My Dh just said I did drugs

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My DH just said I did drugs I never did, the worst was probably a drag on my mum's (stolen) cigarette when I was about ten, I once lit a cigarette for a boy friend while he was driving many years ago. I don't, never did smoke, never have done any illegal drugs, I had friends who did weed, I didn't, I once saw people doing heroin I didn't. I feel really upset why did he say this and when I said I never did he's still saying I did, ridiculous but it seems like he's talking about someone else, he has had a few drinks. We've been together for many years where has this come from? I was in tears with my adult DD.

That’s okay my DH says I have slept with half of Skegness. He’s very much joking and I have never cried over it. Gently OP get a grip

This is a completely different scenario. OPs DH is not "very much joking" Gently, @JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam , your perspective taking skills could do with some honing!

Now that's a comeback 😂

They are both drunk and need to sleep it off.

He sounds like an awful alcoholic. Why are you married to such a lout?

It is annoying when someone says you did something you didn't as the more you protest the more you look guilty. I'd be annoyed especially in front of one of kids.

So your husband is saying you are a slut and you don't find it offensive?
How is that a joke.

So, you think if a woman has lots of sex it makes her a slut? That's pretty offensive.

Apart from being really damaging on an emotional level being accused of things that are untrue it can do other damage too.
I was a reception teacher and my alcoholic exh would say he was going to phone my head teacher and say I sexually abused the children. He was going to call the head and say I swore at the children. He’d phone SS and “report” me. Alcoholics don’t always sound drunk and while it was all utter bollocks of course such serious allegations would have had to be investigated, of course I’d have been suspended and told to leave school until I was cleared. It terrified me. Even writing it here makes me feel sick and it was decades ago.
Anyone, if their husband or partner says untrue things about them needs to think why, where this has come from and where could it go. And please never put up with it.

Well yes. If he called up her work and told them she’d done something that could wreck her career, then he might wreck her career. Also, if he smashed up her car he could damage her car.

In conclusion, if he did damaging things that he hasn’t done, then he could cause damage that hasn’t happened. But he didn’t.

Probably already been said and I haven't RTFT but maybe you both need to lay off the drink?

This. A Monday night as well. Your poor kids. Get a grip.

Firstly, experimenting with drugs when your younger is nothing for anyone to be ashamed of. Even if someone was an addict that sought help and got clean that would be something to be commended, not ridiculed.
But I understand it's touched a nerve. You know you haven't done it, and what's the worst that can happen if he thinks you did.
I'd just try and make a joke out of it. Like, haha, I wish? Why, have you got some?
He was being stupid. But please don't let it get to you too much. Don't let it become a running bone of contention.
I'm vaguely intrigued as to why he suddenly claimed that though. But I'd say just forgetting it is the best way forward.