To find this really weird and annoying

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Even if I am being unreasonable, I think I should get some credit for my diagram, which I am super proud of.

We live in a small neighbourhood full of older retired people who seem very concerned with our garden weeds and (perfectly legal) parking and whether our bins are visible etc. Mentioning age incase it's a generational thing; mentioned their concerns as it explains why they visit frequently. We also live in a bungalow, on an estate full of bungalows. We're in a cul-de-sac, right at the end, with nothing to one side of us except a dead end. We are quite young with a new baby and a not quite perfect garden, but we're genuinely not awful neighbours and our house is clean and tidy inside and out; it just isn't Privet Drive standards because we're busy.

For some reason, when our neighbours need to collect a parcel, or helpfully remind us to use weed killer on the 3 dandelions on our lawn, they always use our back door. To do this, they need to walk past our perfectly good front door (which we always use), and past our bedroom and bathroom windows. Our garden is really private and so we should technically be able to shower without the blinds closed and merrily walk around our bedrooms naked, but this habit of the neighbours seems really intrusive and stops me dancing around my bedroom, breasts akimbo. Our neighbours are well aware of they layout of our house because theirs are all identical. I don't know if they are trying to get their steps in or just be nosy, but it seems really unneccessary to do this, and I'm super annoyed by it. DP is unbothered by it. I realise the solution is to put a gate on the side of our house but I'm on maternity leave and money is tight.

So, is this a normal thing people do and IABU, or is this weird?

Op that second diagram just made my day! Hilarious

Don’t answer the back door and if they complain say “oh were you at the back door? Sorry, we don’t use that for visitors so I didn’t register your knocking as I didn’t expect it!”

Put something in the way so they either can’t physically get around the back, or have to go to the lengths of moving or climbing over whatever it is. If they do that, you know you’re dealing with more than just ‘I’m used to going around the back’.

Stop taking in parcels, and next time they complain about your garden tell them it’s how you like it and you’ve no intention of using toxic substances just to get rid of a dandelion or too. Bees need flowers.

I’d put a sign up on the side gate- something along the lines of please use the front door not the back door, see if that does anything. If not if you have a gate you might have to put a bolt that can’t be opened from the other side across, that only you can open from inside the garden

Wow! Excellent diagram op ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Is it bad I’m hoping you may have some parking issues in the future so we get another? 🤣🤣

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When I was a child a lot of our neighbours would prefer that people used the back rather than the front door. The front door usually opened onto a hall, with decent carpets, and then into the formal areas of the house, whereas the back door was kitchen / utility room, and for informal / everyday stuff. Possibly something to do with growing up in a village with no pavements; popping round to a friend's would usually mean shoes were not very clean on arrival, so just more considerate to go to the back door.

Stop answering the back door and they will soon get the message 😁