To dig up the patio and put dh under it?

[Summerinspringtime]

*lighthearted
Obviously I won’t do it. The grounds too hard for a start!
So I’ve just returned home to find the washing machine on with all my white clothes in PLUS ds grey fleece and other none whites.
Dh has done it. I asked him what the grey item in with my whites was and he replied oh your grey fleece I guess. Turns out it’s ds’s dark grey fleece.
I have specifically told dh to not wash my white clothes after he ruined ever white item he washed previously.
He turned all my underwear a dirty grey colour and I could never restore it back to white.
So now I see my brand new white bra in there! The one I replaced my old one with after he ruined it!
Do not reply with how lucky I am to have a dh who can work a washing machine. I’ve worked 6 days this week. Dh will be off for the next 3 days.
He says I’m ungrateful.
I say he should wash only whites or leave my stuff the fuck alone.
Seriously I bought all new underwear after the last time.

It's not about washing is it? It's about that he cares so little about you, that he's not prepared to invest a second of his time in to thinking about not doing something that he knows will make you unhappy. He either has no interest in what you say and thus didn't listen. Or he has no interest in your feelings, heard you, and doesn't care. If I like someone, I want to contribute to their happiness.

Try washing a label that says 40°C at 90°C then tumble dry that polycotton non iron sheet on a high setting

Scammersarescum is right, its called 'weaponised incompetence' and men think its hilarious.

Yabu to do it alone. It will be much quicker with two. I'm free (not watching football)

Ruin the whites, laundry detergent as gravy for their Sunday dinner.

I don't think this is lighthearted. There's no respect for you and your possessions. And as for telling you you should be grateful - for what exactly?? For ruining your clothes and sheets?

In what other ways does he think he's a prince? How much does he see the household chores and mental load as your work and if he does some of it you should bow and scrape and profess eternal gratitude?

Sorry OP, but when I got to the bit where he says you should be grateful my blood started to boil.

Put up a sing about Whites only washed together
Change it occasionally to prevent lack of familiarity.
Or could he remember to leave that one colour alone.
Do not wash my whites!!!
I put a bra in the drier and the hook was stuck hard in the cylinder...omg.
Now I remember the laundry drier bag!

I suspect there will be a power cut at that time.

@AlienShmalien you are a genius.

@Summerinspringtime I’m just going to the shed to get my space, I’ll be with you shortly.

Our next door neighbour does drives maybe he has a ground breaker.

Can you return the favour and shrink a favourite jumper "by accident". This led to dh doing his own washing and miraculously learning how to use the machine correctly more often.

Maybe his England shirt could be in he wash with something g Spanish-coloured just when he goes to put it on…

This is the second recent post I’ve seen on MN about a man not being able to get this right. Why? Washing machines are machines. Aren’t big manly men supposed to be brilliant with machines? Also: how are they holding down a job if they can’t get something this basic right?

Sorry about your clothes, mate.
My DH would be under the patio about 20 times already.😂
He is three decades older, can work a washing machine (insisted on buying the latest most complicated model), however, last time I found him cheerfully washing his white cotton hankies with black socks and briefs.
Doesn't think there's anything wrong with that. ☕

Maybe they are not "big manly men" 😛

Wow!

Do you need a hand, I have a big spade!

AIBU to not understand where people are getting all this non-colourfast clothing from?

🤣🤣🤣

😂😂

On plus side, a grey hoodie that's been washed multiple times is not likely to do anything to your white washing (a brand new hoodie, never washed before... different story).

But yes, totally agree. It's not helpful if the chore they do is done badly and just creates more work.

Don't worry about the ground being to hard I'll bring my rotovator over and give you a hand, I want to put my exH in there too.

Meh 🤷‍♀️ not really patio territory.

This, 100%.

He needs natural consequences, like a toddler. It's the only way he'll learn.

So his job now is to fix it, that means buying new replacements for everything he's ruined. He can look at the labels for sizes and makes, don't do it for him. It's his fuckup to fix.

If he wrecks stuff, and you shout about it, but then you fix it, of course he'll just shrug and say it's no big deal. Because it's not, is it, to him? He's not been inconvenienced at all and the housework fairy has fixed it all.

I never separate whites, never had things shrink - I have one white sheet that's years old that looks as if the colour is a bit off.
Maybe if he just learned not to select a boil wash for everything?