on time, no waiting for anyone, even the head of department. Almost no-one is ever late of the 20 or so who join the call. Perhaps because they know it will start on time.

A few minutes are usually offered on large / company wide meetings as we span every time zone and sometimes people are joining the call on their own time. But it's literally a few minutes.

We (attendees) are automatically muted on larger calls so anyone can join at any time without causing disruption.

As a rule, on smaller meetings if a client is late I'll give them about 10 minutes before messaging and asking if they are able to join the call. Colleagues get about 5 minutes!

Not all work places are that intense tbh.

As someone who is occasionally late, I'd rather you cracked on 🤷‍♀️.

Hmm...the most consistently late person I know also went to a breed-specific dog walk recently. Wonder if it was the same one and it was them who held you up!

Its incredibly self absorbed to deliberately destroy the flow of the class for everyone else like this, for your ' 5 mins' . What you call ' lame relaxing' is an essential part of the class for other people, not an optional extra. It's meditative practice that sets people in the right frame of mind for the class, starting to build that mind/body connection that many of us find so essential and beneficial in yoga. As a yoga teacher of mine used to say. ' If you are doing yoga for back or yoga for legs, you are not doing yoga'.

You should find a different class, one that is not yoga.

YANBU. It’s very frustrating. However, my daughter has ADHD and is pretty much time blind despite her absolute best efforts. It has drove me insane for years, but I realise there is nothing I can do, or she can do really. I feel sorry for her, because throughout her life people will be annoyed with her because of this, and she tries really hard to not be like this.

Absolutely, and it's usually announced with a 'ta-da' you can't say anything now, completely disregarding the affect that there lateness has on everyone as per @yellowsmileyface has given an example of.

Yes for the most part I agree with you. And I do feel disrespectful. But I don’t actually disrupt the class. Everyone else has their eyes closed and I take my shoes off outside specifically so I don’t make a noise. Also it’s a budget gym not a fancy yoga place so whilst ‘yoga’ is the class name it’s not strictly yoga in the truest sense. I also do the same with the hiit and circuits classes… my rushed 8 minute cycle there is all the warm up I need! I can’t do an hour class in a lunch hour so there’s no other option for me

It's interesting that so many latecomers on this thread have said it's because they "value their time"😂

Being consistently late is a really bad character trait

I regularly deliver training both face-to-face and remotely. I always start punctually as a courtesy to those who have arrived on time.

‘Time blindness?!’ I ask you.

But they might be in other training/ at another meeting etc? We used to have a manager who used to get really snappy and snippy about people being late, but he wouldn’t listen when we asked him to change the time because we’d have training on another floor just before his meeting

If I start late, I may have to finish late and that has a knock-on effect for other arrangements. I can only take responsibility for myself and what I am doing and not for the poor time management of others.

The fact that you justify disrupting other people cos it just suits you is awful behaviour.

Don't ever tell them that.

I would kick you out if I knew that you weren't simply useless at time keeping

Yes I hate this. At an exercise class I go to it’s always “we’ll just give everyone a few minutes to get here”. It’s so disrespectful to the people who show up on time