Parents who cant say no

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Inspired by another thread, AIBU to think there is a growing trend of parents being unable to say no to their children? They cry/scream/theyre sad so I just gave in. Cue children who lack resilience and can’t cope when they don’t get their own way.

If you’re that parent then why?!

They got rid of sweets at the checkouts because of pester power ( remember that saying 😂) My youngest son used to use that phrase tongue in cheek when he was told no 😂

There’s a difference between not saying no and permitting any behaviour.

As a teacher, I see the consequences of the latter a lot. I have to deal with children turning up wearing whatever they want, with toys, unbrushed hair because their parents cannot deal with the meltdowns they encounter when they say no. Sure, some ND children find these things harder but for many (ND and NT) it’s just simply permissive parenting and lack of routine.

I need to teach a class of 30 children not spend time explain to a child they can’t wear slippers or high heel sandals outside at playtime or wear a winter hat that wiggles around inside during July, whilst they scream no in my face.

Children have tantrums and want things - that is going to happen with children - but it is our job as parents to say actually you can’t because it’s unsafe/not the time/not your choice because I’m the grown up here and it’s my job to help you become a responsible, decent person who understands about safety and being around other people.

But these parents don’t want to be unpopular. Then they are the first to complain if school imposes a boundary.