To be in tears after dentist visit?

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I have 2 chronic diseases, one impacts a lot on my joints. During lockdown I was in a lot of pain and had trouble brushing. The plaque build up was quite awful but I plucked up to go and I saw the hygienist as a follow up. It was pretty awful and I gagged a bit during it.
So that was a year ago and today I went back for an annual check up. Dentist knows about my conditions, asked me why I didn't floss (It's too painful and I have said this before) why have I not booked in sooner? Because I wasn't told to do so and 'The tartar build up has got really bad again on one side, you're not brushing properly and seeing us just once a year is not good enough. You need to be seeing us a lot more regularly.'
He made me feel dirty and like a naughty school girl. Also, I have been trying so hard with my teeth, spend at least 5 minutes morning and night on them so I don't understand why this is happening. What's more I had a good look in the mirror and yes there is some build up but certainly not awful or really bad as he says. I have to go back in a few weeks and really don't want to.

My son has a medical condition and it effe to his teeth. My usual dentist has been horrible about it. I took him to my husband dentist today and they where so nice to him. The poor boy possibly needs an adult molar removed and then suggested braces to fill the gap in a few years time. They listened and reassured us both. Kept telling him how amazing he was and brave. (I know you are an adult and not a child) but they where very nice to me. My son can't wait to go back.

My husband used them as he is petrified of the dentist. He has the same condition as my son. But as he is scared of the dentist he never went to the point he now has all Implants. Before he had the implants and he finally found the courage to go they where amazing with him and he was happy to go back again to maintain until time for implants

It's the bedside manner. Some have it. Some don't. We are sticking with the new dentist and we couldn't be happier.

Kindness goes along way. Especially at the dentist as it will effect how often a person goes instead of putting it off.

This is so unhelpful of the dentist. If someone has disabilities or health problems that make it difficult for them to clean their teeth or leaves them vulnerable to problems, help finding solutions is better than shaming and embarrassing them.