To dig up the patio and put dh under it?

[Summerinspringtime]

*lighthearted
Obviously I won’t do it. The grounds too hard for a start!
So I’ve just returned home to find the washing machine on with all my white clothes in PLUS ds grey fleece and other none whites.
Dh has done it. I asked him what the grey item in with my whites was and he replied oh your grey fleece I guess. Turns out it’s ds’s dark grey fleece.
I have specifically told dh to not wash my white clothes after he ruined ever white item he washed previously.
He turned all my underwear a dirty grey colour and I could never restore it back to white.
So now I see my brand new white bra in there! The one I replaced my old one with after he ruined it!
Do not reply with how lucky I am to have a dh who can work a washing machine. I’ve worked 6 days this week. Dh will be off for the next 3 days.
He says I’m ungrateful.
I say he should wash only whites or leave my stuff the fuck alone.
Seriously I bought all new underwear after the last time.

YABU - you'll never get it quite level again if you dig it up, if you think he annoys you now just wait until he creates a wobbly slab on your patio.

Certain fabrics are not colour fast. Jeans are a fine example of how to ruin other stuff.

We wash our own stuff because my dh just lobs everything in on 30 for a quick wash whereas I like white colours towels bedding synthetics kitchen cloths etc to be washed at diff temps and on different cycles with varying soap amounts

Yes to this.

OP, now is the time to get serious about that rockery you were planning to put in.

Do rockery plants do ok with lime stuff? Asking for a friend.

It's studious incompetence!

I'd bury him under the patio in your grey underwear for future archeologists to come up with outlandish theories as to what happened to him 🧹

At the very least he pays to replace your ruined undergarments

XH never did the laundry. He was capable of fixing the washing machine but not of running it. He used other means to ruin my stuff, just not that one.

It's not a man thing particularly though. DM meant well but her brain (which was considerable) was usually on another planet somewhere and things got washed too long, too hot, not taken out because she'd forgotten all about them... She was a very honest person, but one of I think only 2 occasions I caught her lying was when she said she didn't know what had happened to my favourite jumper, but I found it later in her linen room, shrunk to buggery. (Yes, she had a linen room. My folks had pretensions.) Conversely, when DS2 lived with me he did all his own laundry and never had an issue. He didn't do mine because... ladies' underwear... ooh 😳

No.

I may or may not have ruined my search history on your behalf 😬

Thanks for all the replies. We have been out so I’ve only just read through them all.
You lot have made me chuckle.
Dh has apologised.
I will not be digging any time soon.
However dh has fallen asleep, just before the football kicks off. I’m undecided whether to wake him up or leave him in which case he won’t see the football!
As to how he shrank the bedding, well I think he washed it on a high temperature. He did actually shrink his own shirt that time too so I’m guessing that’s what happened.

Let him sleep, poor lamb must be so tired from all the laundry.

Absolutely not being unreasonable.
Tell him never to put the washing on again.
I know it's more for u but he can do a different chore instead I think.
I don't want my husband putting on washes because he wud do the same as urs.

How big are bins in the UK?

Are you in couples therapy?? There was a poster the other day with the same issue!

I have made this mistake myself now and again. Also I have accidentally left tissues in pockets which is almost worse, and I have shrunk clothes. The latter is because I deliberately ignore 'dry clean only' labels cos I don't want to pay for it - usually it is fine to put alleged dry clean only items in a cold wash. I accept the odd ruined garment as a strategic hazard, on the grounds it is still cheaper than dry cleaning everything. Fortunately for me, I am not male so therefore I forgive myself all my laundry sins. My DH either doesn't notice or doesn't care about them.

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YABVVU to dig up a whole patio. It's much easier to just dig a deep hole, deposit what you will, put a layer of dirt over and then be kind and bury some roadkill. Put more dirt on top. Plant some endangered and protected plants on top.

Now any sonar radar will see the roadkill when looking, and it will be against the law for them to dig up the plants.

You are welcome! 😉😎😇

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I would be annoyed - it’s not rocket science!! Just show some care and attention please and get it right.

How the hell can you shrink bedding? Most is poly cotton and pretty bomb proof.

Because it looks rank and she doesn't like that? The point is that she has asked him not to do it repeatedly and he has ignored her. People who don't pay attention to the little things that matter to their partners deserve to be single.

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Colour catchers are your friend for sure. I only discovered them this year and they are amazing! I use a lot less electricity now as DD and I don't create much washing and now I don't have to separate it's even better!

I washed a navy blue poly cotton sheet at 30 deg, it had been washed a number of times before and I thought it was safe to put an old white nightie with it and some pillow cases. All the whites are now slightly blue grey. It doesn’t matter at all but that’s how you do it.

Big enough if you fold the contents up!